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I am thinking about what a person i am. The self help books i read, recommanded that..And I also think about my feelings and needs. I came to realize that my behaviour is not optimal. In that sense that it makes me unhappy, because i can't fullfill my needs. This makes me sad. I am wondering what i can do to not feel that bad about myself, because that is obviously the attitud needed to make a change. The problem is, I am pretty much a loser, so i have nothing to boost my self esteem a bit. I also have no friends i could look for to support myself in this difficult time, only self help books. My thoughts are occupied with myself, and I dunno where this will lead to. |
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"my behavior is not optimal" -- good lucking finding a fully optimized human anywhere. but, the better ones do aim to improve constantly. "i am pretty much a loser" -- by your definition, or society's? it's a healthy thing to identify dysfunction within yourself and tackle it, but it's very UNhealthy to try and toe the line of what society regards as a "winner." people always show their best side on their facebook page and conveniently leave out the pathetic moments that every human being has. by society's standards, i'd say i am a loser. i don't make much money, i don't have many friends; i just stay at home in my workshop all day, building things and playing with 80s audio/video equipment. i have some wistful moments where i tell myself i should get out more, but when i do so i quickly remember why i stayed home in the first place: people are petty idiots, and the "winners" of society are just as unhappy as most of the "losers," if not moreso. |
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so... i didnt read any of your shit. so... kelvin mckenzie IS a cunt. no wait..., more of a cunt? im so confused he was already a cunt, he must be a super cunt! |
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i look forward to wmw's post like a cock in my skull. |
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who the fuck is kelvvin mckenzie |
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go bury your head in the arizona desert |
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i'll forgive you for your remarks as you seem drunk |
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Do you have family that you are close with? do you communicate your struggles with them? |
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very kind, sir. thou my drunken remarks are at least worth the effort compared with your small dick syndrome remarks and your other 14 accounts. |
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i only have one account here. i'd ask ceri to verify it, but you'd still not believe me. you are confusing my small dick with someone else's. |
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...is a wonderful album from Peter Gabriel. |
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Monoid...don`t you get it... |
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the aphex twins stole that riff from phil collins, the first man to use a linn lm-1 ever. |
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Well i compare myself to the people around me, who have the same background. And of course to my parents. All in all pretty avarage people, but i still think i could have it a lot better if i where to change just a bit of my habits. The organization of my everyday life is boring and tiresome. I am asking myself how i could bring myself to do the things i have to do. |
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"I came to realize that my behaviour is not optimal." handclap to that! |
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You need other people to know who you are, it may sound stupid but others are the only mirror you can get for your self. Because without other people it's too easy to mistake who you are for who you would like to be. About your self-esteem, can't you find anything you're good at? Or simply better than the average? |
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if he were mistaking who he is for who he'd like to be, i doubt he'd be so down on himself. those with an excess of spleen are quite harsh on themselves. it's a huge mistake to compare yourself to others and use it as a metric to decide whether or not you should be happy. if you're happy, you just are, and you shouldn't need some external standard for reference. if you are that hard-up for some social contact, look up interest groups in your area. join a D&D game or something, chances are you'll run into a few people on your level. and making a friendship throw is an easier roll of the d20 when they're on your level |
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"...making a friendship throw is an easier roll of the d20 when they're on your level". XLT Gold right thur. Yes Monoid, EpicMegatrax is right, you're probably going to find more people you can connect with amongst the 'losers' (and I mean that in no way shape or form in a disparaging way) than with those that society calls "winners". |
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No, i don't fit in anywhere. Nor do I have the strong urge to belong to a certain crowd. Bassicly I live alone. |
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stop basing your self esteem on what you think people want you to do. just fucking do as you want, fuck people who don't want to be a part of your life. other people are overrated, fitting in just to fit in is pointless. just go out and DO! you want to know how to do the things you have to do? there's no secret, you just have to step outside of your sphere of comfort and do it! objects are far more attracted to an object in motion than a sad little object trying to appear attractive to other objects. or just kill yourself. because if you don't actually do anything, you're a waste of oxygen and resources. |
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"if he were mistaking who he is for who he'd like to be, i doubt he'd be so down on himself. those with an excess of spleen are quite harsh on themselves." I think he uncounsciously wants to be a loser who doesn't fit anywhere. |
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Uh what? Oh no seriously, i was just asking myself where i am not satisfied in my life, and how much that is the fault of myself. Well of course lazyness plays a role in this. |
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lol fag |
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lack of emotional control is a significant problem for most, these days. |
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Homophobia too |
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wasn't that aphex twins just dreamy in 1995? he's a bit old now tho |
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try to bite your own dick, then, if bleeding, try to pour that in....your computer. |
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well I feel like an alien, but I'm into it...but I can get lost in hobbies reading ect and jerks dont matter...you are who you are. |
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Use this link to help Xltronic: http://www.hypertracker.com/go/zsuzer/dubturbo/ Thank you! Let's give this a try and we might have more offers in the future. |
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