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In my quest to rid myself of this 6 month spell of singledom nonsense, and having not much success in the general social scene via pubs/clubs, i'm half-thinking of giving this a bash. 20 guys and 20 girls meet in a pub. You got 3 minutes to talk with each girl then *dong, a bell rings and you move onto the next person. If you click with anyone, you mark a card and if they click with you too a match is made and *bam you're both informed and the rest is future... Whatcha think? |
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i think 'try harder' |
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haha! this was attempted a while back at the student-bar here in Bergen! Two people I know enrolled, and when the thing started, I went up to check how many chicks there were.. hahaha! there were three fat guys, one of which were standing in a corner, sweating!!! |
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shame that nowadays ppl are doing such stupid things. i dont have anything against planned dates with someone founded through some agency , but man, really, making a *ding show from ( possibly ) your all life partner is just like laughing straight into your face, along with words " HAHA SHMONCK ". MORE DIGNITY, PLEASE |
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erm... what?! |
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i tend to do it the normal way. Meeting a girl in a pub and talking to her. i have a girlfriend at the moment and i intend to have sex with her later on today. But good luck with your speed dating and i hope it pays off. But until then, can i recommend masturbation? It's a close second. |
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in short - DONT DO IT< IT"S STUPID |
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you sound like you're from nyc. it's a soooo typical nyc dating style |
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BEST FUCKING LINE EVER! "but man, really, making a *ding show from ( possibly ) your all life partner is just like laughing straight into your face, along with words " HAHA SHMONCK"." |
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really why cant pl ljust do to the pub and talk, like bill said - thats normal. whats so special in this whole *ding stupidity fast date ??? its juts making fools of yourself. imo of course |
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aphextriplet is actually correct - i'm particularily bad at making an effort in this regard. I kinda don't think there should be an affort and in a way, this speed dating lark takes the effort out of it. Its a case of "score" or not... no grey area, no what-ifs, no whats-my-next-move. I agree that those things can be part of the adventure of seeing a chick and chatting her up, but i admit, i just get too damn nervous and the adventure turns into a chore. Drunken Mastah: they're organised in such a way as its 20/20 or nothing. |
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Go for it Keyfumbler. Several of my (female) workmates have done it and it's a good laugh if you go with a mate. Totally know what you mean about the anxieties induced by the grey area, that awful will-she-won't-she zone. Speed dating's a good way around it, and the match-match only response format dampens the pain of rejections (in that you don't have to receive a dozen rejections from people you weren't interested in anyway!). Oh and my female workmates that went were well worth a poke. So from my sample of 2, the quality of ladyfolk is excellent. :p |
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A note of advice: if I were you I'd prepare some small talk, a short anecdote about something interesting that happened to you that week, whatever. Something you don't mind rehashing 20 times if the spontaneity is lacking. You'll thank me when you're in the battlefield, awkward silences falling left and right like napalm, and the fog descends upon your conversational faculties. |
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thank you VLetr. I've heard the same from friends and know some chicks who've gone and they're damn nice. anyone hear tried this themselves? |
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it's totally indicative of today's consumerist fucking greedy culture. They want the fast food version of romance. They're not willing to put in the effort. I tell you in all seriousness, man, put in the effort. it's worth it. You might fall in love. You will never meet a genuine person through speed dating. Just damaged men-hating women wanting a quick fuck. Which isn't a bad thing if you want a quick fuck, but it's not my thing. i like to take my time with a woman. romance her a bit. tease her a bit. pretend to be a bit shy. pretend to be uninterested. Then KA-BLOW!!!!! I'm in like a dog eating beetroot and she can't get enough. Then i get bored and dump her then the whole thing starts again. |
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bill_hicks: i hear ya but can't i do both? plus if i feel the gal is a superficial cow, she ain't getting ticked on my card (if you knwo what i mean) |
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how can you find that out in five minutes? |
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It does all fit into the trend of making everything quick, MTV fast cut, a new lifestyle a week, keep up to date, be modern! be modern!! But the fast food bit is only for the initial hook up. It's not like any successive meetings can only last for 3 minutes! After you've been connected by mutually liking one another, the whole business proceeds exactly as it would from any other circumstance of meeting. The tease. The shy ruse. The ka-blow. The boredom. The dump. I think it's a perfectly reasonable way of making the initial connection a little less random. For one thing, the venue will be better lit than your average club. Which has gotta be a good thing. |
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By making snap judgements! ;) Seriously though, you can usually tell within about 30 seconds... especially if you're steering the conversation to find that out. |
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it takes two to have a conversation. if you take complete control of a three minute conversation, you can be SURE the other person doesn't like you... |
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I said "steering"- there's a difference between dominating a conversation and subtly changing its course. You know, ask something about them that will make them likely to reveal if they're superficial. Ask them if they are interested in fashion, popular music, what films they like, etc. |
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those questions are no different from a normal date.. and quite often, you won't even come back from a normal date with more than half an impression of what the person is like... |
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Okay, easiest way- go to the speed date dressed scruffily and with a couple of days stubble. In spite of this, be very witty and pleasent. You will automatically "filter out" the superficial girls who will be judging you on your appearence :) |
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that MAY work. do that, keys! |
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and th eprogram will end with one "unoccupied" member. you |
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I did it and i hated it - never again. The level of small talk was horrible. It was like groundhog day with the same conversation over and over again, and mostly materialistic (but quite good looking) girls asessing your marriage potential based on their estimation of your ability to financially provide for them. |
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I think you're better off joining the bachelor or something like that.. maybe "the millionaire" (the one where they pretend a normal guy is a millionaire, and have lots of hot chicks trying to get a lil' sumthin' sumthin' (50% of all you own!)) |
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man these things sound like a hell of a laff ! I say go for it =o) There's not much you can get out of someone in 3 mins, but it's good practice in starting conversation etc |
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weren't you planning on appyling for big brother at some point in your existence? |
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yeah, I sucked didn;t even get past the first stage =o( The whole process was a bit silly though in all honesty. I recon they stick to sending in a tape |
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ok. I was kind of hoping you had gotten in... would be nice to actually be able to ask someone who had been in that show without twenty cameras around how it was, and if it's really real! |
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Big Brotha ? Big Brotha is impressed to hear that ! |
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Everyone who does this speed-dating thing must assume you can't know someone in 3 minutes - you'd have to be retarded to think that. Everyone must be relying, like me on the click-factor. any previous g/f of mine has been someone i just clicked with instantly so i'm confident enough to make a judgement, not on converstaional facts but on general demeener, vibes, etc. TokyoJo: i'm prepared for that. If its the case they are odd-ball gold diggers, they'll know in 2 seconds that they just bummed out with me, then what will they do? I admit having to sustain the next few minutes with groundhog day style chit chat maybe crappy but everyones in the same boat surely. |
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To be honest, the whole thing seems really sad and is one step away from joining a dating agencey. |
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You have to remember though that you'll be "Selling" youself in 3 mins so you won;t really know much about that person, only the good things |
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yeah.. people won't go "I want to eat all your toes with mushrooms on!" |
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