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I don't know.. I wouldn't feel better if my best friend told me he'd slept with a girl I dated while I dated her even if we broke up a while back... I'd feel worse, actually, that he didn't tell me until now, which he believes to be "an appropriate amount of time later," as if the gravity of any offence becomes less by time. |
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No, the gravity doesn't become less. Its just something that needs to be approached very delicately, and by no means rushed. I think he needs to wait the right amount of time. I am not a judge of when that time is (it could be a day or it could be a year), but I can safely guess that immediately is a bad call. |
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i dont trust her much either. |
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The thing is, for quite a while I felt like this girl was a much better friend to me than her boyfriend. She's a great deal more intelligent and thoughtful and has the soul of a true artist. The deepest conversations I've ever had have been with this girl, and I'm sure that she can say the same. A few days after I told her that our cheating physical expression afterwards felt like nothing more than an actualization of guilt, that we had both mind-fucked each other for months anyway. You guys are making this girl out to be much worse than she is. I can tell that this situation is tearing her apart, and her boyfriend is probably beginning to tell that there is something wrong because she seems to be rapidly losing the ability to show any interest or affection in him. She called me this morning and told me that she doesn't care if everyone knows if we are together, she just wants to spare her current boyfriend of the suffering of having known what happened. She told me that she wants to stay with him until she can find a way to leave him that won't completely crush him, though I fail to see how that would work. Every day is fucking with my head completely. I'm sorry about this emo-fied rants. |
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Also, you guys all say, "oh I would never do that.." And that's exactly what I told myself when I would hang out with her for her strict friendship and innocent company. But it's difficult to look your self-denied love in the eyes in a toddler level mind-capacity drunken state and say no. |
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I don't think she sounds bad. Shes just doesn't seem suited to be in a relationship right now. You can tell her I said that, not that my opinion holds any water with anyone that I don't know in person, as I am no more than some digits on a screen to you all. However, I have experience in these matters. She needs some time away from all of it. 99% of the time, in situations like this the person who ends up worst off will be the third party (you). You seem really sold on her, so even if she is a bad person (and I am not going to assume she is without meeting her) you might not necessarily see that she is. I wish you the best of luck in making a decision that benefits all three of you the most. |
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That second paragraph reminded me that maybe q4zzxx97 should read Phaedrus. |
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Hahaha, she's probably shagging all his other mates and telling each one of them that they're a "special friend" and how this has to be a secret. |
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Most of his other (few) friends seem to despise her, thinking that she's hogging him all for herself. But in fact, he just needs to be with her at all times because of his insecurities. |
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Ignore the nay-sayers and the negative vibes emanating from this thread. If you like her and your feelings are real, then go for it. People get hurt every second of every day, and if this boy gets hurt then so be it - doesn't even sound like he deserves her - sounds like an immature needy clingy cry-baby. Good luck, brother. |
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wait, boyfriend?, wasnt it two girls and you? i totally loose the point... :s anyway, my advice is : always choose love. love must win ! hate must/will die |
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HATE IS AWESOME |
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Thanks for your support Paul. I'll probably let this this thread die out, as it will, though it's nice to talk to someone about this since everyone else I know would gossip right away. |
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Bros before hoes dude! You are a fuckin idiot and should be shoot in the neck!. I hope she cheats on you later in the future. |
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you king of convenience, you :) |
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in all sincere honesty, i think it's absolutely amazing how well you seem to understand another person's situation without even having met him/her. Your answers and points of advice seem spot on. For some reason it just feels like that anywayand i find your sincerity and helpfulness (on this messageboard in general) truly admirable. It feels kind of odd to say this, but i was most overwhelmed by your posts in this thread. and Q4Z2X, i wish you all the strength in the world to get through this. |
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"I was a monoid-caliber virgin" HAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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If she cheated on him she will most likly have no problem cheating on you. BUT, I mean if your looking for a good time, yeah know dating and doing it after renting DVD`s and shit by all means do it ... thats if you don`t give a shit about your friend ;D Something like this happened with my friends who were best buddies. Time past, the chick took off with someone else, they get along now. But dude, like small town girls have small town girl brains. Your gonna fall in love with this girl and get your heart broken, start planning an escape meng. |
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