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......sorry, just taking some points....:P (fnkcing topic) |
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oh yeah we were together almost everyother day...spent nights together and long days.... I never saw this comin |
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yes worst pain ever |
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sorry to hear that my friend (iron) I ve been through it... and not too long ago... my girlfriend (for the last 3 years) said that same thing to me when I asked her about going out and that... but a month later she fiinally fell in love with me...so if you really like her, and you feel she is your perfect woman, then dont loose hope |
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thanks NAC, and everyone...it feels reassuring to tell myself we WERE meant to be together...time heals ALL wounds...good or bad.. I am just gonna be numb for a couple days...the kinda " when the phone rings you cringe " numb...not knowing whats next. It IS hard to get your mind off of though...I am having a hell of a time distracting myself... |
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Wery true. Remember: youre not alone! The Xltronic board feels u. |
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If you want to get really depressed download this piece of music: Superheroes: Someone else fits your situation wery good. Some of the lyrics: My face has been washed away Of the tears i've cried today But all i need is for her to stay Though i know her intentions might be good i know she wants someone else i can tell by the way she holds me. What a great song! get it get it get it! Really retro 80ies if youre into that stuff |
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I was practically in the same situation a couple of weeks ago. I met this girl right before new years when I was over at my buddy's girlfriends house (who I'm also friends with). I then found out from them that she was really interested in me. And me, never being one to turn down a fine female, said I wouldn't mind getting to know her a little better either. So we started hanging out for a couple of weeks, getting to know each other better, and all that shit. We'd stay there at our friends house alot, starting to get more and more intimate, etc...etc... She was very beautiful, intelligent, and we had a lot in common. Things were really going great. And this whole time she was the one that was pushing things further, wanting to get more serious and all that. Then one night we were all going on a double date (me, this girl, and my two friends). We were all getting jacked up, trying to figure out something to do, when the two girls decide they want to go to a strip club. I'm mean, how fucking cool is that? They had never been to one, and of course me and my buddy had no complaints. So we go to the club, have a great time, and on the way back my girl wants to stop at the porn shop. I thought, "Christ, can this girl be any more perfect." And my friend (the girl) told me that she (meaning my girl) really wanted to fuck that night. I pretty much figured that much, considering all the sex related activities she kept wanting to do, but it's still nice to know you won't get rejected when you put the moves on. We eventually get back to the house, and needless to say, both of us being wound for sound started to get after it pretty quick. After awhile of the four play I go to take her panties off, when she stops me and says she can't cause she's on the rag. I'm like "wtf?" I told her it won't bother me none, but she wants to wait 'til, in her words "it's perfect down there." I respected that, and she said not to make any plans for the next two days cause she could be ready to fuck like rabbits at any time. |
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continued... And that sounded a-ok to me. So we just messed around until it came time for her to go to work. I took her there, dropped her off, and that's the last time I've really talked to her. Can you believe that bullshit? I mean, what the fuck kind of sick game was that. I'm still baffled, still waiting for her to call me. I'll never understand the fucked up logic behind this little fiasco. It blows my mind. And damn she was really hot, and cool as shit too. |
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ever read any E.E Cummings? I've got the exact same thing to you right now. I know what you mean about giving 150% just to make her smile... and then it all gets thrown back in your face... try this: http://www-scf.usc.edu/~thier/ee/#somewhere those two poems at the bottom. they make a lot of sense. I have his complete works. nothing compares. |
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That sucks man. But if I were you I wouldnt give up. You need to convince her the reason she likes being with you so much is because she loves you. She obviously misses her ex if she brings him up all the time but you need to distract her from all that shit and have her focus on you two and how you make her happy or some shit. |
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Ill check those out thanks.... I only wish I knew how to convince her that my feelings for her are TRULY SINCERE...and she is MORE THAN special too me... I do not wanna give up by anymeans, but my hope looks bleak. |
