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Im over 25, thought i keep ya updated, I'm going to live together with my girlfriend as of this Saturday (2 April). I'll be moving to a new city as well (Utrecht; qrter, let me buy you a drink one night) Any tips, advice? Big mistake? Eternal joy? etc. In short, what are your experiences. |
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advice: stay clear of qrter. |
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that's probably very sound advice |
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i thought i had some advice, but i can't remember it now. sorry. |
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anything at all would suffice, really. I mean, as 'go for it lad' for example |
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*acts cliché* well, i guess it's a bit late to say 'DON'T DO IT'... so, good luck with it all :) |
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remember to make time for yourself. |
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haha well thank you anyhow :) |
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Figure out the division of labor/chore responsibilities early on. I made a thread about this when I was your age and fleetmouse gave me that advice and I always remembered it and it made my life so much easier. Also, be prepared to never have sex again. |
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Okay I'll remember the first bit but I'll pretend I never read the second bit (until I talk to you again in a few months maybe...) :D Do you still have a link to that particular thread? |
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how do u prepare for that? |
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when you start getting frustrated, talk about it. cause, it will end up manifesting its self one way or another if you don't. usually in a way that isn't good. |
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No, but I've been looking for it. Everyone was very supportive and there was plenty of good advice in there. A real shining moment for xlt. I moved in and have been quite happy for 2 years now. No real complaints. Mozeltov! |
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Thanks! I haven't been active on here for a long while, but I have kept up with everyone else's posts, and that 's why I'm asking you lot. I know you are an intelligent bunch that can can provide me with honest advice. I don't expect to have any REAL complaints, either. It's give and take, as they say, isn't it? |
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I would like to wish you the best! I sat and tried to think of some good advice but i blanked out! I hope things work well! |
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yea i hope things work out well too .. enjoy your new-found life. this thread made me go :) human nature and the human condition can really be quite beautiful. coltrane's my favourite things is making me waffle - you need only read the first paragraph. however if you've reached this far then, errr |
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...that thread is well and truly lost... |
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enjoy it man :) |
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but don't complain too much or he'll think you're a bitch. she, i mean. |
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it was 2003 so i think the search won't let you get it. also there is a very good chance i deleted the entire thread, i wouldn't put it past me. |
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supposed to be a reply yo mylittlesister^^^ |
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wow. |
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the one that got away |
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I moved in with my girlfriend last year, its extremely difficult. Girls are like attention leeches. The relationship inevitablybecomes a lot different too, after you move in together. It seems like it won't, but it does. Living with your girlfriend is unnecessary unless you're having children. I am extremely glad my girlfriend is moving out later next month. the end |
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Go for it lad... And avoid the getting on each other's nerves thing. It sucks. |
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welkom to Utrecht my friend! Enjoy.. |
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ehh bryce_berry I hope it won't be that bad :) Thanks everybody! |
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I quite enjoy living with my girlfriend. I never get lonely, and there is always somebody there to lounge around with. I have had one bad experience living with a girl, and three good ones, so as long as you two set your boundries and stick to them (and make sure the other knows when they are about to cross the boundries) then you should both be happy. |
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By that I mean, I have lived with four girls, and three of those girls have been great. |
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respect and communication. |
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my main advice is to get a lock put on your bedroom door. that way, when she's running late for work and realizes she's forgotten her work shoes or something of the sort and has to turn around and go back to the house to grab them, she doesn't catch you jerking off because she hasn't been "doing her job" (eye roll here). |
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compramise and respect |
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When you feel like going down the pub/coming home late, tell her so she doesn't worry, but make sure you tell her, not ask permission, e.g. "Hi love, just to let you know, I'm going for a ride with the lads, I'll be back about 11." Not, "Hi Love, I was wondering if it'd be okay for me to go to out for a ride tonight? I'd probably be out till 11, but I could be back earlier if you want". Adopt the latter technique and she'll thnk she owns you and have a go when you try the former at a later date. Do the former from the onset and she won't have grounds for complaint. Similarly, if you think she's ever being unreasonable, say so, don't apologise/do as she says, just for a quiet life, even if she turns on the waterworks. You might have to "smooth things over" and comprimise in the work place/with flatmates etc. normally, but you should be able to be honest with your partner. If she wants to do something/go somewhere you're not interested in, just say so. Don't mess around, just say so, "No, I really don't fancy that." Don't go along and be a mopey git/resent her for it. Similarly, don't drag her to IDM gigs if she hates the stuff. Naturally, let her behave in a similar way; don't expect her to be a model stepford wife, let allow you to do as you please. |
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dont trust any one.. |
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I hope you are behaving, these days! ;) |
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If that doesn't work there's always the leather belt... |
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Which, in my case, is a good thing BTW :P |
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...kinky :P |
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The stangle/orgasm thing is a recommendation ;) |
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*stRangle |
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Well keep practising then, until you do a proper job! ;) |
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I will practise the strangling on you then! |
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lol |
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its ok to leave the toilet seat up if shes out, so long as you remember to put it down again just before she gets back. |
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HaHaha! |
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well, i'm living with my gf from May 2003 and life is good. just one thing... i hope your gf likes Electronic Music :-) |
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Thanks all. I've read some honest stuff in the comments above :) I'm really looking forward to it but I know I'm going to miss my student life... At least for a while... Woofer + Ceri: Actually she is coming with me to see Autechre :) She's quite ok with my electronic music. I keep telling her 'this next song is going to be really weird, just so you know' and she'll like the track. I made her an Ae mix cd when I was still in the wooing phase (worst idea ever but it turned out just fine). Glad many of you love living together, hope we'll manage alright, too. |
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Yikes! Good point. Had any experience with that sort of trouble? ;) |
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