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are you afraid of falling in love, too, monoid, or is it "just" having sex? i mean, if you love one girl, there is nothing to fear. and dont tell me nobody will or can love you, since there is the german sentence you must know (you come from germany, don't you?) "Jeder Topf hat seinen passenden Deckel" every pot has its matching lid |
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No I love to love...However them wimminz ignore me....maybe because I dont speak to them... |
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yeah, i know what you mean, i am shy to girls or people in general, too. have you ever tried to meet a girl on internet, in order to be familiar before you meet each other first time, this must make it easier for you. what are your fears? not to be accepted? |
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My fears ? To embarrase myself, also im a very boring person, i really have nothing to offer, and I would make a terrible party guest. |
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so you are bored of life, this is your main problem, i think, if you see sense in life, you can love someone, can be with someone in the same room without having fears that your next move could be embarrasing, because it is you. i mean, your personality is as you describe, so you should look for someone who can get along with your personality, and i think there is someone. you said you are boring, but i think, as i said, you are bored of life, so you should start to be curious, because curiosity is something very important in love matters. all in all you are thinking too much of the consequences of what you could do, so you do nothing and are depressed because you are not doing anything. sometimes your head should shut down and you should follow your feelings, and don't tell me you have no feelings, if you had no feelings you would not be ready to talk with us about your situation and especially your state. |
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jeder topf hat seinen deckel ist aber ein ganz schön behindertes sprichwort xD. |
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english please :p, anyway, sorry, but i could not remember the right sentence, so i wrote the ... hmmm next suitable sounding same :-) |
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hey get out the house and away from the internet. women are everywhere. there must be at least one for you. but i can say that, cos i have one. but you can get a woman, its a piece of piss. just act like a normal person and it will happen. TALKING is the key. |
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monoid> what do you mean by boring? cause to be honest, a lot of girls i know are "boring" too. by boring i mean they don't like to go out, their ida of a date or good time is staying in and watching movies and sitting around. i loved doing that with x-boyfriends, or people i was seeing. |
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i think he means he has nothing to talk about, he will just sit on the sofa and avoid looking at the eyes of the girl, that is that what he probably means with boring i think. am i right, monoid-mate? |
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you say you have resigned to the idea that you'll never be able to socialize. but you don't even believe that yourself - hence threads like these. but there is absolutely nothing anyone on this mb can say to you that will change anything for you. you are already seeing a psychiatrist, which I hope is helping you. that's it. nothing left to say or do. |
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that's how i am too.... probably why i've been single for so long. i like it better tho, gives me time to work on myself, and be with my friends. |
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GONNA MAKE YOU MOOOOOOOVVVVVVVVEEEEEE YEAH |
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wanking and computers is not the answer. shagging and meals for two is the answer. |
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are you able to take pleaure in little things? like walking in the fog on a winter morning with ae pllaying in your ears? |
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what's life without love?>? rreally, the 'little things' ain't worrth shit when you don't have someone to enjoy them with. and it's even worrse when you feel you have no hope everr of having someone to enjoy them with, it's enough to make you kill yourrself. |
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Music is the only thing that gives me pleasure :( Im a sad individual |
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anus_presley> i tooootallly disagree with you there. if you can't enjoy being by yourself a lot of the time, how can it be possible for someone else to enjoy spending time with you? i usd to hate being by myself, now i absolutely love it. 70 % of evreything i enjoy in my life i do alone...it makes th other 30% so much more special to share with people i love. |
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everrything in equal measurre. that's the prroblem though. |
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but this what you are listening to has feelings in it, collected through life of the musician, who made the piece. without being curious in order to live your life you won't be able to enjoy music, as it is written to enjoy. even sadness in music has a hidden happiness. you must have contact with other people except on xlt, dont you? why dont you try to spend time with them. even if you don't have other contact with others from internet, you have contact with the rest of the world. school, uni, job, job centre, relatives, postman... all these people rea oppurtunities for you to start changing your life, and after that being able to love and being loved from soneone else. @tragedy :'( how true, how true, i absolutely agree with you. |
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I was just wondering whether he could or not. I take great pleasure in things like that with or without the existance of a significant other. I disagree with the 'aint worth shit' comment. However if one lives with the certainty that there's no hope of ever being with someone then you're probably right. |
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well, monoid, you don't seem to have any trouble socialising and talking about your thoughts/problems over a computer, so maybe just use that to find a female in the same socially-terrified state as you, who's compatible with you, etc, and get to know her mind/personality.. so many of us are in similar situations, but if you don't have the least bit of faith that there is someone out there for you, and/or are just looking for some cheap sex, even though you seem to be terrified of women, there's really nothing to help you. you must realise there must be a woman who is essentially your equal.. but you can not expect her to fulfil your needs and wants like some kind of item who was put on this earth just to discover and serve you. you still need to do 50% of the searching. |
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yeah I should have read that before answering :) Good point |
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"love is an excuse to get hurt.... and to hurt...." |
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"love is an excuse to get DUBturbo..." |
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