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i thought it was your take on the argument, instead of youtube links |
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I am pro solitude providing i can come here and be with my xltronic friends in a passive, non commital capacity. Is that really solitude though? I dunno i aint a philosopher, just shy. |
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ha ha |
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Those who can’t be alone with themselves worry me. |
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Learn to love and appreciate being yourself, and be empathetic towards others. If we all did that, it’d be a much more evolved society i think. |
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Very true, it says a lot about how they feel about themselves and the thoughts that are in their head in someone can't spend a single evening alone. |
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sorry, i tend to post a lot of videos which i find problematic myself, because im quite overmediated. its a quirk of my past, as tv and later internet were my only window to the world while growing up in a working class family, where both of my parents started working at the age of 15 and were not there most of the time. and school in my area was very bad. the first time i looked up to an older person was in university where i met some professors that actually had something to say and also were the first ones that told me what was good for me. something my parents could never do so, my take: i always enjoyed being with myself and now that i live alone i feel like i can finally breathe and think. when i grew up as the oldest of two siblings i tend to close myself in on the toilet, because it was the only place where i could relax in the house. i was actually imagining living there, surviving on water and toothpaste… i love my family, but i always liked solitude. when i moved out, i lived in wg's (flat-sharing) because it was the cheapest way and also i learned a lot through others. it was fun and im friendly to others and stuff, but deep inside i always wanted to have my own space. i have some friends who can't stand being alone, which i don't understand because for me its the best time. im not awkward around others, but its not something that is in the top ten on my list. im an introvert and solitude for me means having the opportunity to get the everyday noise off and finally think for yourself. usually i need a whole day of doing nothing, so on the second day i can finally get into something i find interesting. i have a lot of little "games" or "tasks". for example i have a "person of the week" in which im researching everything i can find about that person and take it apart. which goes from popstars to makers, everything. last week it was tatsuya takahashi who left korg in the beginning of 2017 to move to cologne. im never bored being alone |
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great |
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i put some nowergian cream on my hands, and of all the cool things i did this weekend, this is surely one of the best |
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and now, im off to cook some rice with pumpkin dunkin |
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Ive soent the last 4 days alone. The only person I've spoken to with my mouth is the lady at the cigarette counter in sainsburys. Its been great! |
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a girl with the dog totally chatted me in today, but i think we was sincere, i wouldnt say she was looking for something, althought i was completely caught. very sincere and feminine. |
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no one ever approaches me to chat, perhaps I look too intense or withdrawn, its annoying as I'm quite friendly |
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you said in the other thread that you fancy other women, and now you want to be approached, arent you engaged?? |
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It’s never ceases to amaze me how fucked up people really are, but ultimately I’m happier when I see the good in people. I say hello to all my neighbours and people in the neighbourhood. Having a dog has helped. I rem in 2004 I would find it very awkward having to face the prospect of casual conversation with random strangers because of my dog; now it’s a part of my every day life (my dog is pretty cute and has a huge personality). The more I talk with strangers the more I really people really need to talk, and miss human warmth. |
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The more I notice people need to talk* |
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I prefer casual, off the cuff conversation to predetermined encounters, which terrify me. I've joined a book club and am supposed to go to my first meeting on sunday but i think i'm going to back out. it just seems horrible, especially with the books they're suggesting going forward i know i'm going to find it difficult to converse with them. however if someone stopped me in waterstones and said 'what do you recommend? do you like this?' i'd find it very easy and probably go on a long, maybe interesting, spiel without faltering. i guess it's having expectations placed on you i dunno. |
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i always say high to my neighbours and the gardener for our block of flats, there's barely any conversation though. there's like 300 odd people and the only way they interact more than a few words is the stupid facebook group full of posts moaning about finding a tissue in the car park or being very nosey about people. |
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high = hi, fucking hell. |
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I didn't mean by other women necessarily, I meant in a friendly way like people chat to me |
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well you have freqy, dont you |
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Lol |
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You’re just jealous, mohamed! ;D |
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i be on analysis, i dont need freqy |
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freqy is like a mentor for me |
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good post, thanks for sharing. "good" as in I think and feel similar about the subject. makes me want to go out of my 'wolf cave' to write ~500 characters and share my experience [I hope it will help anyone]: I've been living on my own for a year now. Learnt quite a bit about myself during the time: how my mind and my system reacts to different amounts of sleep, food, tiredness, alcohol. How permanent lack of sleep can alter my mind, e.g. suicidal thoughts after 2 weeks of nightshifts at work. I always think of myself as a loner and an independent, self-conscious being. But it's different when you share a flat with your spouse - even when you live in separate rooms, but you always know/feel there's someone behind the room wall and you can have a chat if/when you want. Some obvious things get less obvious when you really truly experience them, without lying to yourself. Solitude is one of them for sure. And being able to live alone and feel good with yourself while being alone is a bliss. And to control your emotions and not give in to feelings like "loneliness". And yes, living alone for a while - or at least spending some time with only yourself - 1-3 days - usually makes you stronger inside. You can call it meditation, contemplation, whatever. Any occasion to take some time just for yourself, for your mind, away from society = profit. I'm almost 41 now btw. And I really hope I will be able to think the same in 5 or 10 years time. Whether a new female will be able to "change my world" or not. TL;DR: being with someone is good, but living alone is not any worse - whether you're a loner or not good day to y'all |
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yeah that's true, we all need someone, life without people is like looking down the centre of an empty toilet roll without others |
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