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Gaslighting
 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-13 00:49 [#02556605]
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I feel like my fucked immediate family and my personal
problems caused by BPD are making it look and feel like I am
gaslighting my girlfriend. I'm terrified because her Dad has
been a real fucking example and an alcoholic for as long as
she can remember. She's very sensitive to this gaslighting
behavior and rejects me when the whole package of
gaslighting seems to appear.


 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-13 04:49 [#02556607]
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bit like mermaidman used to do here before i started taking
care of him


 

offline Indeksical from Phobiazero Damage Control (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-13 10:28 [#02556609]
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what's BPD? big penis disorder? Is gaslighting a kinky
thing?


 

offline SignedUpToLOL from Zuckuss fanfiction (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-13 10:30 [#02556610]
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It means taking it up the bum, I think. Which could causes
issues if the Big Penis Disorder was an extreme case.


 

offline Indeksical from Phobiazero Damage Control (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-13 10:34 [#02556612]
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No wonder she's so sensitive to it and rejects it when his
whole package appears.


 

offline mermaidman from the pacific ocean on 2018-07-13 10:40 [#02556614]
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you are not allowed to have hissy fits in others' threads. i
made a thread specifically for this purpose you ungrateful
bitch.


 

offline SignedUpToLOL from Zuckuss fanfiction (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-13 11:37 [#02556620]
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There should be more awareness raised about couples
afflicted by both gaslighting and BDP.

*Shudder*, I only hope they can get the help they need.


 

offline Indeksical from Phobiazero Damage Control (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-13 11:50 [#02556621]
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I have an image of gaslighting in my head, a dangerous yet
erotic act involving a lit match in the japs eye and a
partner with very active flatulence.


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-13 12:08 [#02556623]
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seems you have a healthy (regular) dose of impostor syndrome
and anxiety. possibly unhealthy. or it's just your BPD
speaking

(i am not a psychiatrist disclaimer)


 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-13 14:09 [#02556633]
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so grateful


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-13 16:48 [#02556647]
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The term has become quite popular lately. Of you really ae
gaslighting her, then stop! Stop being an arsehole,
borderline or not! A start would be telling her what
you’re telling us.


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-13 18:23 [#02556652]
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I spelled out it when she got home. We had a great night.
Showed her this thread and the imposter syndrome wiki a
couple minutes ago.


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-13 18:34 [#02556653]
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That sounds positive!


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-13 20:04 [#02556659]
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oh, i read bipolar instead of borderline, but yeah. and what
russel said: hurrah!


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2018-07-14 22:28 [#02556705]
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Why do you wanna gas your girlfriend, naziboi?


 

offline steve mcqueen from caerdydd (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-14 22:58 [#02556706]
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Hi Monoid!!


 

online EpicMegatrax from Greatest Hits on 2018-07-15 00:13 [#02556722]
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I spelled out it when she got home. We had a great night.
Showed her this thread and the imposter syndrome wiki a
couple minutes ago.


glad to hear it! i've always believed that the best remedy
for paranoia and such is actual, real information. talking
and communication is the best way to handle these sort of
fings


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-16 07:33 [#02556773]
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I deal with consistent neglect which is either self made or
real.
Mid 20's right now. I have a feeling that this is an age
people do not give a fuck about.


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 08:41 [#02556774]
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Sorry, I don’t care.


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 08:43 [#02556775]
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Chin up, it’ll get better! Or not!



 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-16 08:59 [#02556776]
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You are hilarious. Goodnight man.


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-16 09:00 [#02556777]
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Fuck me everything looks hostile


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 10:35 [#02556779]
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Man I wasn’t being serious. Sorry if you thought I was
purposely being hostile!


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 10:38 [#02556780]
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Everyone gets teased here. I was trying to be humorous not
nasty. I guess xlt isn’t he best place to come to for
sympathy though.

If I had one piece of advice for you it would be not to
expect from others, and to be happy with yourself. It’s
tough though. I’m only starting to get there and compared
to you I’m old!

We tend to expect from others, and of course we get
disappointed.


