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hehehe or that I hope |
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Man, how are ya doing? Hope this shit is getting better. i'm STILL getting over my ex. I hear bits about her, she's got a car now, she's stopped working at the factory and she's back at her old job with the old man who used to try and grab her, she's sorry, she knows it's her fault, she wants to talk to you, she wants to be "friends". I know what you mean when it's hard when they won't just stay completely out of it. The saddest thing is that I found something that helps a lot..... by turning me into a colder less caring person in general. |
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to 300, and beyond!! |
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for these sentiments I worry a lot. I feel I have become not only numb but also slightly maltreated. I think my skin will develop a thick texture and maybe I will not be able to love once again without jealously and innocence; which must surely be the purest love of them all. |
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thats tough u have to choose, wear skin or wear metal i wore metal once, nothing hurts, it was easy, but it was not enough now i wear skin, everything hurts, its hard, but deep and worth it uh, a fucking tough choise |
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My first and only (I'm 26) girlfriend of over one year just broke up with me a little over an hour ago here in my apartment. I'm currently listning to Neutral Milk Hotel's "In the Aeroplane Over the Sea" and drinking. "What a beautiful face I have found in this place that is circling all round the sun..." |
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She was my best and ONLY friend. I am all alone again. |
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im sorry to hear that...damn...life sucks... |
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Being numb is the worst thing you can really do but sometimes it's just a shell you gotta put up. I think it can be removed later. I think. |
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cold blooded demons |
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time a good healer. hope u feel better soon mate and hope it works out for you |
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time doesn't heal a fuckin thing. |
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one wise man once said "time doeasnt heal anything, it just teaches us how to live with that" |
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So sorry to hear that too - You've come to the right place(!) - Exactly how it's been for me - I definetly feel I've lost my best friend aswell. The feelings of loneliness do seem to fade - I still feel like I've lost a part of myself, but I also feel I need to rebuild what I've got left. Although this has been a hard time - I do get something out of these extremes of emotion and things.. Even though I don't knowingly appreciate it at the time - Sometimes these things can make me feel really alive. I look back at times in the past when I've been really hung up over a girl, never quite like loosing a serious relationship, but loosing a girl I've really liked, or having her move away - And I don't look back at those times with a dark/depressed perspective - It's always a real feeling of life and uncertainty. |
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i like the things ive learned from that p.s. listening to low-diamond and just as im writing this it goes "try to learn from the past" xaxax they r definitely my band |
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Time does not heal. You just learn to forget, some can do this easier than others. At 28 and after 7 years together, I will never forget. I have played my cards badly and now I must suffer the consequences. There are no second chances. if you feel the need for some fucking cool new sounds. |
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since we broke: june: 5- we finished our relationship of 4years (and 2 months) 6- I call her at night, nice talking 7- morning. I feel like shit and call her like 3 times, finally I go to her workplace and we talk, we must take some distance 8- 9- she calls me at night, nice talking. 10- 11- 12- 13- 14- 15- 16- I talk to a friend of hers and its very bad for me, I feel like shit again and I call her at night... so so, not bad, not good, I notice she is miles away from my heart already 17- I call her in the morning and in the afternoon. both are nice calm down talking 18- 19- 20- 21- 22- 23- 24- its been a week since I last called her... I hope I can be strong one more week now... i cannot call her cos whe will feel I am all hang of her.... but I am really that way... anyway I was able to spend a week without calling her... so that gives me some hope in my recovering (she called me the 24th at night) 25 26 27 28 29 30 1 today: one week since she called me, two weeks since I last called her. I feel bad today, I miss her bad anyway I still wish we were together again |
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I do worry, that since this isn't the first time I've been here (had one previous relationship which I took a long time to get over), maybe I am less able to express love and affection - Maybe that is why this one didn't work out... I feel like I've had some kind of emotional block or defense mechanism put up - And maybe that's why I'm dealing with this better... Although it's hard because this relationship, although unhealthy in some ways, did feel like it'd last forever. On the other hand, I think when the right girl comes along at the right time in life, it'll all fall into place - Hopefully I'll have found enough happiness in myself by then, and maybe that's the only way to be truely content in a relationship... Hope you guys are all feeling better soon! I made the mistake of using her pillow the other night, and end up dreaming of her all night. |
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sorry, nac...it will take some time. if you were together 4 years, it will take two years before you can date again. i got that from "sex in the city". =] |
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lol thanks |
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sorry guys... but today I feel that I cant handle this... its just too much... I cant I dont know what to do... but the way I feel .... I need to go through this soon... I want time to go fast please |
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why don't you smoke some pot...when it's the worst that always helps...just get stoned silly...well at least that's what i do...it doesn't solve anything in long term ofcourse but helps you get through thoughest time... |
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i dont think that's the bestest of advice |
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well, it helps me...it's best for instant change of thoughts. |
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well that's nice but i can imagine that you could feel worse from it, like it feels it magnifies you problems |
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well, you have to start doing something that make you feel better...like reading stuff on this mb or something :) |
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:) |