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Yep, it is a pain. Increasingly I am putting myself less and less in situations where other people have control. Call me cynical, call me cold, but I've yet to trust anyone (apart from a few close friends) implicitly. Sorry, bit of a down sounding post there, not what I intended at all. I hope you manage to convince her to give it a go. |
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your thinking is NOT FAR from mine my man...I have been hurt before and it has been a LONG time since something like this happened, but I know I vowed after the last time, I was going to be stronger and very cautios about whom I open up too... It must be that wierd overwhelming power that IS love...I fell completely head over heels for her and I REALLY let my defenses down witthout knowing it...until it was too late. |
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Even when I have "opened up", I never feel girls I've gone out with have done the same back. |
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I don't know where you are in the United States or how near you are to Nevada but I recommend avoiding the following: My girl of four years left me for her best friend's brother back in early September. I rather spontaneously got on a plane the next day with the intentions of washing away my pain in a seventy-two hour binge of debauchery in a way that only Las Vegas can provide. I pounded all the complimentary drinks my liver could handle. I enjoyed all the strippers and whores my wallet could bear. It all sounded like a good idea at the time, but at the end of it all: the pain, loss and sorrow were all still there (in addition to the near fifteen hundred dollar hit my savings account took). Lesson learned - Three-ways with silicone beauties and rampant inebriation cannot mask nor remedy heartache. Overall Moral - Don't let the pain blind you into doing something stupid that you'll regret later. This includes but is not limited to: Inflicting anything upon yourself that will leave a scar (see also tatoos), Smoking Crack, Sleeping with Crack Whores in exchange for your crack, Desperately purchasing a dog you can't afford nor have room for, Sleeping in till four so frequently that you get fired from work and Writing bad poetry that will only serve as an embarassment later when all your wounds have healed and you've met your new Miss Right (and you will, rest assured). We've all been there brother and there is always a next one. Tell yourself this, why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me anways. Her loss, right? Best of luck. |
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yeah i know that feeling 100%. I've been in a bunch of shitty situations and now i feel like a cold and bitter bitch. Arrrgh! |
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I'm sorry to hear that Iron. |
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Send me a photo of her, one of you, and one of the two of you together : pod_child@hotmail.com I'll tell you what to do after I review the pictures. |
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IronLung: Listen to Tundra by Squarepusher, it has such an awesome beginning.... so so so mellow |
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all the things she said all the things she said running through my head running through my head running through my head girls man, girls can just rip you apart sometimes..........you'll catch 'em on the rebound *I'm with ya man* |
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thanks man....Things are looking worse before better...she didnt call today... |
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well, the only thing to do it worry about it I fucking hate that so much. I wish there was a cure. Just to play it cool, and not worry. but it eats at you doesn't it? You can't not think about it. I'm doing the same thing now, reverting to old habits and such. Just don't do anything rash, keep your head up, and keep hoping. Just stay level headed, I'm pulling for ya. |
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your certainly right....It DOES eat at ya... Just my mind jumping to ALL BAD conclusions....All day I could , for small amounts of time, NOT think about it, but it always comes back into mind. Again thanks alot...I APPRECIATE IT |
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yeah ive been thru something like this a few weeks ago... its just time dude... shitty painful time... use it as inspiration, and write a song.. |
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and dont jump to any conclusions about anything... also CRY! feels great after |
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yes, I have cried plenty.... |
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i agree with qda here write it all down it's nice to read it afterwords Keeps you occupied and then something comes of it while you're busy writing away. "Always get dressed when you're depressed." -Timothy Grover |
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After almost 2 days, I have not heard from her or had any inclination that I will even get to talk to her again. I want to thank everyone again for thier kind words...mad me think alot and smile too. I have come to the conclusion that it is HER LOSS, what I had to offer and wanted to giver her was priceless...it was something special...But if she does not want it, than she does not deserve it. I cannot force love, I can only try not to fall into it... At this point she is pretty much gone... Sorry to babble on about this...Its my only outlet. |
