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Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-22 23:33 [#00073780]



Bastards!

I've been on the net for years, but I never had my own
personal CPU until the summer. My mom has one, wouldn't let
me use it for anything.
So I never really got into the internet until the summer. I
was familiar with it and everything.


 

The_Funkmaster from Newfoundland, Canada on 2002-01-22 23:33 [#00073781]



I wouldn't call myself shy... cause it almost seems like if
you're shy, you're really self-conscious and stuff... and I
don't feel like that... but I'm definately a quiet person...



 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-22 23:36 [#00073783]



I'm VERY self concious, in a way. I don't care how people
see me, but I kind of do... hard to explain. I'm happy with
myself, but I'm not like everyone else, I guess.


 

conacure on 2002-01-23 00:07 [#00073812]



I would qualify in this category.

 

Lydia from not from Japan on 2002-01-23 00:12 [#00073820]



hmm. I myself am quite the quiet and rather shy person. Eh
- rather boring actually, I prefer to stay home and read a
good book to going out and partying. I think that I am
developing a people phobia of some sorts actually - I am
finding it harder and harder as the days go by to deal with
people in the real world. Largely because they are all a
bunch of ignorant fools.

*grumps and grumbles about the state of humanity*

 

B3n from UK on 2002-01-23 00:15 [#00073824]



I can idle away time quite happily doing very little..

 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 00:27 [#00073830]



People have been telling me for a long time that I already
have a people-phobia lydia... and I guess they're probably
right ;-)
I have serious problems about interacting with people in the
real world. On the one hand I kinda like the idea of being a
loner, someone in the background who just observes... but it
can also get kinda lonely. I would like being a loner more
if it was actually my own choice. But when I'm around people
I'm never able to look them in the eye, and my mind just
goes completely blank and I have NOTHING to say. I don't
really have any close friends. Only when I'm with my family
who I've know all my life I feel I can actually be myself
and not hide behind my shyness. But the strange thing is
that when I'm on the internet. Chatting or writing E-mails
or post on messageboards, I know lots of things to say.
Hell, I probably even talk too much when I'm writing :-p

It really amazes me that my brain is obviously able to carry
a conversation and make intelligent comments etc., it's just
that when I'm with somebody it refuses to do so.

I would love to be more like I'm on the internet in real
life too... I would probably still choose to be alone lots
of times, but then it'd be because I wanted to be alone, and
not because I'm "forced" to be so. Yeah, that'd feel alot
better.

And let's not even mention girls :-p
I have written with really wonderful girls in the past (I'm
still doing it) whom I really get along with and really
really really like... but eventually we somehow always
deceide we should meet each other, hehe... that's when it
usually goes wrong. Crazy... one time I'd been writing to a
really wonderful person for 6 months, and we knew EVERYTHING
about each other... and yet when we met... I had no idea
what to say to her, and just acted like an idiot ;-)


 

AMinal from toronto, canada on 2002-01-23 00:36 [#00073834]



ophecks.. b3n.. lydia.. surrounded by demons..

same here
all u guys (+lydia) sound just like me...

 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-23 00:38 [#00073836]



Surrounded by Demons...

My god... you described me to a T!!!!

Right down to the finest detail!!!

 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 00:39 [#00073837]



its you who is trying to control my mind, through you're
posting on this web board you are trying to alter the course
of my mind.. i dont want to know how you think i dont want
to know..all is what i think is all that matters and you
must keep this in mind when watching the Golden Globe
Awards?%$


 

AMinal from toronto, canada on 2002-01-23 00:50 [#00073841]



ooh, i forgot:
hevquip too, i know what u mean (or think i do..)

i have a lot of trouble socializing..
but i'd rather be alone a lot of the time anyway...
hmm... be at some stupid party where u listen to limp biskit
and get drunk..
or stay home and make music/talk to intelligent people on
the internet.. read..
the choice is obvious..
most people are so ignorant/stupid u cant talk to them about
anything interesting anyway...


 

grinningcat on 2002-01-23 00:54 [#00073843]



yea i am shy too, although in recent years i have been
trying to improve myself to talk to people more and
'socialize'. at the moment my family dont even know the real
me.

i dont just wanna fade into the background.

