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They call it the "quarter-life crisis". It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but they are as confused as you. You look at your job...and it's not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling onto the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook-ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. |
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You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with you friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loands, money, the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender. What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Life is a compromise... of what your ego wants to do, what experience tells you to do, and what your nerves let you do... . . . . . . . This was sent to ne by a friend, and I know there's a few 20 somthing's here that are/cab get a bit down sometimes (Me included) and I thought thos made alot of sence =o) Hope it helps some of you out pOgO xxxx |
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im 22 and im fine |
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although ive read all that and it does seem familiar from like, 12 months ago in my head |
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Im 20, and some of that rings true for me. But I'm a generally happy bolshevik |
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Thanks for posting that. It's good to know |
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22-24 were really hard years for me. |
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who farted |
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I had that email a year or so back from a friend. I'm happy as larry, despite being in the middle of my finals :) |
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"ooking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom" yeah. :\ |
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that email just made me wanna puke-thanks for bringing those feelings back, even though I will they will re surface again. thanks a lot miss p0g0 :> |
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That's one of the few things I get really bitter about: people doing the same job I do (often less well) and being paid twice as much, simply because they're older. |
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'One night stands and random hook-ups start to look cheap.' so true. I'm much happier coupled up these days. |
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dude im almost 30 ! november will come soon enough |
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*looks for sympathetic 30something e-mail* uuummm..... nope.... your screwed ;op |
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most of the things are true for me, except the the focus on the past |
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Life has been dissapointing. I give it a C-. |
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dude, thats way fun-knee i give life a C+ |
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I got your package (v. fast!), thanks a lot, really :) I'll give a proper email response next week as I'm in the middle of my finals and a bit busy at the mo. Glad you liked the tracks. |
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I'd give life an overall B- |
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I'm 21, and it makes me sick to think that I only have about 13-14 years left before I begin a substantial downward spiral. Sick to my stomach. I've been around 33% longer than that already, and I feel like I just arrived. |
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i can see your way to busy to give me a proper email :) |
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i'm 23 and i feel like i've lived 70years |
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That email tried to encompass every depressed bastard in the world, talk about hedging your bets. I am 26 in four days and it's amazing how old that seems now. The years speed up time flies yadder yadder etc etc |
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I am 23 and I'm soon to die. Cheers... |
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it is true though. I mean, it's like a late adolecence in a way. You do change alot, and alot in your life starts changing too, so it's alot to take in sometimes. You feel you should act more like an adult cause your not a teen anymore, but your still young at heart, so the two things can get a bit muddled in your head. You are right about hedging the bet etc, but that's what the e-mail saying. Everyone feels like this (well, nearly everyone) so it does cover a wide area of people. |
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dude, we were born one day apart. *highfives* |
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only today i had the strong suspicion that the only thing i'd possibly need was a friend like the guy i got to know a year and a half ago - he unfortunately left last summer. then again, i have a lot of friends, but most of them bore me most of the time. maybe this is not the innermost core of the problem though |
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Happy b'day for thurs/sat =oD cheffe - I found my BEST friend I'd lost contact with (loosing mobile numers, moving house etc) on sat, so I know exactly what you mean ! I was so happy I bumped into her in town =oD It's been over a year since I've seen her and she lives up the road !!! |
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ha ha he you'rre all so funny and odd and rred and blue. |
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Something that has cropped up in several things I've been reading of late is that the early to mid 20s are a sign of "false maturity". People are so keen to distance themselves from their (comparatively recent) childish past that they act a lot more mature than they feel. They then have a sort of childish revival around 30-35, one last fling, as they realise their youth is heading south, before "properly" growing up as they approach 40. I tend not to worry about "being mature". I'm sensible with things that are important, who cares how I behave with regard to things that aren't? :) |
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You’d neverr see qrter rrelating to that e-mail. |
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How old is he? He seems like a bitter old man... :P |
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"false maturity" now that is something I DEFIANTLY don't do ;o) *runs round with he pants on her head blowing raspberries* |
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Exactly- like that I'm very immature, when it comes to things that matter like work or where you have responsibilites (like lifeguarding etc.) I'm pretty straight-laced. |
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thanks! it's thursday. 05.27.78 was the day i made my debut as a human. 26 doesn't seem much worth looking forward to though. nothing much cool comes with being 26. |
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I always pictured qrter as an eloquent womanizing bachelor sipping wine in his balcony. Then I realised that I am in the internet. |
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been & gone, thank fuck. |
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I'm all angsty in a totally individual way that would blow anyone away with originality. I sometimes wonder if I'm mature enough for my age, but then again, I hate the general idea of what is seen as "being mature" - a way of thinking wherein someone can cheat on their boy- or girlfriend and completely rationalize it, actually thinking he/she is doing something to empower themselves, etc. and I'm a man. so maturity is impossible to acquire for me. thank fuck. |
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i've been dying my whole life |
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instead of getting better it only gets worse...i had a time of my life between 16-24...it's all shit now... |
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wow, that email was so true wait no it wasnt what do you guys, my friends, think? :-P |
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That is so true! Its good to know im not alone. Especially the part about clinging to the past. Its the unknown that frightens me! :-( |
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28 |
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*knee slapper! |
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"and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender. " Brilliant! |
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I'm21 and have seen someon go through a quarter century crisis. The ystopped goin out, ditched all their friends and started working at a factory after getting addicted to meth. I am 21 and I've thought oen night stands have been cheap since day one. I don't do them. Ihaven't liked getting stupid drunk for years. I will continue to mess myself up but getting to the stage where I can't remember what I'm saying when I'm halfway throug the sentence no longer appeals to me. The people I know, though... I'm convinced I know a lot of bitches and assholes, but I also know some of the greatest people on earth. |
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But yeah that has a lotta lotta truth and wise shit in it, nice on P0g0 |
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thats pretty accurate =( |
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