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I seem to be getting psycological tricks played on me by my housemates and anything i tell them they don't believe. I know they are pissed off with me about some stuff i did, which i owned up to BUT grrrrrrrr! It's like in future i shouldn't fucking say anything. I am now stuck in a situation that i don't like but i can't really do anything without offending someone with my actions. Grrrrr. Sorry i needed to say something. |
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it's all good. can you be more specific? |
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I don't really have much time as i am back in reading and having to use net cafe's and shit. What can i be more specific about? |
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what you did that was so bad.. etc. i don't really understand what the problem is, excatly. |
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Tell us the "shit" that you "owned up to". You didn't knock one out in the milk, or defecate behind the radiator or something? |
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indeed! |
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I built up my harem by taking shits behind select radiators and micturating in select soft drinks. |
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AH ok... WHat i did: I didn't much around the house for a while because i most of the mess was not made by me so i thought well why should i do it, it isn't mine. I also used a bit of my housemates food because i was starving. I understand that might anny people i took the flack for that no problem. But it has ended up being translated yesterday when i got back that i was using loads of their food when in reality it wasn't much. Next thing: Just before new years i got mugged about ten minutes from my house, my housemates were at a party that night so i couldn't call them or anything. I let a note saying that i had an odd night and stuff and another apology about my behaviour. The next day, i get the same shit from the same person who mugged me the night before. So when i got home i packed some stuff and left to go and stay with some friends because i don't really like feeling unsafe. When things like this i tend not to think in a rational way because of fear so i forgot to tell them where i was, i sent a message on new years. Saying that i hope they have a good time. When i got back yesterday, i got accused of fabricating the mugging story so i could go and that i was trying to make them feel bad. They also think i am hiding stuff from them. I also know because they told me that they perform psycology on me by trying to get to me make inaccurisies in my words to call everythinbg that i say bullshit. Ok so is it me or should i not feel like i am being put under pressure. My head as it is, is already at braking point with other things that i am trying to sort out. I am starting to question what the hell is going on here, starting to doubt myself more than ever. Wtf??!! |
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i wouldn't want to live with that kind of people myself.. |
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Division of labor/chores and food eating are pretty big deals in a roomate environment. Violations always lead to conflict. I believe your mugging story but if you have been bending other rules in the house, your roomates probably don't even want to hear about it. Stop eating their food and everything will be ok. |
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same. sounds sketchy. maybe you should look for new roomates? |
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i take it this mugger is someone you know? why didn't you call the police? from your story, your housemates sound completely nuts. i don't know what to say. |
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marijuana is bad |
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yeah, sounds like this situation has soured. probably be pretty hard to turn around now. best solution: move |
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I admitted to the food and i used about three onions and i always thought that the milk was a shared commodity. I want to move out really but i know it will end up with the same shit and i'll propbably be accused of betraying them you know. I mean there is alot i could say but it is a complex situation. I don't need to fee like an asshole more than i already do you know. I don't like this living in fear bullshit. |
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if they already do not trust you, disappearing for a few days without saying anything makes it a LOT worse! sounds like you could be not communicating very well with them? and not just because you might not like them, I mean, in general? |
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I don't know the mugger, but iknow what he looks. i mean shit i bumped into hime two days in row the second i was lucky it was daylight. The olice is not an option in this country, they are to busy arresting potheads to do anything useful! |
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how can you live with people you can't trust or talk to? i can't imagine what that must be like.. |
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Call a house meeting. Clear the air.. |
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Well when i start feeling shit about the stuff i have done i find it incredibly difficult to talk about anything. It's like someone has turned down my amp and then i can think of nothing but how fucking awful i am and it then becomes a case of saving myself. |
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"sorry for eating the food, i probly should've owned up to that earlier." *goes out and buys loads of food & booze* "now let's have an eatfest and move on." *eats, drinks, & be's merry* |
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The food isue has gone now, that isn't a problem. I just really don't know what to do anymore. |
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people hate me for no good reason. Its lame really. |
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i think you should get a baseball bat and beat the shit out of the mugger the next time you see him |
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Agreed. I am still scared to walk down the fucking street. |
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can't you repay them for the food you took? actions speak louder than words. |
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well, if you don't talk about stuff, they're going to keep assuming the worst. the "eating the food"-thing isn't the problem, the "not being upfront immediately"-thing is. you should have a house-meeting, talk to them. and if they keep being iffy about it, propose to move out at some point (if you want to ofcourse..), see how they react to that. |
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Live by yourself. |
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You know what would happen if i did that??? I would probably get accused of fucking licking their arses and only really doing it out of guilt. |
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name some of the bad reasons |
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Already have said something about moving. It was like "Oh we knew that this would happen." Well i think it might just have to happen. |
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you should sell the rights to your story to some movie producer...this is good stuff (if it wasn't tragic for you), i mean what are the odds to get mugged twice in a row by the same guy?? and on top of it all people giving you hard time over food...can't get more bizzare than that.. |
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i think tolstoyed's definately on to something here. |
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yeh! hah!!! Ok guys i want to thank you all for listening to me i have to go as my time up. Update to follow soon. *hugs everyone in thread* |
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they are probably looking for you to just be 'normal' if you can understand that, now i am not saying that you are strange or anything, it has already been said to communicate more, that is the key, tell them the truth and they will see no ill will, they probably think you are hiding something or sneaking around if you give them the silent treatment. |
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Just buy a shitload of food and booze. Come in. Get them all together and say something. If they're in the wrong then at least they'll feel bad about you having to make the effort to keep things together. |
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Nah, I think that's all in your mind. If I bitched at someone for drinking my milk and they went out and got me some more then that would make me happy. ..But on to the bigger issue. I propose that you have a house meeting like qrter said (he is so smart). Replacing the eated food would be a nice way to kick off the meeting. "OK, so Randall.. you are mad b/c I ate your grnola bars... wait... what's this King Size Snickers!?!? this mut be yours.. And Emily, runnin' a little low on milk, eh? Maybe THIS CRATE OF BEER will help!" |
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HAHAHA :D good luck with everything skink! |
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"and cynthia, this 5 gallon bucket of rat poison is for you! bitch." |
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Porn is also a good way to soothe things over. |
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it definately sounds like it's much too late for that. they're already attacking him for thinking of moving out, why should they like it if he buys food? like skink himself has said, it has little to do with the food-crap anymore. |
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either they're dicks, or skink is socially inept, or both. either which way, the solution is the same. remove yourself from the situation. |
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It has EVERYTHING to do with the food crap. |
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Having met Skink I wouldn't call him socially inept. He's a nice bloke. |
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well then, it sounds like the roomates have rallied themselves together with skink as the whipping boy then. i'd suggest the food & booze party (while simultaneously looking for alternative living arrangements). if the party doesn't work out, then you could always gracefully bow out. |
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Yeah, skink is an alright guy.. Gave up 'is wallet real quiet like. Not any fuss.. |
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You could befriend the mugger and have him rob all your roomates. |
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not everyone is like you...chasing robbers down the street..what is that!? |
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interesting idea |
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The antithesis of being shoved by an IDM star. |
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