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Weed got me through my first bad break-up - To be honest, it did seem to help a lot! And I would be smoking now if I didn't have some dodgy cold and all this seasonal allergy stuff to deal with... I have a few buds in my studio though, and just the thought of getting stoned seems to be getting me through life right now - I downloaded the Jamiroquai Space Cowboy video 'cos it always connects me to those good vibes(!). I guess marijuana is my one true love - I left her about 2 years ago when I thought she was f**king me up - Dizziness, lung spasms and wierd thoughts - Things didn't get any better and now I realise it was a seasonal allergy all along... (I might try and turn that into a song - Maybe I'll sell the lyrics to Mike Skinner!) |
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Ah I know that feeling of not being able to cope - I really feel for you(!) - It hasn't exactly gone for me yet, but it is becoming less frequent - Still there are good days and bad days... I usually go for a drive or a walk and listen to some different music when I feel like that - Usually late at night and away from people and traffic - Anything to take your mind off it for a while and get some clear space.. Breathing exercises too - Lying down and focusing on long deep breaths from the bottom of the navel, filling up smoothly to the top of the lungs.. The idea is to exhale for a little longer than you inhale - Maybe up to twice as long - And keep the breath flowing, so it's never held, and you exhale fully... I can get it down to 2 complete breaths a minute now - So one breath every 30 seconds... It has a direct effect on your subconsious - Completely clears your mind. |
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sorry that I bump this so many times... but one month later I cant still believe that she doesnt love me... I just cant get over it |
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hey, its okay this thread is a lot better than all the goth talk and misc spam around. if you wanna talk just do it, itll help. |
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*Graces everyone with her presence* Waiting for comments and spelling or grammar corrections. |
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nacmat. get a haircut, get some new clothes. buy some nice aftershave and get out there and get some nice new fucking pussy. take a look outside. the place is teaming with fine looking young sweet assed chicks just ready to be fucked. i'm sure with a little bit of sweet talk you soon be up to your nuts in guts again. |
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all that doesn't have much to do with his heart, does it? |
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fuck heart. i've been chucked by more women than i care to remember. and from experience, the best way to get over it is to chat up some young tight assed floozy, give her a bit of the old bill_hicks charm, invite her home and then give her a good fucking seeing to with little bill. That will soon snap him out of all this self pitying crap that we have to put up with. GET SOME FUCKING PUSSY NACMAT! |
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Work help you to forget much faster. When you work hard after something like that, you just ignore it. This is what happend to me, its a bad thing. And Bill Hicks, good shit.. |
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bill hicks has a point but tolstoyed too I feel I am loosing the girl of my life... thats how I thought of her everyday of my last 4 years... no tight ass is gonna make me forget that... only a real great woman could... but now its time to be alone some time |
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Relationships on the rebound don't work and only end up hurting the other person so ignore bill's laddish goading. Find solace in your friends and you will find love once again. |
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The offers still open if you want me to come over and beat her up for you? ;oD We love you nacmat, and if you ever need a holiday I'm sure most of us will be able to give you a place to stay xxx |
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I have sworn I would never love another but people keep on teling me I will and it will happen when I least expect it. The strange thing was the other day I met a Polish girl who was so beautiful I kind of got a bit of my feeling back. She is not the one for me becuase she is way out of my league, but I realised there really are soem amazing women out there who just need to be found. She is the first light at the end of the tunnel. For now I am sticking to the company of friends and family to keep me sane and give me time to refelect on what has happened and what I now want. I am also keepign busy and have started the business with the Polish builders. it coudl go so wrong but also so well. Who knows. Keep the faith Nacco. We'll pull though. |
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I'm currently celebrating my one-week "aniversary" of my girlfriend dumping me. Malt Liqour in one hand and the sweet sounds of Broken Social Scene in my ears. She's called me twice since she brokeup with me. She still wants to be friends. I want that too, considering she is the only friend I have, but I don't know if I can do it - especially considering the fact that she left me for another guy (motherfucker lives like 4 apartments down from her - where I used to spend most nights, her in my arms upstairs in her bedroom...), although I don't think she cheated on me or anything. |
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thanks p0g0! that was very nice of you. ok expect me there in 2 days (jk) now seriously, thanks a lot |
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Nacco: How's it going now? Feeling any better? hav eyou manged to talk to her normally? The last time I posted I was kind of in a refreshed mood and trying to get things together. Things have got bad again though. It has been 4 months now and I still can't get my ex out of my mind. I think about her all the time, literally all the time. It's fucking me up seriously. |
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2 months for me now (almost) I am better... trying to concentrate in my things and not think much about her but I would give an arm to be with ehr again I just prefer not to think much about it really |
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oh and thanks for asking I hope you get better again soon. we have to learn to be happy by ourselves and also we must understand that maybe these girls were not the ones meant to be our women for the rest of our lives good luck |
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hehe you're more than welcome I've been very impresed with everyone I've met from here so far and I'm sure you won't let the side down =oD Although the weather's crap here atm so I'd hang on a week or two ;o) |
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you forgot the follow up but I know what post you are answering to ;) |
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I knew you'd know ;op |
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hi nacmat. sorry to hear about this. i've been coming on the board for a long time (although only posting sporadically) and you've always been one of the best personalities on here. take care of yourself. i feel your pain. the thing to remember is the very fact that you are feeling this pain is symptomatic of the fact that you have a soul, sensitivity and are capable of loving someone. i genuinely believe a lot of people can't do that. you have a good heart and you will love again. |
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really thanks. your words specially tonight mean a lot to me. I am stoned, but I understood the heart of your post, and it made me feel fine |
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