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 10:46 [#02556781]
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he is not bothered by disrespect and endures cruel words,
treats others with respect regardless of how others treat
him;
when confronted by an angry person he does not return anger,
instead replies with soft and kind words;
even if tortured, he speaks and trusts the truth;
he does not crave for blessings or expect praise from
others;
he never injures or harms any life or being (ahimsa), he is
intent in the welfare of all beings;[97]
he is as comfortable being alone as in the presence of
others;
he is as comfortable with a bowl, at the foot of a tree in
tattered robe without help, as when he is in a mithuna
(union of mendicants), grama (village) and nagara (city);
he doesn’t care about or wear ṣikha (tuft of hair on the
back of head for religious reasons), nor the holy thread
across his body. To him, knowledge is sikha, knowledge is
the holy thread, knowledge alone is supreme. Outer
appearances and rituals do not matter to him, only knowledge
matters;
for him there is no invocation nor dismissal of deities, no
mantra nor non-mantra, no prostrations nor worship of gods,
goddess or ancestors, nothing other than knowledge of Self;
he is humble, high-spirited, of clear and steady mind,
straightforward, compassionate, patient, indifferent,
courageous, speaks firmly and with sweet words.


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-16 10:48 [#02556782]
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Was reading abou Moksha, and those words made a lot of sense
to me.



 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-16 18:55 [#02556796]
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you could always seek professional help, the role of the
doctors today is to be at the forefront against the internet
medical paranoia


 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-16 19:07 [#02556799]
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not because RD has biten your ass right


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-16 20:59 [#02556801]
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mohamed, the lowercase advocate


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-16 21:06 [#02556802]
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I cracked up immediately after I remembered your tone.


 

online belb from mmmmmmhhhhzzzz!!! on 2018-07-16 21:15 [#02556803]
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our russelldust can be drier than a martini when yr all out
of vermouth. or something like that. glad you seem to have
sorted things out a bit, i had no idea what gaslighting was
until this thread


 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-17 15:20 [#02556809]
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i had no idea what gaslighting was
until this thread

same


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-17 15:53 [#02556810]
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(ampi max will be beating my ass)

gasligting is an important concept to know about. it's
something that happens in interpersonal relationships. but
also you can view as gaslighting what big multinationals are
doing to society and the environment while presenting the
image that they're 'enlightened': a new religion or sense of
community


 

offline mohamed on 2018-07-17 15:58 [#02556811]
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you can be gaslighted and respond to that calling them
crazy, i dont think you are the butcher in that case


 

offline Hyperflake from Wirral (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-17 16:30 [#02556817]
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like every British petroleum advert, they even had one with
loads of pop stars in it


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-17 21:07 [#02556841]
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exactly
i should have added that the gaslighting is completed by
them blaming the consumers
LAZY_TITLE


 

online wavephace from Aspiring Moderator on 2018-07-18 03:38 [#02556874]
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so would u guys say moral gaslighting (opposed to epistemic
gaslighting) is a thing ???


 

offline mermaidman from the pacific ocean on 2018-07-18 09:38 [#02556875]
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when you say gaslighting do you mean when you fart and light
it on fire


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-18 12:51 [#02556885]
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well put, guys


 

offline Hyperflake from Wirral (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-18 19:48 [#02556913]
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I think humans of the not so distant future are going to go
through a very dark period in history where fact gets
indistinguishable from fiction especially the way things can
be manipulated from neural nets, makes you wonder how much
of that is already being implemented


 

offline Indeksical from Phobiazero Damage Control (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-18 19:51 [#02556916]
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R u gaslamping us in to thinking the world isn't real?


 

offline RussellDust on 2018-07-18 20:53 [#02556924]
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Dark Ages 2: the return.


 

offline Hyperflake from Wirral (United Kingdom) on 2018-07-18 21:06 [#02556926]
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yes methane gas mains


 

offline AMPI MAX from United Kingdom on 2018-07-18 21:21 [#02556929]
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nah dont worry what ur saying about corps isnt even wrong
its just such a ball achingly obvious thing to say i would
have hated it if you acted like you were really educating
anyone. but u keep it humble, big. so no problem pal


 

offline big from lsg on 2018-07-19 09:52 [#02556943]
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^_^

i thought it'd be an Klein and Chomsky thing to say. but i
guess it's not just them pointing this sort of stuff out


 

offline mermaidman from the pacific ocean on 2018-07-19 10:12 [#02556945]
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ampi max let me educate you here for a moment


 

offline mermaidman from the pacific ocean on 2018-07-19 10:15 [#02556946]
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would you be willing to share this moment with me ampi


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-24 20:56 [#02557180]
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https://www.additudemag.com/oppositional-defiant-disorder-o
dd-and-adhd/

I'm in a full nelson with a porcupine


 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-24 20:59 [#02557181]
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Same shit wrong link
https://www.additudemag.com/oppositional-defiant-disorder-i
n-adults/



 

offline Chodi from 1337V1773 on 2018-07-24 21:03 [#02557182]
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wtf the incomplete link sent me to a better different
topic.

oppositional-defiant-disorder-in-adhd-girls/

oppositional-defiant-disorder-i
n-adults/



 


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