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okay, who in here is like me and hasn't ever had a girlfriend and can never seem to get the courage to ask people out? who is consistently fixating on a girl (or guy :*/) and then stalking them and dreaming of them and writing songs about them but never making a move? am I alone?!?!? okay so I had a girlfriend once when I was 15, but c'mon.. it's been long enough. oh yeah, and if you clikced on this thread thinking it was about my bloody valentine, you can talk about that too. :) |
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I seem to have worst luck wif the ladies also...Im joining...=) Oh amd MBV rules! |
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almost 20 years young? time to suck it up, know you're a good guy, and go after 'em. what kind of things do you do? what do you like? tell us about yourself. sharing is caring! |
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Blatant, you're a good guy. and you do the html links for everyone - which is awesome, cuz i can't ever be arsed to copy it myself. here's to you. |
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i'm sure you'll grow out of it. imagine yourself forty years old stuck in the same trap, and scare yourself straight. if you have nothing, you have nothing to lose. ask! but first, acqaint yourself with "infatuation." it is the precursor to "obsession," a far worse trap than your "lonely admirer syndrome." you have never been imprisoned, except when you built the cell. in conclusion, my bloody valentine's "glider," "tremolo" and "loveless" are essential listening. |
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i think that it is time for you to move on to members of the same sex |
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i think mimi is just tired of being stalked by spineless admirers. |
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jeezus, what a grumpy lot you all are at this hour. seriously uviol, what blows your skirt up? what tickles your pickle. --------- for example, I like sailing, so I've dated girls with common interests. It's just a nice common bond to have. you like music obviously, but what else? Be confident about those things you know alot about and enjoy, and do that stuff all the time. Ladies will be around, and be friendly and caring. compassion goes a long way, I mean, what good is your life if you aren't constantly helping other people? when you look at it that way, people see that dedication and honesty in your eyes and your actions, and girls will respect that. you won't get the hoes mate, and you won't get laid all the time. but a self respecting young lady will come and steal your heart, and you'll never want her to give it back. head up, get your heart in the game kid! |
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that's what i'm talking about :) always helping. w00t |
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that was very nice of you to say spoonz, thank you very much for the kind words. I appreciate you even bothering to say that, you needn't do that, but I appreciate it all that same. cheers mate- to good times! |
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grumpy? |
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:D looks like our chap took off before hearing what we had to say! alas, perchance he'll wake up to a fresh new start, a brand new day...... off to bed for me, farewell and goodnight, catch ya later spoonz |
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have a good one, man. see ya |
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I feel so bad! i went to watch craig kilborn last night and never came back to see all these heartfelt replies! :) Thanks for your interest and advice, Blatant. I'm glad to see you're back on top of your game.. I remember the turmoil you went through in the 'how to get a girl that's your friend...' thread. I think your advice is quite sound. I've come to the conclusion recently that confidence and honesty is the best way to go about it, in theory. Every time in the past I've been confronted with one of my crushes I get flustered and act all goofy because I built them up too much. I think plaidzebra's threoy of the self-built cell is what's going on. So, I've been trying to keep it low-key. 'seriously uviol, what blows your skirt up? what tickles your pickle.' Hmm.. I don't think you wanna go here. Unfortunately I have a thing for underage chicks which will get me in trouble if I pursue it ;*) Seriously though, I'm not out to get laid, I just would like to say I've been in a relationship and not feel like it's a partial lie. Finding a common thread is a probably the best idea.. sometimes I've been going after girls who are in completely different worlds than me. So, if I find someone who likes game shows and electronic music I should be set! Thanks for the advice everyone! God to have you in the club, IronLung, btw. And Loveless is great, but Isn't Anything is equally as good methinks :). Haven't heard the EPs yet. |
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See looking for a relationship is the wrong way to go about things...because girls pick up on that straight away. You need to go out for a laugh and a mess about, then if things develop from that let it happen naturally, don't be peeping bitches like you plan to marry them or something. |
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<-- 17, has had one girlfriend, it lasted only 3 weeks. I'm fucking so unclutch when it comes to talking to chicks, I just can't do it. I mean I can have meaningless "gettin to know ya" BS conversations with girls but when it comes to anything with substance i'm lost. it sucks. |
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The ''wall of sound'' on Loveless is so Phil Spector. I love it. Blablabla. Girls are icky. |
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im 17 and no girlfriends either, i cant find anyone that id really be interested in at all yet, i mean yes i see good looiking girls but none that i want to pursue, i cant pursue anyways, even if i do find someone ill probably be terrible. |
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blah, I hate love and all that crap... I'm crazy about this girl I know, a good friend of mine, but unfortunately she's been going out with another good friend of mine for three years... oh my how it hurts... but dammit, I've decided that I care too much about her to tell her, cause I think she'll be hurt, and I don't want to lose her... so, I'm just going to suck it up, and be friends with her... dammit though, she is just so damn sexy, and sweet, and beautiful, and amazing!!! OH MY GOD!!!!! :) |
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so yeah, make me the vice-president of this group!! |
