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help me, some of you seem very bright and wise. how do you tell a friend that you don't want to be his friend anymore? unless he does some serious soul-searching/self-revision? my heart is breaking. I need advice. |
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i had the same situation a while ago i did nothing ... i just didnt reply or call anymore and it looks to be over now - it went pretty easy |
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If you want to tell him you don't want to be his friend any more then you are not a friend to begin with. |
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Be like, *ahem* "I don't want to be your friend anymore unless you do some serious soul-searching or self-revision." |
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just call him up and be like "FIGURE SHIT OUT OR PISS OFF!" |
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lol I think you can do it two ways. One is the method mentioned above. Stop calling, making plans, hanging out. When the friend calls, just act like you feel, uninterested. The other way is a confrontation, but I think people understand that friends come and go, and change, and that that is ok, and you aren't pulling any back stabbing shit or anything, you two have gone different ways. I'd keep it simple and just not really interact with the person anymore, and if you are forced to, act like you feel, indifferent and uninterested. |
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i hope you arre not dumping him when he needs you the most. if he's on drrugs and being a prrick tell him strraight. but if he needs you and you can't be arrsed, then i don't carre do as you will. |
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Sleep with his girlfriend. That should do the trick. |
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i think that would just make them better friends :) |
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if you want to end a friendship, or at least radically change the nature of a friendship, all you have to do is lovingly but firmly grip his genitalia. |
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haha yes |
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so i guess we need more information about what's going on to comment meaningfully on your situation. you may very well have been the best friend that you could be, and yet have reached the limits of your tolerance. anyone who has been friends with people who are manipulative, violent, or have certain personality disorders knows this. i've had to do this twice, by the way. one was a chronic liar who was frequently very disrespectful and may or may not have assaulted his girlfriend, and the other asked me to help him obtain some e so he could secretly dose a girl in an attempt to exploit her sexually. as you get to know people, you might get to know things that you can't accept, and there's nothing wrong with moving on. do not burden yourself with guilt or regrets. |
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you guys are poets. especially you, anus. thanks for the advice. I think I may just shoot myself in the face. or him. or both of us. |
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i don't think anyone suggested THAT! |
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Your first personal topic, and hopefully your LAST. Ho ho ho, just joshin' ya. Hope you can jettison him with little hassle/heartache. Just avoid him and do your own and he'll get the message in due time, I've done that/had that done to me before. |
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oh dear! someone beat their meat too much this morning! |
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Sounds like he'd be better off without you. |
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it's just so odd we've been such good, firm friends since august when I moved here now he almost seems to be someone else... I fear he's turning into someone I don't like |
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it's very simple really: approach it quite like a girl unexpectedly and savagely dumping her boyfriend for seemingly no apparent reason, though as a means to make it all seem "better", as if no real harm is being done, instead of the stereotypical breakup line of "i hope we can still be friends", since this is not a relationship situation, just say "i'm sorry. i don't think we ought to hang out anymore. you're a cunted bastard! i hope i will never have to see the likes of you again!" upon which you ougt to proceed to slam the door shut in his face (if there is one available). |
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thanks manticore you're really, really helpful why don't I just mace him and kick him in the crotch? |
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The brush off works well,just don't interact with him. |
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*spins around to face you in huge leather chair behind desk, fingertips pressed together...* How about a good, old fashioned homoerotic advance on his person, thus scaring him away. If this backfires and he happens to be gay though, you're fucked. |
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i think you're a little mixed up |
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he lives on my street, he's friends with my friends, and he comes around all the time... |
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What? Why? :( |
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homoerotic would be hard to pull off he's a man I am a female I'd have to go drag |
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The comedy value would be through the roof then :D Seriously, in what way is he changing, do you just not like the person he is becoming, or is just turning into a shit anyway? |
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"If this backfires and he happens to be gay though, you're fucked. Hehe,quite literally! |
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ha, tolstoyed, that's bad karma ya know, it will come back and haunt you for the rest of your life.. mark my words |
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this sounds pretty serious.. ..time to bust out those nun-chucks. |
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how do you bust out non-chicks? |
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THAT'S what I mean :D |
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the karma police will get you! |
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what!! |
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even if it wasnt my fault? |
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elementary watson :) your karma-account is being drained at this very moment. no really.. who knows, besides, I've been doing lots of it myself, hehe.. ain't I the little hypocrite |
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blegh. I think he's turning into his scary older brother. I'm starting to just find myself angry at him all the time... he kept following me around at a party last night... somebody just offer me some rationalization so I can mail him to argentina guilt free |
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ok then, you got me scared there for a minute |
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be honest to the bloke..! ask him to stay away from you.. |
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you should be! i know i am... |
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