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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-27 08:52 [#01676746]
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My ex, who i had another holiday fling with @ Glade this year (yes, i'm a muppet) attacked me last night.
She slapped me accross the face sending my glasses flying and i returned the favour - lightly - to snap her out of her hysterics.
Then she started boxing at me - to which i sort of extended my arm to fend her off and keep her out of reach - i didn;t want to grab or restrain her as this would have resulted in her huring herself on me as she was flinging around wildly and out of control.
This resulted in her going to the kitchen drawer and grabbing a spatula and a scissors and lunging at me with the scissors - this wasn;t in defence ias i was backing off and trying to calm her down. I managed to slap it out of her hand and froze her to the spot with a sort of focused shout. She remained tense but stopped moving so much and let me out of the apartment - i was on my way out before she attacked.
I do an martial art and thankfully it saved my ass from hurting her and getting me stabbed. I was pretty shaken afterward but realise that she's got more serious issues than i am willing to deal with and that is that with her after 2 years of on-and-off ness and repeated arguments. Its a pity it had to be physical for me to cop on. What a dope i am. Still - i've learned from it somehow i hope. What a nutjob!
Pity... she loved autechre. Is there a connection? - probably not, but i'd better include some sort of musical reference.
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2005-07-27 09:00 [#01676750]
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that's scary.
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2005-07-27 09:01 [#01676751]
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it's also scary that you kept having that strange relationship with her. but not as scary as her trying to scissor you to crap.
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tftp
from Danver (United States) on 2005-07-27 09:01 [#01676752]
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put it in her butt
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J198
from Maastricht (Netherlands, The) on 2005-07-27 09:04 [#01676755]
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a more appropriate way to put it might be 'trying to scissor you to shards'
with the glasses and all.
or SHREDS!
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2005-07-27 09:07 [#01676757]
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ssh. you'll spoil the moment..
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redrum
from the allman brothers band (Ireland) on 2005-07-27 09:09 [#01676759]
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Christ. What a psycho.
I don't know either of you particularly well, so am 100% unaware of the history that's accumulated into the drama of this incident, apart from the on-and-offness of your relationship - regardless, though, it must've been a pretty scary episode; you seem to have been taken completely by surprise by it.
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-27 09:12 [#01676761]
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Maybe she was just handing the scissors to me at high speed the wrong way around, to make some home-made badges perhaps?
Yep.. we had a very scarey 2 year fling. Shes actually done this before but that last guy beat her up and she stayed with him. Seemed she liked it or something and wanted the same from me - no dice i'm afraid. I don't do that shit. she was beat as a kid and it stuck so now she thinks its normal to do it herself. I hope she breaks the loop but i'm not prepared to stick around to see.
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CS2x
from London (United Kingdom) on 2005-07-27 09:23 [#01676765]
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She needs to be excorcised.
Well done for how you dealt with the situation. I could never deal with people like that...too weak.
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Quernstone
from Padova (Italy) on 2005-07-27 09:28 [#01676776]
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You've been on the board for quite a while and by the sounds of things you are a nice guy and don't deserve this shit. Make your life easier and forget about her.
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weatheredstoner
from same shit babes. (United States) on 2005-07-27 10:15 [#01676797]
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Chicks like that are a dime-a-dozen here in the US. I've only had to slap a girl once and that was because she slapped me first.
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010101
from Vancouver (Canada) on 2005-07-27 10:16 [#01676798]
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I find it hard to see your side of things as you were screwing around. How did she find out?
If you told her you deserve to get scissor stabbed for being stupid....
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-27 10:26 [#01676803]
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er.. who said i was screwing around? I wasn't. This argument was all about her confusion - wanting me as just a casual shag, yet being extremely needy all the time with me. There was no drink / drugs invloved although she does have a taste for taking drugs on her own.
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Aphexisatwin
from your mom's room (United States) on 2005-07-27 10:29 [#01676806]
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LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK (from experience)
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010101
from Vancouver (Canada) on 2005-07-27 10:39 [#01676817]
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yea run...
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PhystPhukt
from The Holiest of Holes (United States) on 2005-07-27 13:33 [#01676934]
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I know its not my business......but what the fuck was she attacking you for?! That sounds scary and random!
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Mertens
from Motor City (United States) on 2005-07-27 13:41 [#01676942]
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So are you gonna break things off or are you coming back for more? I'm putting my money on the latter; all of your posts about her through the years shows that you have a permanent soft spot.
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mylittlesister
from ...wherever (United Kingdom) on 2005-07-27 14:33 [#01676971]
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it's amazing different a single person can be - she seemed quite nice at glade.
she obviously has a tender spot for you as well.
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mylittlesister
from ...wherever (United Kingdom) on 2005-07-27 14:34 [#01676972]
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it's amazing how....
