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how are you doing...getting any better yet? |
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too soon... but I can walk... I can work and I can post |
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its true, its true. Last week I made a ritual of saying 10 times to myself that she had left me for ever, I got as far as 6 and coudln't continue for crying. When I can make it to 10 i will know I am coming to terms with the pain. Fuck the pain, how much does it hurt?? |
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Fuck the world over. "Dry your eyes" by the Streets has just started playing on my iTunes. .... |
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indeed fuck the pain... why doe it have to hurt so much? I dont know but I feel so empty... and so alone even though my friends are with me |
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well, that's a cool think to do...to do something to divert you thoughts...actually that's one of the reasons i have so many points, coz when i post here i don't think of unpleasant things im currently going through. good to see you around! |
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this song will epitomise this time of my life. |
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a cool thinG to do...ahh |
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My friends are here, but there are none I want to hug as much as my ex. Aw shucks how much do I miss: hugs; her head on my shoulder at night; holding hands in the street; a stollen stare caught over a room knowing that she's mine....it goes on, and on. All gone. I've got to go dudes. Too much to think about while at work. |
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You poor fellows. I know how you feel. It sucks major balls. |
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exactly how I feel |
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My girlfriend finished it last night after 10 months. I've never cried so much in my life, but i knew it was coming. My plan is to stay as far away from sober as i can for a while. Much beer + DJ Saskrotch - Broken Needles.mp3 = good medicine. |
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deep space> that's what i did for about 2 months... and i hate to say it but... drinking helped VERY much. |
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Yeah, beer and weed cheers me up. I don't want to think about anything at the moment... shame, cos i have a psychiatrist appointment on monday and exams in a couple of weeks. Brain = off = good. For a while anyway. |
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Nacco: try that if it helps. |
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reading it. thanks |
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Must be something in the air - Me and my girlfriend of 3 years have just split up - We actually split last september, but never really cut the ties, so ended up in some kind of limbo and still felt like we were together - But this time it feels pretty final... What's tough is that my lifestyle changed so much since being with her - Haven't been out drinking or seeing friends so much in the last few years - I feel like I've changed as a person - And now it's like I've lost a part of myself. Still, it feels better to know there's other people who can relate - The emptyness always makes me feel so detached from everyone else... I can't imagine my future now - Just feels like one big loose end.. (Got a feeling it'll involve getting stoned a lot) The wierd thing is - Now I feel like I need to settle down and get married with some kind of urgency - That's a new one on me to be honest. Also, I can't remember if I always felt this empty before I was with her, or if I was content - I think a bit of both - But it's hard to remember clearly. |
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Empty? kind of lost touch with alot of friends as you have spent so much time with your lady?...tell me about it!! That marriage feeling is getting me too. How old are you? I spent 7 years with mine and I'm 28 now. I just don't want to spend 5 years getting to know another girl again and then split. I need some certainty right now, but I don't want to rush in and get burned. Uh, man, it's the shitest. Holdtight swift we'll all pull through somehow. Let's make a pack that we don;t go jumping of balconies or anything stupid. deal? |
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deal |
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Sorry I missed this thread when you originally posted it. Anyway, I can tell by reading your posts for the last few years (!) that you're a genuinely nice and good person. And I'm a pretty firm believer that good people end up happy. So I know it hurts right now, but everything will work out for you. |
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thanks really |
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Hehe absolutely - I'm 24 now - Got with her when I was 21 - Was just coming to the end of my mad partying phase I guess. Yeah, I definetly feel I need that certainty in my life now - I really don't want to go through the whole routine of going out all hours and trying to impress women - I find the right girls always come out of nowhere, and I hate not being able to control when and where it'll happen next - I've "settled" a little too much since then I guess. Shame we don't all live down the road from each other - We could go for a drink and have a good ol' moan! The thing is, this'll either kick me into gear, and make me sort my life out.. or it won't atall - I just don't know right now - I feel alright for half an hour, then it hits me again... I often wondered why Johnny Depp used to marry every girlfriend he had within a few months - I can see why now! I feel like taking a leaf out of his book. |
