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Like a loss of a relationship? I personally find it extremely hard to let go, and move on... |
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i haven't lost enough to know how to deal w/ it sorry.. but i have noticed that others try to run out and replace lost friends w/ new ones really quickly... even if they normally wouldn't like the new friends that much.. they just need to latch on to someone anyways, that doesn't seem to work, so watch out for that, i guess but again, this is just from watching others |
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First you need to learn to aleniate the situation, to find any single detail that would illuminate only the good things that you did, to expand your ego over the the memory of the other person and to realise that you are superior. Once you do that, you will live in the imaginative world that would put you bac on your feet. After that, you need to get back to reality, call yourself a moron, jerk etc. So when you realise what you did, try making certain generalisation and keep it in a memory. When the next person comes, that is, IF the next person comes, you will know that you will not make the same mistake, unless there is that high-pitch sound and canadian low-frequency noise that allarms who and where died or what happened (like death to queen's mother) thus controlls the whole population and does the social reconstruction. |
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However, if your loss of relationship/s raises the economy, YOU ARE SCREWED TOTALLY! |
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the more you hang onto things the more stuckup you usually tend to be i know i am. |
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OK I was just kidding, I like purple and a couple of thousand of dead people that go with it. So, here is what always brings some light whenever I feel down. http://videos.iceryder.net/images/gaefurplaypiano.mpg http://videos.iceryder.net/images/gaefurhornplay.mpg http://videos.iceryder.net/images/gaefurringbell.mpg |
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I actually just got out of a releationship recently. I didn't take it well - I have a really hard time with rejection. I feel the usual worthless, self-destructive, hate filled depression for a while. Usually though, when i surround myeslf w/ my friends, i feel better. Lately i've realized that if someone wanted to get rid of you for no good reason, there's no reason to feel sorry for yourself. Fuck them....etc. Also, If you keep busy w/ work and stuff, it's easier not to think about the bad stuff. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. |
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well, when i have problems, not touchy-touchy relationship problems.... but other relationship problems.. its always better to deal with it directly... think about it, deal with it: dont try to ignore it |
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i took a recent breakup rather badly at first. prolly coz i didnt share my pain with anyone else which made that loneliness feeling worse. but yeah...like xlr said being with mates helps ya cope. same with beer and dope and hiphop to remind ya that yer a filthy crude male |
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dig a deeper and ever expanding hole to bury your head in. I mean, when it comes down to it, you block out a lot of shit, and you see that you need to be yourself and sometimes just do what works for you. So a cave works from time to time, not always and not often, but sometimes you gotta. |
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....make music.... |
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I DON'T deal with loss, I let it sit in my brain and slowly destroy me. |
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just pretend it didn't happen. have a long conversation with yourself to convince yourself that everything is the same. if anything or anyone tries to remind you of the loss, destroy that thing/person then convince yourself that that thing/person still exists with further introspective dialogue. create sock puppets of the object of loss and have outings together to places you used to go regularly. buy gifts for the sock puppet then demand gifts in return. buy yourself gifts and label them "from *sockpuppet's name here*." alienate everyone close to you and replace them all with carnival prizes and brightly colored rocks which you carry around with you in a red nike gym bag. wear artificial facial hair and dark sunglasses and speak with a different accent. begin posting messages on esoteric music site message boards. Make believe you have a whole community of friends that know and love you and send them pictures of your gym bag. |
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i seem to listen to depressing music alot, and that never helps. drugs too, but that doesn't help either. i usually make things harder than they are. i know what you're going through, some times i try to pretend i don't care, but i know i do. |
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tell urself lots of crap jokes, and laugh ur head off at them! Laugh at all ur mistakes, laugh at urself, laugh at everything, but dont offend anyone... laughing is good! |
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At the moment you are concentrating on what you had. My advise is to try and think of the negative things and avoid things that you did as a couple. Hate is good |
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