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behindthebeats
on 2005-07-27 17:33 [#01677063]
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went to glasto with my bipolar girlfriend - she said she had to throw the bread knife in the bushes coz she wanted to stab me with it.
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behindthebeats
on 2005-07-27 17:35 [#01677069]
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if that wasnt bad enough it transpires she actually did stab her last boyfriend ./
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stilaktive
from a place on 2005-07-27 17:39 [#01677078]
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where do you fellows find these people? FREAKS! you just love supporting cripples.
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b6662966
from ? on 2005-07-27 18:34 [#01677099]
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you fuckin wife beater
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Dannn_
from United Kingdom on 2005-07-27 19:04 [#01677106]
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That is what all autechre fans are like
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earface
from somewhere (Yugoslavia) on 2005-07-27 19:40 [#01677114]
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Christ Almighty! How did you manage to upset her? Do you think she needs some kind of help?
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earface
from somewhere (Yugoslavia) on 2005-07-27 19:41 [#01677115]
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She seemed so grounded when you both.
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earface
from somewhere (Yugoslavia) on 2005-07-27 19:41 [#01677116]
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*when I met you both* even
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i_x_ten
from arsemuncher on 2005-07-27 19:44 [#01677117]
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HOLLA Missy be puttin it down HOLLA Missy be puttin it down HOLLA
Missy be puttin it down I'm the hottest round I told y'all moter-uhh Y'all can't stop me now Listen to me now I'm lastin twenty rounds and if you want me PEOPLE then come on get me now (YES) Is you with me now (YES) then biggie biggie bounce (YES) I know you dig the way I sw-sw-switch my style (HOLLA!!)People sing around (YES) Now people gater round,now people jump around
[Chorus-repeat 2X] get your freak on,go get your freak on,go get your freak on,go get your freak on,go HOLLA get your freak on,go get your freak on,go getcha getcha getcha getcha getcha freak on HOLLA
(four second pause)
[Missy] THAT YOUR CHICK?People you don't know? Me and Timbaland been hot since twenty years ago What da dilly yo,now what da drilly yo If you wanna battle me then PEOPLE let me know (HOLLA!!)Got to feel it son HOLLA Lemme throw you some HOLLA got the feeling son HOLLA let me throw you some
[Chorus]
[Missy] QUITE!!!!!!! Sssshhhhhh,hush yo' mouth QUITE!!!!!!! Sssshhhhhh hush yo' mouth I know you feel me now (YES)I know you hear me loud (YES)I scream it loud and proud (YES)Missy gon' blow it down (YES)
People gon' play me now (YES) in and outta town (YES) Cause im the best around(YES) with this crazy style
go,go,go,go,go get your freak on get your freak on get your freak on get your freak on get your freak on get your freak on getcha,getcha,getcha,getcha,getcha freak on
[Chorus]
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-28 03:41 [#01677207]
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i'm never looking back.
The only tie between us now - for i've nothing left at her place and she has nothing at mine - is that i owe her 150Euro for accidently standing on her glasses @ Glade. The only reason she didn't loose it with me then was cos we were on our own in a foreign country.
Well i'm thinking she can fuck right off if she' thinks i'm gonna give her it - call it compensation for assaulting me. I suspect though she won't even bother asking for it. The girl needs help alright.
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Ceri JC
from Jefferson City (United States) on 2005-07-28 04:34 [#01677241]
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I'd not think twice about not giving her the cash back. If you must, or she starts ringing you up asking for it etc, mail her a check/paypal it to her. In no circumstances meet up with her to give it to her. I hope you've learnt not to get romantically involved with headcases, no matter how attractive or interesting they might be.
As an aside, it's a nice feeling when the martial arts training pays off in situations like this, isn't it (even though of course, you'd rather it never happened)?
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tolstoyed
from the ocean on 2005-07-28 04:39 [#01677242]
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yeah, martial arts trainings should be obligatory before getting married.
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-28 05:03 [#01677262]
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This is the first time i've ever had to use martial arts in reality. I;m glad it helped me have my wits about me and cop on in the heat of high emotion.
The incident was chaotic, emotive and i definitely tunnel-visioned but i managed well out of it and totally controlled by physical/mental state as it all happened. Of course, i should have been a helluva lot more pre-emptive about it months ago but love is blind.
She just emailed me her bank details for loidging her cash - i told her for tha assault, no dice.
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redrum
from the allman brothers band (Ireland) on 2005-07-28 05:14 [#01677266]
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word of warning -
not paying her the money could come back and bite you. have you never seen judge judy? :D
failure to reimburse her the money for the glasses will only serve to keep contact between you. if you don't pay her, she has valid reason to call you or call in to your house. if you do pay her, she has no reason whatsoever to contact you and you can leave her behind and get on with your life.
if she takes action against you in the small claims court she will win, no doubt about it. i'd really just pay her the money - 150 quid isn't too much to leave her behind and get on with your life, is it?
just my two cents..