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28 here 4 years with her |
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I wonder where do ppl find decent girls these days? For me, I never got anywhere going out and meeting girls at bars or clubs - Always get fed up and turn my attention to drinking, even though I think I often used to go out with the intention of meeting the right girl. I guess all of my relationships have been through friends of friends - The girl I just split with, I actually met at my old dealers' house... Pot head girls always seem to get on with me.. Watching those make-over shows, where they make people walk up to complete strangers in bars or at the supermarket puts the fear in me! I really hope it never comes to that! My best friend actually met his g/f over the internet (the other side of the world) - I kind of think it'll become more and more the normal thing to do over the next few years. I think what makes me feel worse this time round is that she's already found someone else - So I think it's hit me harder - In the past we'd always break up, stay in contact, and drift back together. |
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Us too. We used to have an argument say to each other we were leaving and then split but call each other and get back together after a week. This time it is different as she has found someone new in Africa and it would appear she is really fond of him. I can't help but feel she is loving the attention after having spent so long with me and us dirffting back together is very remote as her mind is now on forging a new start. It all fills me with self-doubt. I just don't even have the energy to go out and pull anymore. Shit, I never really enjoyed that in the first place, as I really like talking and clubs etc just aren't conducive for in depth chatter. Oh bugger! Balls! Arse! Why??? |
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friend of a friend is the best way really. |
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Who deleted bill_hicks' post and what did it say? |
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Quernstone "as I really like talking and clubs etc just aren't conducive for in depth chatter" I spend a lot of time at clubs and raves and shit and most of the girls (actually... all of them?) in the past few years have been met there. Yes it's shit for conversation. It sucks. I would MUCH rather be able to sit down and just chat to hit on girls. * Just walk up to them and tell them they're gorgeous and smile and see what they say. This is the stupidest thing in the world, I'm convinced but I got my last gf from doing this and it's only failed me like ... once? (two weeks ago and I had competition - this other dude was after her, fair play he beat me. The cunt.) * another thing which usually works is (and this won't apply to everyone) after raves we usually have someone's house to head back to. befriend the girl, ask her what she's up to afterwards, get her to come back for a few drinks. I usually drop pills after raves, but ..... yeah whatever. * Or you can just tell one of her friends to let her know she's hot. This is fucking cheap but who cares. If she likes you she'll disgregard it. Probably. Although having said this I am not the fucking god of picking up women, just thought I'd share some shit while my song uploads. |
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odstepcloak: I used to do it but the thought of the meetings I had and what I got out of them was not amazing in my personal experience. And shit I am older now and the thought of going back to pilling it at the weekends seems like astep backwards. To be honest I am not sure I want a girl who raves at the weekends, my geriatric body can;t take it anymore :o). I think pseudo-intelectual wank chatter is more my bag these days. I feel pretty bloody grown up right now. I was literally a few months away from buying a house and getting my shit together before this nasty bomb dropped out of the sky. Cheers for your thoughts though, I know they are an option....which I might have to take up somewhere down the line. |
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i'm in a post-pills, want-to-meet-a-girl-with-a-level-head-kind-of-mood these days too. Looks like i'm getting seriously attracted to my ex though... ... trouble ahead. |
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keep us posted, 2 of my mates have got back with thier ex's and are doing fine, in fact better than before. I would be really happy for you if you can pull it off too, I however, am fucked :o(. |
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Sorry dude, she likes me better |
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nacmat sir, the heart has an uncanny ability to heal with time, even when aforementioned ability is so incredible it offends us, because it seems to make us fools. the bloody gash will clot, and what was a flashing pain will gradually dissolve into a dull ache that resonates aesthetically on the occasional quiet sunday afternoon. |