And one day i thought, if i died 2morrow, how many people
wud come to my funeral? not many. so im trying to diminish
my shyness, and be a happy go lucky person, the center of
the party. at the same time i wanna be the person evey1
loves, but have my personal space. is that to much to ask?
im practising making stupid jokes, faces and impression like
the 'happy' people do, practising to laugh out loud in
public, which i find incredibly hard. i even hate my mobile
going off in shops coz every1 turns to look. how can i not
be this shy and be centre of attention a bit more??? i dont
wanna live my life a quiet guy who know one noticed was even
there; whereas my friend's personalities all overshadow mine
in social situations. hmmm??? HELP ME!!!!!!!




 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 00:56 [#00073844]



take drugs, that will make you cool like me

 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 00:57 [#00073846]



I simply can't imagin living on the moon I hope I can find
my way back to dreamland pretty soon.I don't wanna play no
more I just wanna get to sleep cuz most likely sleep will
let me forget about the other people that havent been able
to make me stop feeling that the demons are hiding behind
the walls and in the celings........I've been poked by so
many fingers that being poked by fingers don't bother me no
more !!!!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!


 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:00 [#00073849]



Wow, it's really amazing to see that so many people here
feel just like me. It actually makes me feel a little
better, maybe I'm not the shyest person in the world after
all, just one of the the shyest ;-)

Ophecks, I can't believe you recognized so much in my
previous post... but it's really nice to read, thank you.
It's wonderful to somehow have this feeling of being
understood perhaps.

And this theory about introverted people being drawn towords
IDM is the most interesting thing I've heard in a long time
(at last! Finally I've found something where it has paid off
to be introverted ;-)) Who knows what I would have been
listening to if I was more outgoing (actually I should lose
that word "more", lmao). That almost makes it worthwhile to
be shy ;-)

But it still bugs me... if I would meet anyone from this
board in real life... even though I know now how much we'd
have in common, I still wouldn't be able to talk to them
properly and let them know how I feel.


 

grinningcat on 2002-01-23 01:03 [#00073850]



but do u think being quiet and listening to this music is
really such a blessing?

wudnt we all just be happier if we were born happy people,
lived in ignorance like the rest of THEM, listened t cheap
house/garage music and died happy...



 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 01:16 [#00073859]



I get what I want but I have no one to share it with a
feeling in my chest and nothing to compaire it with !!!!THE
BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:19 [#00073861]



will you kick me in the face?

 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:19 [#00073862]



grinningcat, i'm probably the worst person to give you
advice on this subject. But at least I wanna say how amazing
it is that you have been trying to change, and obviously had
some succes already. I got a letter today from one of my
ehr... "internet-friend", that said I should not try to
change myself. Instead I should just accept that I was shy
and present myself that way (but I don't hardly know how to
present myself at all...). But I like the thought of
excepting the fact that I'm shy and let people make up their
own minds if they like me or not, instead of trying to
change and in a way pretending to be someone that I'm not.

I was really moved by your post, up till the part where you
wrote: im practising making stupid jokes, faces and
impression like the 'happy' people do, practising to laugh
out loud in public, which i find incredibly hard.

Maybe I'm wrong (infact: probably), but this seems to me to
be not the right way. You shouldn't try to be like someone
else, I think you'd be much happier if you would just be
yourself. Laughing out loud about jokes that you don't even
really like... I can imagine that it would work to make
contact with people, but won't these people be attracted to
a side of you that doesn't really exist? or? Well... I don't
know... just my thoughts.

I don't have a mobile phone. I actually love the fact that
when I'm out of the house, I don't have to worry about the
telephone, haha! I hate phone's ;-) It's even more stupid
when you've got nothing to say when the other person can't
see you staring nervously at the ground.

"how can i not be this shy and be centre of attention a bit
more??? i dont wanna live my life a quiet guy who know one
noticed was even there;"

I have thought about that too... I think lots of times about
what music I'd want to be played at my funeral, but I'm also
worried about who would actually be there to listen to it.
But I'm sorry... I don't really know how to anwser your
question. Reading it just made me realize I have that exact
same question.



