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Background: A 6 month relationship from april last year. I broke up with her, quite suddenly, as she just started getting on my nerves and i found her too into pills/coke when i was leaving that behind. She was mega-cold with me afterwards when we bumped into each other through mutual friends. I've wanted to remain buddies cos we goton well but she froze be out completely. then suddenly, months after i last saw her in a club: "Hello, not sure if its you but I want to dicsuss a few things, if thats ok" So i wrote back asking hows it going and that i'd be up for a coffee sometime. "do you mind calling up to me? i sprained my ankle and am off work and on crutches" So i says sure, on the weekend sometime and she txtd back saying if i could come around tonight that'd be good. So i'm thinking - what the fuck? a) She's injured, bedridden, bored and suddenly decides to contact again but without any deep conviction. b) She's heard i'm off travelling and wants closure c) She's horny, hasn't had any for a while and i'm in for a delicate plastered-legover bonanza! I must admit, all i'm thinking of is c) but i'm sure it's just some silly idea about clearing the air she has. Damn! She has a few nice bedroom tricks! |
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i think a |
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she wants cock ride her till the plaster melts |
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since you are a man you obviously want to choose c, but in reality she is probably a. |
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well, no harm investigating... seeing what's up... |
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a, b and c with a bit of d (she loved it) |
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d) She's pregnant |
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actually i'm really looking forward to seeing her as we broke up under messed up circumstances. I really feel it was the drugs that got in the way and i'm hoping that when i meet her she'll have a bit more depth this time. She wasn't half superficial before - like dealing with a bank-clerk. i'd be glad if we were just mates though. I don't think i could handle being a fuck-buddy although i know she's had them before. |
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i'd feel sooooooo sorry for her if she was pregnant.... she's not motherly at all (another thing that put me off her) |
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ha ha!! :D pWNED!!! |
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d. congrats keyfumbler, you're a dad. |
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its either a or c.. but it depends on what kinda relationship you had.. |
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DUDE... everytime i even talk with my ex... it's like we both feel a warmth... it sux. for both of us, we both always feel a "rekindling" of the relationship... (this is after 5 years of living together) my heart will always be with her... a small part anyways. je t'aime Sarah. |
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this reminds me of what a wise man said once.. "every man dies, not every man really lives" mm.. |
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hahaha |
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there's no way shes preggers 6 months after we broke up with my kid.... i've seen her out and about clubbing, so if she is.... i'll give her what-for for child abuse! |
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DeLtoiD ...so what stopped you making it work? |
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invite her over with some other people and see how it goes If she's cool then get her on her own =o) |
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did I win? |
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qrtr you own. :x it wasn't mutual... i still sit here (one year after breaking up) seeing the many ways that it could have worked... it was her decision. not mine. |
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pOgO...thats a good bloody idea. The thing is i've said i'd drop over tonight and i know she'll be on her own cos she made a point of saying she's let me know whether her cousin would be around or not, having arranged that he'd maybe be there tonight. She txted and said he wouldn't be and i so could call up. A little odd perhaps? I'm feeling some sort of confrontational thing coming on. She could never talk to me with friends around. It's starting to smell - but even if its worst case scenario, i'm instrigued. (part of this is a lack of anything dramatic happening in my life the past month and i think we all need a little drama) |
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could you say that your not feeling to good and perhaps re arrange it for tomorrow Or get one of your mates to play the pain. Take him with you, and tell her that you couldent get rid of him or something. |
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women can be really sneaky when they want to! :) |
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garaunteed action m8 |
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women are the EPITAMY (sp) of sneaky |
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Quay Fumbler: She just wants to talk man. Add booze to the mix though... HAHhahahahahahahhaha, dilema matey. |
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well we need to buy with you guys =op |
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do i sound like i'm too worried here? i'm looking forward to her getting me on her own, playing hwer mindfuck games (or not) and leaving me with all my preconceptions arse-about-face! Best case scenario: - we get on great yet they'res no attraction.. friends again Worst Case Scenario: - she is pregnant with fumblerjunior or - she can't stop think of me and lets analyse why i broke up with her Realistic Scenario: - i go over, she's the same as ever, i leave having wasted quality tv time |
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Worst case scenario: She goes on this forum and reads this thread |
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ha ha ha ! |