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unfortunately, saying "yo bitch! i got 9 inches of pure hardcore pleasure for your creamy pie" won't impress anyone, so failing PLAN A, i advise you to move on to PLAN B: that is, if you see the person you fancy enough, and perhaps even converse with them from time to time, why not just flat out ask them to join you for coffee or lunch? something casual, just to see how it goes, and whether or not the two of you actually click. that said, i have absolutely rotten luck with the opposite of sex for reasons far beyond my comprehension (likely something to do with the fact that regardless of the rise of feminism and a move towards greater gender equality, the vast majority of women still focus on a man's ability to provide them with safety & security - so it doesn't matter if you're caring, compassionate and the whole lot, so long as you're relatively well-off) i have been savagely dumped by a girl i've dated for 2 years, and 3 years on, here i am - just me and my porno! hehe! but yeah, i keep on asking out all these girls and even if it all goes well and they even say yes to going out for coffee, sooner or later i'm told to piss off without any explanation and the date is usually called off. what gives? |
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oh you probably just have something in your teeth. floss thoroughly, then try again. |
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believe me mimi, i floss on a regular basis! and by the way BlatantEcho is full of doodoo! i'm an example of a prime-cut upstanding citizen - i contribute plenty of my time to volunteering for causes i actually care about, i make music, create art, love literature, have a broad scope of interests in general, etc., etc., yet for all of that, because i am not a complete cunt who treats girls like utter shite and prefers watching football and drinking bud to going to art galleries, i'm apparently worthless. eh! women - can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. =( |
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yes, i too am loveless. i find a good way to deal with this is to drive around listening to 'loveless' as loud as you can stand it. |
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if there's one thing that turns women off, it's a "feeling sorry for yourself" attitude. first, learn to love and respect yourself. women can sense your fear! second, be patient. very patient. perhaps you need to lower your standards. statistics indicate that even if you do find a girl significantly more attractive than you who is willing to date you, she will almost certainly leave you for a more handsome man with a stylish haircut. and if there is one thing that we have learned, it is that statistics do not lie. another strategy is to become drunk. women will see you are vulnerable, and try to take advantage of you. if it doesn't work out, you can bond by letting her take care of you while you make sick in a toilet. you might try also to become more handsome. how about a stylish haircut? several words of advice: get rid of all the porn. all of it. no porn for you! why? motivation. you're wasting all of your pheromonal essence in front of that computer, my friend. the money you spend on tissue is better spent on flowers to perk up your mood. and if you saw how ridiculous you look glaring at that monitor... i met my wife at work, then she dumped her boyfriend for me. have you considered getting a job? most women consider employment a big "thumbs up." most importantly, keep your sense of humor. don't dwell on what you don't have, concentrate on what you take pleasure in NOW. everyone gets stuck with no girlfriend and no prospects sometime. or so they'd have you believe, to make you feel better. ever lived in a small, rural town? pure insanity. |
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"I want sex" |
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i need to get some balls im just too shy |
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heh, that made me feel a lot better actually... thanks!! :) |
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me : loveless, sexless, lifeless, hopeless! ^^; i don't even try to flirt because i have such a low self-esteem about 75% of my self... i made a test just for fun and the results was i am a cynical virgin - very true =) cheer up uviol and the others ^^ you're not alone... |
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...i don't worry about it that much, by the way. i have dreams / fantasms, music and friendship. |
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I'm going to try not to worry!! |
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Zeus: didn't know you were into that! ;) Uviol: same problem here :(. Most of the times when I'm at the pub and I'm being confronted with my utter "chickenness" I just get mad and kill everything and everyone around me. It's a great relief. Then I wake up. |
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Hehehe.. I always check this after it's too late and everyone's written a ton of interesting advice! Anyway, I just wanted to bump this to say thank you .. especially to plaidzebra and Blatant.. if nothing else than for the time invested in typing all that :-) But I think it's decent advice as well. I'm not really worried about it anymore.. it'll happen when it happens. And until then, I'm happy with Autechre :D. thanks guys |
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"I want sex" |
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I'm in roughly the same situation. I'm 18. And this feeling of pure shit has come over me in the last year or so for not ever really having a relationship. Forget it...I don't want to talk or think about it anymore. |
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I think you should all stop worrying and just be yourselves and then one day the perfect person will fall out of the sky into your arms .. maybe. |
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That's a typical thing anyone's mom would say. Too cliché....doesn't help :( no offense |
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ROTFLMAO |
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ROTFLMAO |
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the other day i found out that 'she' is not ionterested. i've been drunk for, getting on towards, 3 days solid. i hven't felt too bad yet. if i stop drnking i think it might get worse. this is properley bad. wht to do wht to. all that stuff about just being a nice guy is bollocks by the way. |
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glad to hear your handling it well, blrr... nah just kidding, im sure if i drank to deal with such situations i'd be quite drunk also. |
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Drinking generally makes things worse in my experience. Nice guy = bollocks ??? erm could you elaborate on that? |
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I would just like to say, i would have joined the club a month a go, but i recently met a gir who's an artist, likes aphex twin and me!!! and i got hold of her with this revolutionary way: just smiling a lot and being a nice and caring person! girls dont fall for that "sorry i'm alive" bullshit. Be happy and powerfull and charming, and you've come a long way. everyone likes that. dont think to much about it, just do it!!! |
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then you're prentending to be something your not |
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what, you're suggesting that he isn't nice and caring and so on? |
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I wouldnt say that. I would rather say that you drop the "sensitive artist" crap, and find you'r outgoing party side, when you're dealing with women... It helped me a great deal. Remember to smile a lot, think about smiling more often than do, when dealing with chicks. Really good tip there. |
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