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quote: "broken hearts are for assholes" seems like im a asshole... anyway, its definateley their losses, all the time, but does our loneliness disappear from other peoples losses? """ it DIDNT happen, you misunderstood...you STILL have a chance to win her heart and trust"... but than I have to open my eyez and know i am only wishing. """ so true man .( |
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I have just recieved an email from her: Seems she has taken to popping a grip of vicodin over the last couple of days and is " SO CONFUSED"...Says she still wants me in her life and doesnt want to lose me, but has other guys she is seeing too... Man I hate ALL OF THIS>>>>>>>>>> |
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thats tough, now you need nerves. if she finds out you cant handle it the others win... damn shit |
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i'm sure she didn't mean it. Tootsie rolls might win her heart;) |
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James Bond style. Expect anything less? ;) Missing your goofy ass already. |
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feel for you bro :( |
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"Anyone agree heartache is the WORST pain ever?" Jeez, I dunno, man. People have been known to chop their foot off after stepping on a stonefish..... Yeah I've been feeling a little down lately. Because I've never loved anyone in my life (except like how you love your family etc etc) I've had girlfriends, but it was always more of a physical thing. |
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we know how much she has lost |
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BE STRONG, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!!!I know how u feel!! :( I dont really know what to say...its just sad. peace |
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I can only imagine how much that must suck... literally, I can ONLY imagine, because I've never liked anyone. Listen to a lot of music. But that's my solution to everything. Hang in there MetalBreathingapparatus. |
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Oh my god. Reading this thread is like looking into a mirror or something. I know exactly how your feeling ironlung. exactly. its happening to me right now. Basically, i just met the girl of my dreams just before christmas and new year. We were handing out flyers for some crap nightclub for even crapper money. We got talking and as time went on i realised that she was totally into the same things as me. (Music, Going Out, etc). I never really thought about it too much because she is a very beautiful girl and those types of girls are reserved for handsome assholes. However, she invited me to go to a gig with her, a small, local affair. After the gig, she missed her last train home so i offered her a bed at my house. She came back, but we ended up sharing a bed together, although no funny business took place. We simply talked all night whilst listening to The Reindeer Section. I later found out that she had a boyfriend, but she was trying to break up with him as he is a bit of a dick. I never told her, but i was falling in love so much more than ever before. However, we were out one night and she came up to me and started speaking to me like she always would and her boyfriend was hanging around growling at me and being an ass generally. She came up to me before i left and told me everything that i'd wanted to say to her but couldnt. She said that she thought about me all the time and i told her i felt exactly the same. I was over the moon literally. I couldnt belive what was happening before me. Ater years of half-relationships and heart-break, someone was actually telling ME they liked me. Then she asked "where do we go from here". But i said that she would have to ditch the boyfriend before we did anyhting together. She said this was cool. However, after a little spell of not seeing each other we went out with all our friends. I noticed that she was spending lots of time with what i thought was her ex-boyfriend, so i asked her what was happening. She basically told me that she couldnt h |
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oh, thanks, they downsized my thread. thank you very fucking much. i had a real valid point. to make there. fuck it. basically, i'm right here with you ironlung. |
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oh no....... |
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i totally know how it feels to completely connect with someone for it all to fall on its arse. just gotta get on with it, i guess. |
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fuck em' (humans) |
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yeah elusive...I AM STARTING to feel that way...I havent talked to her and she does not seem to be fighting hard for ME.... Im sure those other guys are better for her anyways...let them fight... |
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First off I wanna THANK EVERYONE for ALL thier advice and HELP...It worked more than youll ever know. Now I just ask one thing...The first Moderator to see this, could you please CLOSE THIS TOPIC... I just dont have much more to say that hasnt been said and I think I know how all of this will outcome with her..=( Again thanks everyone...VERY MUCH -LL |
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