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Man, I'm in exactly the same boat - She seems so positive now in her new relationship... She came over today - Just left actually - I've been trying to make some sense of the whole thing - In the past I've tried to cut her off when things haven't been going well, but this time I just can't let go.. I'm kind of holding on to the thought that we'll get back together if/when her new relationship fails. I know you're not meant to think like that, but the thought of letting go just leaves me with such a bleak outlook on life. The good thing is I'm going to go out a lot more and catch up with all my old friends - But I still feel bitterly alone and just want to spend every wakeing, and sleeping, moment with her now. I wish I could be happy on my own - I really admire girls who have that carefree independance.... I remember all those nights out drinking and free parties, but I also remember a feeling of emptiness I think I always used to carry around - I feel like maybe everyone has that, and I've just lost the one person who can fill that void. Anyone relate to the feeling of coming home to the same four walls after a great night out, and feeling utterly alone? Shit, I haven't felt like this in so long. And the worst bit is, if I ever realized how much I loved her when we were together, I'd have done so much more to make things work. |
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how is it possible that she doesn't love you anymore nacmat? your the greatest! |
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Last night I came to the conclusion that she died a death in her own lifetime. Fucking wierd, but I can't relate the feelings that I am going through to anything other than those of a bereavement. My hope lies in that I have got over deaths before. I know tommorrow might bring hope. That is the light at the end of the tunnel. It won't always be like this. |
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Oh shit! I'm sorry for that nac :-( I read this topic just now, I didn't know about these problems. It's really hard when you lose a person who you're falled in love, and 4 years together aren't a joke. You have to be strong and you should try to have a positive view of the situtation, I'm sure your Spanish friends there, Xltronic buddies, Electronic music, the European Championship will help you to pass this bad period. Then there's a positive thing in all this story... now you will not listen chill out / loung music more but you will listen Venetian Snare & Co. everytime you want... ;) (i remember she liked that kind of music) I hope you will pass this bad period faster as possible. |
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thanks my friend, really thanks I feel better, I am really sad, but I feel I can exist on my own |
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Great, you're the man :) |
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last two days have beeen the worst... Ihope I dont have many more days like those in the future today I feel better... but i ve been in hell this week |
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:( damn, why is it so damn hard to forget about a person...it's just terrible...it's hard to make a commintment to someone knowing how hard it can be if it doesn't work out...damn, human nature... |
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where's my message? i posted it. once again. I haven't experienced this. Hard to understand. But anyway, carry on, if that's of any help for you (i doubt that). |
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Exactly, I am now in a horrible limbo. I still feel very strongly for my ex. Will I forget those feeling if I find somebody new? I have spent 1/4 of my life with her, we are virtually joined at the hip. We know each others every trait. I now I MUST move on as a single man again, it's been a long time though, so I am damn rusty. |
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"Will I forget those feeling if I find somebody new?" i can say for myself that i get attached so much it seems like impossible to forget...well, it gets a lot less painful after a while, but i can't forget...ahh |
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the word is "pain" but one thing keeps me alive: I know some day in the future I will be happy again but that helps me so little now |
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Nacco: Did you check the song 'dry yoru eyes mate' by the streets? |
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Tolstoyed: What's the deal here bruv? unrequited love? Were you dumped too in the past and still not over it? |
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Yeah! I've been listening to that song - And Too Late, off the first album - Seems sort of relevant. I'm actually getting a lot out of listening to Alice in Chains at the moment. I tried repeating to myself that she had left me for good - I couldn't even make myself say it once. Have you guys kept in regular contact with your ex's? I'm talking to mine a few times a day on the phone - Although it feels good at the time, I can't tell if it's making things worse. |
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I'll check "Too late" now. I am living with mine until she moves out at the end of the month. We speak most evenings but basically she avoids being at home. This period is very hard to bear but it is kind of softening the blow as at least I can realise these are the last few times I will ever see her. It's tough, but I'm gonna make it without drugs or religion..... |
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Although I've never lost someone like that I can imagine how you feel. Just the thought of losing my girlfriend makes me go crazy. |
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