 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:21 [#00073864]



grinningcat: what types are funny faces do you make? do you
have a webcam?


 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-23 01:26 [#00073866]



I'm fine with the way I am, I'm not lonely for most
people... but I had a really great girl until recently, the
only one I ever gave a shit about, so I'm lonely for live.
*Cue the violins... :-D I miss her. :-(

As for the internet, it's much easier to get your ideas
across, good for shy fuckers, I guess. As for ''internet
friends'', I know what you mean, Demon... it's different
when you communicate in a different context. I've talked to
someone I met off the internet by phone (all the time now,
in fact... we don't live TOO far away, both college
students, so we'll meet eventually) and it was awkward at
first. Amazingly, I can talk to her like it's nothing, now.
Probably the only girl (other than my ex) that I can say
that about. Grr, I hate the internet! :-/ I wish there were
some people I could be interested in talking to where I
live, but they're all so boring...

It really IS interesting how IDM fans are so alike in this
regard... we're all pretty shy, heh.



 

The_Funkmaster from Newfoundland, Canada on 2002-01-23 01:27 [#00073867]



personally I just think shyness is a self confidence
thing... it doesn't have to be who you are... you just need
to look at who you are, and learn to be confident in who you
are, and what you have to offer... I used to be so shy...
and I did that... I started to think like who really cares
what other people think of me... and it got to the point
where I was angry at everyone... that's not good... but now
I'm pretty confident in myself... I realize that there's a
big world out there besides the world I grew up in... and
there are lots of people who will accept me for me... you
don't need to compromise who you are, but shyness as far as
I'm concerned is not who you are... you just need to be sure
of yourself, and what you have to offer... and everyone has
something to offer the world...


 

The_Funkmaster from Newfoundland, Canada on 2002-01-23 01:28 [#00073869]



the society that the human race has created is such an evil
thing... people grow up in schools where they are judged for
being different, when they should be praised for their
differences... look, this is something I heard somewhere...
the popular people in high school and stuff, a lot of them,
had their peak in high school... I choose to look at my life
such that my peak is yet to come... which is a good thing,
cause I have my whole life ahead of me...


 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:29 [#00073870]



Yes, we probably would be alot happier if we would be just
like them... living in ignorance.

However it's kinda hard to imagine... I can't stand many
people out there because they are so shallow and never seem
to think about anything at all... and looking from where I
am now, I wouldn't want to be like that.
But if I would have been born like that... I would have been
alot happier for sure :-)

I definitly do not think being like this is a blessing. But
atleast there are some upsides to it... I should probably
try to make the most of it. I'm only 23 years old, I have a
long life ahead of me... it's probably better to focus on
the positive sides. At least I am more emotional and
thoughtfull (and dare I say intelligent) than most guys, and
at least I have formed my own opinions etc.


 

The_Funkmaster from Newfoundland, Canada on 2002-01-23 01:33 [#00073875]



just listen to some Don't Give Up by Peter Gabriel...
that'll do some good... :)


 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 01:33 [#00073876]



I tell my little sister shut her eyes think about the
butterflies and don't say bad words or utter lies
!!!!!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:34 [#00073877]



you'll eat your hat for that Baron my boy

 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-23 01:35 [#00073878]



I'm fine with being shy, but the WORLD isn't fine with me
being shy, that's the problem.

Baron... I'm going to write that quote down, I swear that is
just gold!!! :-D


 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 01:37 [#00073882]



Keep your mind open keep your ears open and keep your eyes
wide open!!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:39 [#00073884]



Opecks is a cocksucker..

 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-23 01:44 [#00073888]



You're not very funny, clever, or offensive, you could learn
some lessons from some of the trolls we had here before.


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:45 [#00073889]



i know..
i think you should just ignore me. or else ill never go away

 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:45 [#00073891]



"As for the internet, it's much easier to get your ideas
across, good for shy fuckers, I guess."

YES!
;-)
It was so amazing when I first discovered E-mail... I never
knew I had so much to say before that.

