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Good Morning everyone...I have never used this MB to post anything like this before, so bare with me...=) Last night I was here at my place with a girl I REALLY REALLY like alot. We were talking and it seemed like she was kinda thought heavy and quiet... I ask whats wrong and she goes on to tell me " She does not want to go ANY further with anything between us". She doesnt want to hurt ME down the road, but she likes me ALOT...says I am her fav. person to be with and around.. She is also still kinda in love with her EX, (but curses him 90% of the time). I was crushed. This girl and I had spent ALOT of time together, nights at a time. We loved the same music, movies, and we could ACTUALLLY TALK. Plus shes beautiful.... Ok I know this post may be a bit cheesy...I just wanted to kind vent a little and throw it out there. I am SOOOO bummed out and I was sleepless last night after she left...Man I fell for this girl hard. Anyone agree heartache is the WORST pain ever? thanks for listening |
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ohh, yess, agree 100% ! |
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ahhh :( play soma by smashing pumpkins for some teenage heart sorrow relief ;) |
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yes and it's a shame people have to experience it. :( |
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yeah when she was telling me all of this my stomach was literally clenching in pain...Man it was tough, I am still "shell shocked". I dont know what I am going to do now... Yeah whoever created heartache mustve been SINGLE.... Damn this is shite. ( Looks thru his cd's for his SAD albums ) |
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envane would be fitting for this kinda mood, i think. especially draun quarter :) |
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don't listen to sad music now |
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last time this happened to me, i couldnt listen to any music, actually i couldnt do anything... |
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Sad music would kinda be my only refuge right now. I mean I cannot call and try brgging or anything bollocks like that...I kinda just have to sit here and see what happens. The music seems to somewhat take my mind off of what I dread/thinhk about. Anyone think I should fight for this one?....Move on?...I know its hard to say, seeing as you guys dont even know any of the situation besides what i told ya... She just flipped my world a good one... ( In a good way ) Any advice is good advice at this point.... |
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eh, give her some time? you heard this before, right? |
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in any case, don't look at the rope thread by flea on this page ;) |
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yes its the worst, after that comes humanity stupidity ache |
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yeah. That will probably be my only viable option...Time is just SOO scary and LONG right now...seconds like minutes, minutes like hours, etc....ya ken? Soooouuurrr Times indeed.... |
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I have been there. The more time that goes by the better you'll be. Hang in there! This would be a perfect time to attach that picture of that cat falling off the tree and it says "hang in there". |
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pain can be controlled. mind over matter my friend |
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mind over emotions? |
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a bad toothache is far worse. |
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Right now I feel just NUMB.... I dont think my mind could control my emotions right now, I cant feel anything. I cant let her slip away, but am bound to my own patience. |
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:( feel better ironlung! |
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I had the same experience. Couldn't listen to any music because I was that upset. As you know, I keep stats about what I listen to and during that month I listened to about half the CDs I normally do. I was just lying on the bed half-asleep, feeling sorry for myself. |
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im pretty used to it now :) |
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Yeah I am just stuck here sitting on my bed with my stereo going... BTW Dead Can Dance does a beautiful cover of Sinead Oconners - Stretched at your grave It seems like DAYS and MONTHS have passed since she left, whereas its only been about 5 hours. Damn... Thanks for listening to me babble on about all this everyone...really helps to talk to friends. |
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I really feel for you. I know the feeling of your stomach clenching together as you realise you cant control this situation, make it how you like it. its wery painful, i agree, so you have my full backup. but you must always remember, theres plenty of girls out there. (this always sound like crap advice, as you feel like "shes the one", but belive me!). ´But my advice is this:get into the depression. if you try to cover it up, it will always be there underneath, but if you live it out, it will gradually disappear. but that stuff leaves a scar on the soul, as i always say. =) |
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Are you just going to leave it at that? |
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if there's one thing i've learned, it's don't listen to sad albums. it will make you feel worse, and ruin the albums for you from then on... that sucks man :/ love is the most terrifying emotion |
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YOu hit the nail right on the head man.... It was a situation I couldnt control in ANY WAY. Like watching a slow motion punch. I kinda just sat in disbelief. The funny thing is is that at that moment, when I realized what she had just told me and KNEW I was probably gonna lose my chances at all after that....I still wanted to hold her...maybe even plead my case of how much I did like her...You know, the whole entire situation was me trying to express STRONG feeling for someone and giving 150% towards making this bird happy...only to be kicked in the head with THIS reality check... =( |
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this is sad. i experienced the same thing a (long) while back. there is nothing that can ease it but time. :( |
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Very well put (scar on the soul). Love is such a (forgive the cheesy metaphore!) rollercoaster of emotions. It's the most wonderful thing ever but also so fucking painful. It scares the heck out of me. |
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yeah i think the FEAR of all of this is what is worst for me. Not knowing if I will ever get to share a bed or a laugh with this girl again.... |