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whatever happens you don't have to see her again after tonight if you don;t want to Go over, have a chat, if things start getting a little strage just tell her |
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Just... fucking... eat her. |
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so what did she wanted ? |
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Yeah man I wanna know what happened now! haha Depends on the person, you can't tell ALL women would be probably just wanting to talk, that's a generalisation if ever I heard one. Depends on the girl. Some of my Exes I'd just not have replied to (or told them to fuck off and die), some of them I'd go over and have a chat with, one particular one I'd try and get in her pants |
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ok. Looks like the best case scenario occured. It was fucking weird cos when i went into her flat the first tune i heard was an "Inculabula" track by Ae! I introduced her to Autechre and she fucking has most of their stuff now. After the thread yesterday on girls vs. autechre - it was bizzare! So we cought up on each others goings-on since we broke up last august. She done a fucking ton of drugs after i dumped her, she found it hard to get involved with guys and she just was pretty much in crap form for a good while. (i was surprised as most girls i know who gewt dumped go on a all-out fuck fest) Recently though she has beeny executing a major reality-check and i was part of the whole closure deal. She bloody looked anorexic to me but says she has been off drugs for 5 weeks and getting into organic foods and stuff. Shes an electronica nut and we listened to music for hours (Mum, sigor ros, ae, plaid) and chatted about loads of stuff. I get on great with her but there is absolutely zero sexual attraction there now - especially with her ass all skinny and shit so its was a good reunion with minimum headfuckery. I didn't get the impression at all she was after me or anything, just wanted to clear the air and let me no face to face i was a cunt when i finished it.... which i knew anyway but can appreciate her needing to tell me.... but we got on fine after that. Alls well that ends well and shit. If only she looked hot, had that same big ass i used to love and was all horny! Oh well.... |
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that's a fantastic quote. and also prretty sad. |
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great story, keyfumbler. does this mean you'll be seeing her more often from now on, or was it just a reunion? if it is the case that you'll be seeing her more often, be very careful. a couple of weeks ago i met an ex on msn and had a nice chat with her. about a week ago i met her in person and again had a nice chat with her. and the last couple of days she's been bugging me every day, calling, msning.... in conclusion: if you just want to be friends, be sure to keep enough distance. before you know it, you're having the same relationship all over again. and the worst part is; it could be the same relationship except for one thing: NO SEX |
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goDel - i hear ya! Perhaps then i shouldn't have txt'd her 5 mins ago saying i was glad the air was cleared and if their was any electronica gigs coming up we should head out to it? Doh! Actually i think we'd be great friends and she's not the parasitic type.... i got a ton of music to lend her and her me and we both talked about we're the only folks we know who are into sitting around appreciating IDM of an evening. The no sex thing is a constant annoyance to me no matter who i'm not having it with!! |
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it all depends on what you want, of course. in my case i would be satisfied if i had contact with my ex once every week or something like that. if you dont mind seeing her every day to exchange music and stuff, please go ahead. personally, i dont think it'll work. it's like looking the other way and acting like you havent had a 6 month relationship with her. i dunno. if it works for you, why shouldnt you? |
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The no sex thing is a constant annoyance to me no matter who i'm not having it with!! hahaha |
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sounds like my ex, she's hits the meth even harder than i do. fucking good riddance. What is it with girls and not being able to handle fuckign drugs? All the people I know who get sucked into the void, they're all girls. |
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Yeh... i mean a few tablespoons of disolved Rohypnol and they're passed out for hours. <- s h o c k i n! |
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so i guess it was (b): looking for resolution after all. whoda thunk it. most girls i know who gewt dumped go on a all-out fuck fest it's a strange thing; you hear about these girls, people say they exist, but i (when single) was never privy to such fuck fests. let me be your silver medal, baby. |
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I know a lotta girls who got too far into like freebasing meth and taking pills mostly. Me and my mate do a this a bit..... but we never wet totally outta control like some of these girls. I don't mean can't handle liek they get fucked up (but a lot of the ones I know certainly start out liek that) I mean they get addicted really badly. My mate got this girl at his work onto pills and 6 months later thes a meth head who rarely sleeps. We went around her house and she's popping out to vomit every hour or so it's fucked up. And don't even get me started on coke. sorry. just have some real strong feelings on the subject |
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yeh... this ex was a 150 squid a week coke head for a year before i met her... she was a very insecure person with few real friends. she says shes clean now and i reckon she'll be alright.... she's already purged a few of her old drug cronnies which is the first step to kicking it cos its seen as such a social thing... |
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sounds a LOT like my ex |
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