I'm sure (well I think i am... well at least I hope so) that
I would probably get "better" at talking to someone when I
get to know them (or her, haha, I'd really want a
girlfriend) better. I just need to find someone who will
allow me some time to become a little more... comfortable
and confident. I tend to loosen up around people that know
me a little better. But of course really opening up and
"letting someone in" is a whole different story... but I'll
keep trying anyway. It's a shame that for a lot of people
"you never get a second chance to make a first impression"
and such... people's first impression of me can't be that
good ;-)

But I think it's great that you have this girl you can
actually talk to ophecks :-) (sorry to hear your
relationship is over also :-(). It's quite inspiring. I hope
to meet people like that to... and I still feel like the
internet was almost especially made for people like me :-)
Already I've met so many people on there. I've met more
people in the last 2 years then in all my life before
that... and I'm loving it :-)


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:45 [#00073892]



you are provoking me

 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:49 [#00073894]



you should be publishing this stuff Baron. I think it's
great. At first I thought you didn't make any sense. But
actually now I think some of your posts make a lot of sense,
in a strange subconcious way that I cannot describe :-)
If you published a book with stuff like that, I would buy
it.


 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 01:52 [#00073895]



We need new inventions to reveal peoples true intentions a
portable pride protector an affordable lie detector!!!!!THE
BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!


 

loverboy on 2002-01-23 01:52 [#00073897]



you and every other fool on this web board

 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 01:54 [#00073898]



Magical mustard sandwhich is a wonderful way to fly. only my
talking egg sandwhich, is the only way to die!!!!!!!THE
BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!!!


 

Ophecks from Nova Scotia on 2002-01-23 01:55 [#00073899]



He is a fountain of knowledge, that Baron!

Oh yeah, I agree, the internet was MADE for introverts like
me! This time last year, I'd probably be wasting my time
watching hockey or something. Now I can waste my time
watching hockey AND chatting on the net, yippee!!! :-D

It may be only communicating on a screen, but it's still
valuable. You can get your point across just fine in this
context.


 

surrounded by demons from neverneverland on 2002-01-23 01:57 [#00073900]



"but shyness as far as I'm concerned is not who you are...
you just need to be sure of yourself"

I never really looked at it like that funkmaster... but I
think you're probably right. Lord knows I don't have that
much confidence in myself. And now that I'm starting to
think about it... the fact that I'm shy probably has alot to
do with the fact that I'm not that happy about myself...
hm... it's an interesting thought. I'm not really sure how I
could get more self-confidence, but it somehow seems less
impossible than becoming less shy...

Thanks man :-) I'll try to find that Peter Gabriel song and
listen to it.


 

dancing with demons on 2002-01-23 02:00 [#00073901]



Actually, I think the "Baron" is full of shit.
Sorry, just my opinion.
;)

 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 02:00 [#00073902]



Grrrrrrrr clone are bad!!!!!I don't like clones !!!THE BARON
HAS SPOKEN!!!!!


 

Monoid on 2002-01-23 02:01 [#00073903]



Man shyness is a CURSE, I cant express my real
personality.....

Im very unsatisfied with myself, I dont hate anyone, But I
need to change. MY SHYNESS is stoping me from ACTIVITES Id
like to do.......and thiz BOTHERS me......!



 

dancing with demons on 2002-01-23 02:01 [#00073904]



are you a spaz?

 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 02:02 [#00073905]



My words are my world beleave it or not they mean alot to
some can't say I'm ahead of my time I fear that my time will
never come !!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!


 

dancing with demons on 2002-01-23 02:02 [#00073906]



baron?

 

Baron Von Picklefoot on 2002-01-23 02:03 [#00073907]



clones!!brrr.. get back you foul beast!!!!!THE BARON HAS
SPOKEN!!!!!!


 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 02:04 [#00073908]



CLONE!!!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!!

 

Baron Von Picklefoot from From my "special" place on 2002-01-23 02:04 [#00073909]



Ok I'm done for the evening this is pissing me off good day
all!!!!!!THE BARON HAS SPOKEN!!!!!!!P.S. PLEASE STOP CLONING
ME !!!!!!


 

Monoid on 2002-01-23 02:04 [#00073910]



I want sex.....

 

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