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I have a theory that the way people experience emotiens are wery alike. it seems like we have the same way of seeing it. its like you get totally present, and in the same time you sort of think "this is not real" and the darkness hits you. |
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my mind has already tried fooling itself into thinking... " it DIDNT happen, you misunderstood...you STILL have a chance to win her heart and trust"... but than I have to open my eyez and know i am only wishing. |
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Bad luck IronLung! That stomach clenching thing I'm quite familiar with, as with the whole lump in throat-can't breath kind of.... yeah. Wait for the initial hurt to subside and watch some comedy. This ALWAYS works for me. It may be difficult not to dwell, but try doing it less and less, if you do it too much you end up going in a fucked-up circle. |
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try not to focus so much on how bad you feel. try to put yourself in the girls shoes and you might look at this a bit differently |
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it will be quite a while 'till the 'everything is ok now'-feeling sets in again. going out with some friends surely helps... ..not yet |
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Very good point, but a difficult one to swallow ya ken?....I am going to have to practice the mind control of NOT thinking of it...I am sure I will do tons of reading and listening to music...I can feel the wave of sadness starting to crest though....It will only be worse before it, if EVER, gets better. Perhaps I was aiming to high and have burned my wings |
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the scary thing about love is: you give away a lot of your emotions, basically your heart, and the more you give away to the person you love, the more room you have to get hurt. |
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i do ken. went thru the same thing myself last month but in the end.. you see i ranted and this and that and almost begged her to be with me. but when i realised what i was doing.. i learned a bit of a lesson. anyway its all good now. |
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You can never aim too high. |
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you always have to give everything or you won't get anything, so not aiming too high would have been far worse i think - reason must not be over emotion, ever. oh well, i'm so smart |
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Well last time I went out and got horrendously pissed and (reportedly) ended up crying my eyes out somewhere along the way home from the club we went to. I don't remember any of this obviously but I do remember waking up feeling totally cleansed. My mind with so focused and my thoughts were all in order like some accountant had re-organised my brain during my sleep. No hangover either. Admittedly this only lasted for a few hours but dammit it felt great! Not something I'd necessarily recommend though. I'd definately opt for the 'living your depression rather than trying to cope' method. I tend to lock up my demons and let them slowly nibble at my soul so I know first-hand how damaging this is. Don't isolate yourself either. There's so much fear in love (even when things are going fine) and that's what fucks me up real bad. |
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it sounds to me like iron long's girlfriend was in the "i can't live with or without you" mood about her ex. thats shitty as an asshole. so just keep in mind, im sure her heart is broken too, both about the ex and about leading you on like she did.... |
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you should buy a skateboard. then skateboard in front of her house she starts to realize how cool you are. |
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that's scary I was just listening to that track off the 80-90 best of. :@ |
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sorry about jesus christ, everyone, im sorry. |
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last post should say: sorry about THAT, jesus christ, everyone im sorry. |
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I've just eaten a meal, and i started wondering over this phenomenon, the "stomach hurt". unfortunately for me, i had the feeling a couple of times, and i feel this: A feeling, not painfull, but wery intense around the solar plexus, wery much alike getting a local sedation. It could be described like an exsplosion of fluids in the body, that after a little while hits the head, not unlike the feeling you get when you get water from a swimming pool in your nose. (milder tho) + a feeling of dizzyness (not unlike the dizzyness that comes from smoking small amounts of cannabis) and a feeling of having to much energy at your disposal. also, your thoughts appear to run wild, and faster, and you immediatly get into a state of confusion and depression. even long after the experience, i feel difficulty sleeping. i have a theory that the stomach feeling and the dizzyness might wery well be a drug that the body creates, to drug the body down. It sort of appears when an illution is broken with a snap. just my thoughts. i've been reading too much biology lately! |
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lol..the skateboard actually made me laugh and smile...gracias... I respect any decision she makes and in alot of ways agree with the " with or without " you thoughts... Its hard when the EX is a complete LOSER, thug, just got outta jail all that BS...just bad news. I wanted to offer her everything and more, now even the littliest amount does NO good... Crazy is...that WE HAD IT, ya know, we were good together..and than WHAM!!! Outta nowhere...... Damn I feel like poop....HOrrible way to feel on such a beautiful day... |
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Its interesting that you break it down like that though...I know that when my stomach was turning, the words WERE driving thru it like a knife. Maybe that IS a way of the body bringing you down...Down from that HIGH you had before you were told this... Like 2 min before this happened we are laying there happy listening to music than the next, sheer panic in my soul. Its when you sit there and you almost fool yourself into thinking you cannot talk and or are scared too after hearing sad news like this.... |
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you should take a poop then ask yourself if you really feel like something that just came out of your ass. then if you really think you do, tell your neighboor you wanna meet them outside "by da curb." then when they least expect, give em the ol' boot to the head, ghetto stompin yall. |
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i get dizzy all the time, especially when i think about how small the world is. I imagine that if i ever met anyone off of the internet I'd faint from dizzyness :-/ hope u feel better soon ironlung, were u actually together or was it at the best-of-friends stage? |
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