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advice please; My situation. In just over a weeks time I am supposed to be leaving Japan and moving to London. I was feeling good about this - loads of family and friends there, and I love Japan but it has been doing my head in a bit last couple of years. All was well. Saturday night: Walking to a party in Tokyo, my Austrian mate Ambros was joking with me "I bet you fall in love tonight and then you dont want to leave..". Hohoho I scoffed at this - no chance. Well poke me in the eyes with a stick - that is exactly what fucking happened. I met the most incendiary girl of my life. She just defies description - not only was she the best looking girl at the party, she is probably one of the best looking girls I have ever seen... Really interesting too - 28 years old, qualified as architect, but working as fashion designer (she designs and makes wedding dresses amongst other things) and part time model. She is perfect. And cool taste in music too - not IDM stuff (that would be too perfect) but she likes cool stuff like Pavement, Dub music etc etc So anyway we have a great time together and end up back at my place - one thing leads to another and we have the most amazing sex I have ever had. Literally, I now have some insight into what these cheezy songs on the radio are all about - I really just didnt know that level of intensity is possible - really mindblowing stuff... Not so good: in the morning I find out she has a boyfriend - but it has not been going well for a long time, and he is also leaving Tokyo for good in a couple of weeks! Weird syncronicity there, and she didnt seem at all sad that he is going. Anyway, since Sunday I cannot stop thinking about this girl - I dont believe in corny crap and I have never felt like this before but I think it might be love at first sight! But this doesnt change the situation - which is; I have quit my job, my apartment, sold most of my belongings here and am leaving to start a new chapter of my live on a differnt continent in a week.. Should I jus |
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....should I just get over it, or tell her what I think, or what? Secondly, can I trust her? She has a boyfriend, but still slept with me - so she has cheated once, and might well do it again.. is this going to always bother me while I am so far away? ADVICE PLEASE - what the fuck would you do? |
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Sorry about double posting - can some moderator close the other one? |
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I would go to london... if this is true love... then you two will meet again soon... nobody knows how... but you shall not change your life for just a night eventhough it was a magic night... and besides... what does she feel? |
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Good question - I am going to ask her tomorrow - but hope I dont sound like some kind of psycho.. |
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lol, why would anyone want to go to London :D Anyway...if you really think she is the one then you should stay in Japan and enjoy cheap consumer electronics :) |
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TokyoJo...... Its a classic story. I would consign her to the last perfect memory of Japan and leave as planned. There are plenty of Sushi out of the sea! Afterall, she had a b/f and slept with you, probably after you told her you were leaving. I´m a romantic sod with my head in the clouds most of time and know how our brains become mush over women.... just leave, man.... you´ll never forget her and she´ll be that perfect jewel in your memory box |
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Good advice, Keyfumbler, but your sushi analogy is slightly unpleasant... :P |
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Yes, I side with Keys on this one... the fact she has a boyfriend means she may well cheat on you if you get ti together. Imagine how "double whammy" pissed off you'd be if in 6 months time it turned out she was cheating on you all along and you'd stayed in Japan for her? Also, if she's leaving too she would have to have equally strong feelings for you to stay behind. Hope it goes well for you whatever you decide to do and don't let it tear you up mate :) |
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hmm.. . Id say that you should lay it all out on the table regardless of consequences.. . the worst thing you could do would be nothing (dont succumb to the path of fear.. . ehehehe) Id tell her that your plans are concrete and that you feel that if she feels the way you do that she should join you. .. personally I wouldnt worry that she cheated on her boyfriend.. . imo things can be over before they are offically.. . this would be the final nail in the coffin as far as this other dude is concerned.. . and in my experience girls no matter how happy they are with there man are allways looking for a trade up. .. |
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see if you can move the trip to london with a week or so... (If this was me, I'd drop everything and live on clouds, but i'm pretty naive) |
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your first proplosal is very intelligent |
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Thanks for your advice guys.. Am meeting her tonight - see how she feels (probably nothing), and then try to make a decision on what to do.. |
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Fuck it man I'd stay there with her. Similar thing happened to me recently. Almost exactly the same. Mel this girl at a rave, we clicked immediately. We are totally different in some ways (taste in music and some aspects of personality) but so much alike in others. And we "fit" together REALLY WELL. But before she met me she'd arranged to go to the UK for 6 months and there's really no way out of it. We have 2 or 3 weeks left before she goes. And it sucks coz I know the mroe time I spend with her, the more we'll become attached to each other. It's gonna kill both of us when she leaves.... 6 months.... At least I know we'll be going back out when she comes back coz I don't bother about messing around with women much (even though she's ordered me to get someone to "keep me warm" while she's gone lol but I have to ditch her when she comes back) and even if she has flings with other people in the uk (which i'm cool with as long as it's not anyone i know) I know the chances of her bringing someone back are really fucking slim... Som yeah I know your pain (sort of)... |
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Yeah 6 months is not so long.. I think I could handle it for that long.. But it might be half a decade or more before I come back to Japan (maybe I never will - might go to New York or somewhere else after London). Hope it works out for you with the girl. Why dont you go and visit her in London as well? |
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Thanks for yr concern :) I'm optimistic that things will work out - we both seem to be into each other. Umm I am planning to go there (I'm in Western Australia) at some stage but I don't have the time/money to go there in the immediate future (ie while she's there) and I was gonna go with my mates etc.. except they're gonna finish uni first... BTW I forgot to mention in my first post - fuckign congratulations on getting the girl in the first place, man! Ten years though....man...that's bad... *high five* |
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Women.. I should stick to flossie the inflatable sheep then I wouldnt be in this mess now... |
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whoops sorry - the high five should be before the "ten years" bit, after the congrats bit. as for women - they're weird. since I got the aforementioned girl I've been hit on by other girls who I know like several times, really blatantly. from sly smiles to "aww I wish *I* got all the sex you're getting" shit liek that. weeeeeeeird. |
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girls. hooo. extra baggage. but i'd totally stay. i dunno. i couldn't tell you why. i just know that that's what i'd do because i tend to get caught up in that sort of thing. s'why i'm in calgary at the moment. i stayed for a girl that i thought would be perfect for me. beautiful...intelligent...similar interests/music tastes etc. yeah...things haven't exactly worked out the smoothest. just...do whatever feels "right", i guess. or whatever would "benefit" you the most. haha. i got nothin'. good luck, though. =] |
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