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offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-08-05 18:46 [#01296516]
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If a friend tells you she's really down and sad and that
her selfesteem is incredibly low (though she may use other
words; but that's what she's expressing) what do you tell
her?
This is over the phone that is, if she calls you up. I mean
one could always hugh the person if she was around, but in
this case she isn't.
So what do you do; what do you tell her to cheer her up?
Is there anything that can be told?

thanks in advance.


 

offline Gwely Mernans from 23rd century entertainment (Canada) on 2004-08-05 18:48 [#01296521]
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she wants temperary hope, but i really wouldnt know what to
say, its awkward... this is why im single.


 

offline mortsto-x from Trondheim/Bodø (Norway) on 2004-08-05 18:49 [#01296523]
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Since she is a friend of you, I bet you know that much
better than the rest of us.


 

offline corrupted-girl on 2004-08-05 18:50 [#01296526]
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well focus on her strengths and encourage her to express
them.


 

online big from lsg on 2004-08-05 18:51 [#01296530]
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just being there i guess
even on the phone maybe. let silences be or just talk about
what you've been doing today. saying that she's cool and
life is fun will not help much, so..


 

offline ecnadniarb on 2004-08-05 18:54 [#01296532]
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Tell her to meet you in person obviously. The phone is an
impossible thing to effectively communicate with a friend
over.


 

online big from lsg on 2004-08-05 18:56 [#01296539]
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ey,
did you listen to my track?
it's okay if you havent or if you didnt like it


 

offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-08-05 18:56 [#01296540]
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well... she's back in her home town and I am far away from
that place + it's night here and she just phoned me.


 

offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-08-05 18:57 [#01296543]
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what I mean is... she's far away and it's night. So we can't
meet now... I had to deal with it over the phone. I am not
the reason she's down - that'd make the whole mess a lot
easier.
It's about other people and quite a lot about her low self
esteem.


 

offline ecnadniarb on 2004-08-05 18:58 [#01296544]
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The tell her to meet you tomorrow or as soon as possible (if
she is a good friend). Other than that, just listen to her
and don't offer an opinion on anything.


 

offline Key_Secret from Sverige (Sweden) on 2004-08-05 19:02 [#01296551]
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ok, she might be in town (where I live) tomorrow, so if she
is, I'll be sure to meet her.
thanks for the advices, people. I guess nothing beats
meeting physically.


 

online big from lsg on 2004-08-05 19:05 [#01296555]
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you're adorable key_ :)

ecnadniarb did you see post [#01296539] ?


 


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