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offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 06:27 [#01262022]
Points: 205 Status: Regular



I'm wondering, how many of you come from broken homes, and
how do you feel it has affected your life, outlook,
personality, sexuality even. I come from a broken home, my
mother remarried when I was still young, but I think I've
never fully recovered from the blow of my father leaving
when I was 4 or 5.


 

offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-07-01 06:30 [#01262026]
Points: 9325 Status: Regular | Followup to face pixellator: #01262022



=(

I myself do not come from a broken home...
I have no idea what it's like, but I'm glad I didn't have to
go through with it.


 

offline staplemouth on 2004-07-01 07:06 [#01262060]
Points: 556 Status: Lurker



i dont even remember my father splitting up / divorcing from
my mum. I dont know whenit happened or why or anything but i
dont feel the need to find out why or anything. Dad has been
re-married at least once, but she left him after a while she
had a son too) and dad used to live with the previous
girlfriend/wife and her son for quite some time and i think
they were married too. I used to stay up at his place
sometimes. And now he has a new girlfriend with 3 kids who
live in another state and he might move there and possibly
get married again etc.

I dont know, it doesnt really directly affect me. It kind of
frustrates me when he doesnt approve of my choices or tries
to influence what car i get, what i do on the weekend and
stuff, because i feel that he wasnt responsible enough to
take more care/interest in me when i was younger to have the
right to make those statements.

But you know, he comes over every week for dinner and stuff,
we pretty much just watch tv together. Its a bit awkward and
what not, dont really know what to say. sometimes i feel
like things would be easier if he had just left. But at
least he makes the effort to see me every week and call on
the phone, that is commendable.

Mum has never been remarried or seen any other men.

I cant say for sure whether this has affected my life and
everything, but i mean it must have as i see a psychiatrist
and psychologist for counseling and cognitive therapy, and
take anti depressants for depression and anxiety and social
anxiety. But there are many other factors which contribute
to that, which i may get into at a later time / different
thread. I think it has influenced my stance on drugs
however, because my dad does a bit of drugs here and there.
Im not into drugs at all really, ive had a fascination with
them and have tried weed a few times (stolen from dad) but
it isnt my bag. and i dont plan to take any recreational
drugs in the future.

and im sorry for your hurt, face pixellator.


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2004-07-01 07:10 [#01262061]
Points: 11010 Status: Lurker



im very shy


 

offline The_Funkmaster from St. John's (Canada) on 2004-07-01 08:07 [#01262106]
Points: 16280 Status: Lurker



well our home was broken... but we just paid someone to
repair the roof... so it's all good now!


 

offline jonesy from Lisboa (Portugal) on 2004-07-01 08:13 [#01262112]
Points: 6650 Status: Lurker



My family is as solid as a rock.


 

offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-07-01 08:14 [#01262116]
Points: 9325 Status: Regular | Followup to jonesy: #01262112



hehe "solid as a rock"..
I'm not claiming it's true or the opposite, I just found the
expression funny.


 

offline Mertens from Motor City (United States) on 2004-07-01 08:19 [#01262121]
Points: 2064 Status: Lurker | Followup to jonesy: #01262112



Same here, I won the parent lottery. But finacial problems
have really affected us. Let's just say I know how to deal
with stress.


 

offline jonesy from Lisboa (Portugal) on 2004-07-01 09:35 [#01262192]
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Solid as a rock and bourgeois to boot.


 

offline IronLung from the 91fwy in soCAL (United States) on 2004-07-01 09:36 [#01262198]
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My parents divorced when I was 9 years old and my Father
passed on when I was 11.



 

offline xf from Australia on 2004-07-01 09:38 [#01262200]
Points: 2952 Status: Lurker



my parents divorced when i was young, and i went over 10
years without seeing my dad. honestly can say that it
hasn't affected me in the least; at least, i don't think it
has.

i consider myself reasonably well adjusted. whether that's
the reality or not, i dunno; people can never judge
theirselves accurately.

i seem to be able to deal with situations well, though;
certainly have had my fair share of shit.


 

offline tragedy from Gloucester (United States) on 2004-07-01 09:48 [#01262210]
Points: 4423 Status: Lurker



my dad died when i was young from drugs and what not...
my mum is a pot head.... i've repressed most feelings
twoards my childhood, which has made me a nervous, bitter,
sarcastic, cunt, for the most part.


 

offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 11:18 [#01262302]
Points: 205 Status: Regular



I haven't seen my father since I was five, so I didn't get
that time-share thing - I don't know if that is good or bad.


 

offline deepspace9mm from filth on 2004-07-01 11:33 [#01262316]
Points: 6846 Status: Addict



My dad left when i was nearly 3... it fucked my mum up good
and proper for a while, but i'm glad he went now. I do find
it very awkward seeing him at birthdays / xmas or whatever,
particularly as i have to feign liking the poor excuse for a
man.


 

offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 13:55 [#01262441]
Points: 205 Status: Regular | Followup to deepspace9mm: #01262316



Why do you feign?


 

offline deepspace9mm from filth on 2004-07-01 14:03 [#01262455]
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Just makes things easier in the family... plus if i never
saw him i'd never get to see my two half-brothers. I only
see him very occasionally so i suppose it's not a huge cross
to bear.


 

offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 14:12 [#01262466]
Points: 205 Status: Regular | Followup to deepspace9mm: #01262455



But doesn't it allow him to play down what he did, and its
effect, rather than being honest and open? Doesn't this
somehow let him off the hook and take away his guilt?


 

offline deepspace9mm from filth on 2004-07-01 14:18 [#01262474]
Points: 6846 Status: Addict | Followup to face pixellator: #01262466



Short answer: yeah, i guess so, but i haven't got the energy
to bring all that tension out into the open... too much like
hard work for no gain. Plus i don't want to stir shit in the
family because he can be a bastard to my half-brothers
anyway, and i wouldn't to make things harder on them by
pissing him off. I'm content in avoiding contact with him
for most of the time.


 

offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 14:30 [#01262488]
Points: 205 Status: Regular



How is your mum?


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2004-07-01 14:37 [#01262495]
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Awww.....thats so cute....i would easily fall in love with
you...i just know it :)


 

offline deepspace9mm from filth on 2004-07-01 14:51 [#01262511]
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She's pretty much over the whole thing :D

It was a long time ago. Doesn't really affect us much now.


 

offline face pixellator on 2004-07-01 14:55 [#01262514]
Points: 205 Status: Regular | Followup to deepspace9mm: #01262511



I remember finding my mother in a hotel room on the day she
remarried, weeping. I think I finally figured out why.


 


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