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DeleriousWeasel
from Guam on 2005-07-28 05:20 [#01677271]
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and we saw when you were slapped by Ben.
crap Keyfumbler thats really awful, I hope you won't be emotionally scarred as a result of this but if you want to look on the brightside at least you're out of that relationship and start fresh. I just totally used this girl who I barely know after two dates in which quite a bit happened I just sent her a text telling her that I'm not really needing a relationship right now. I havent got a reply but this has made me paranoid she's gonna turn up at my house with scissors now she's realised I totally used her. Good luck moving on.
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Ceri JC
from Jefferson City (United States) on 2005-07-28 05:20 [#01677273]
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If she has sent bank details, I'd pay her ASAP, if you can possibly afford it. As redrum says, you'd be hard pressed to get a restraining order put on her while she has grounds for calling round (outstanding debts). Pay her the money (as I said earlier, do it via some sort of remote transfer of funds, not a face to face).
After that, if she gets in touch, tell her to leave you alone or you'll contact the police. If she persists, get a restraining order whacked on her.
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marlowe
from Antarctica on 2005-07-28 05:22 [#01677276]
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Maybe she is a angel come to kill you for something you've done?
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redrum
from the allman brothers band (Ireland) on 2005-07-28 05:24 [#01677280]
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that personal and irrelevent story wasn't slipped in there too gracefully.
let's stay on topic, shall we? I don't think anyone really cares to discuss your integrity or flings
:s
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big
from lsg on 2005-07-28 06:38 [#01677340]
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goddamned shitwhore
what did you use? aikido?
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DeleriousWeasel
from Guam on 2005-07-28 07:23 [#01677360]
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sorry I didnt mean it, just typed what I was thinking.
back on topic >
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i_x_ten
from arsemuncher on 2005-07-28 07:43 [#01677379]
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look, you
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-28 08:05 [#01677401]
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CeriJC.. i think you're right. Best get rid of her altogther. I was just annoyed at her demanding money after she assaulted me, even if im owed it to her. I'll lodge it tomorrow.
She rang about 20 tomes there but i turned my phone off.
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big
from lsg on 2005-07-28 08:15 [#01677412]
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and this is what you gave up giving up masturbation for !
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earface
from somewhere (Yugoslavia) on 2005-07-28 19:52 [#01678045]
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Keyf, I don't want to highlight things for you, but it sounds like you've had a pretty rough time of it at late (Pappy and Emma). Don't forget that you have plenty of mates here at good ol' XL. Plus, when I finally get my work handed in (15th August), you will always be welcome to come and visit me here in sunny Cardiff. :)
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-29 07:58 [#01678303]
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Thanks tom.
I'm a positive mofo anyway and won't let this shit get me down. I'm off to oz for a year next april and have some great mates around me here at home too.
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-29 08:14 [#01678320]
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just got this txt from emma after i told her to stop bothering me after she texted:
"You deserved every belt i gave you. I would repeat those blows in an instant. Don't you EVER ever forget those smarting sensations, or the bruised ego"
says it all really. Sad
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ecnadniarb
on 2005-07-29 10:13 [#01678493]
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Don't give her a penny. An unintentional accident which is not caused by negligence does not warrant liability. Just ignore all direct contact with her. Don't even text. If she appears out of nowhere contact the police. A girl once held a knife to my throat and she has a scar to prove it.
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KEYFUMBLER
from DUBLIN (Ireland) on 2005-07-29 10:48 [#01678523]
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i paid up already as i said i would when were were on friendly terms and it was a stupid accident stepping on her specs anyway. She has a thing about money and if i didn't pay, she'd cause massive trouble i'm sure. Its worth it to get her out of my hair and avoid further hassle. Done now anyway.
Friends are saying i should contact the cops, especially with that text she just sent but i want to just forget it all. Christ i sound like the typical victims of abuse you read about - i guess i am in a way. Lucky it only went so far... my eyes will be open next time
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virginpusher
from County Clare on 2005-07-29 10:53 [#01678528]
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Brandon is right. This is kind of common in the US. haaha.
Sorry to hear of it though. I have seen it and heard about it a lot. My buddy had a knife thrown at his head and it hit him. My other buddy had a knife pulled on him.
Seriously, if you physically threatened my saftey or the saftey of my friends you are getting jacked in the face proper. No if ands or buts. Regardless of sex, race, age, etc etc. The minute you pull a weapon on someone you are creating an explosive situation.
Props to you for keeping your cool. I would have thrown a roundhouse.
I've had enough of this weapons crap
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earface
from somewhere (Yugoslavia) on 2005-07-30 13:22 [#01679416]
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Don't bother with the cops.
This comment is obviously shot through with my own experience with Emma but: she's pretty uncompromising to say the least.
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