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I read something interesting recently, that people are only partly responsible for other peoples emotions. That means if you articulate one of your needs, and the other person gets 'angry' you are not 'making' them angry, but just trigger certain kinds of emotions, but it is up to the other person how she emotionally reacts. Now, what do you think about this? I also ask myself if it is than possible, to choose to fall in love with someone or to choose not to.. |
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let me think |
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that sounds about right, "partly responsible". We're certainly not wholly responisble. It is up to either party to act suitably. You just realised this after reading that? As for the falling in love thing...I don't think you can choose to be attracted to someone....especially when you're head over heals, you have no control man... |
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then again you can choose to pursue/indulge or ignore that feeling....not always very easy though... |
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I sometimes thought 'what did i say to make this person angry?'. Especially when i was younger i was kinda confused about the reactions of some people. |
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Yes. |
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But do we have control or not? Is it possible to mentally control feelings or even let them vanish? And is that always healthy? |
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i dont believe you can just "decide" to not be affected by stuff, but, if you learn well (by experience, reflection and changed behaviour) chances are you wont be triggered by certain events or persons and you may be getting on top of a lot of emotions. |
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So, what does that mean when you interact with other people? How far can you go and tell yourself that it is not your fault if the other person acts pissed off or sad? |
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ask the person. no way this can be generalized and its natural to do faults, so just accept that you do wrongs too. |
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this feels so basic, but mostly everyone forgets these simple things every once in a while :) |
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love is the involuntary response to virtue |
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it roughly depends on the percentage of brain humans use |
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Yeah, cognitive behaviour therapy is what my former therapist suggested to me, after 2 years of conventional psychotherapy. But we always had something to laugh. |
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you can have a good laugh from CBT too....even better. |
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We all choose how to react to certain situations, and sure indeed if someone's getting angry on you it's 100% his thing, you have nothing to do with this. U can control things like anger, sadnes etc by just choosing how to be, what to experience. Let everything go and love the existence :) |
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Yes, i am scared but neverthless it is laughable |
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what are you afraid of? |
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Nothing really. I feel pretty comfortable |
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nice..how come? |
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I changed my 'inner team' |
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great! congs on that. |
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Now i am going to kill a hooker. thanks guys. |
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You are autistic, Mon. |
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i feel like eating marshmallows |
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emotions like donuts and marshmallows |
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i'm asburgers, my shit is pretty fucked but the quieter and more preconceived I am internally helps. |
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i feel like eating now as well |
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I don't like to walk on 'emotional eggshells' but around many people i fear to act more naturally, because they might get pissed off or whatever. Now, i even suspect that some (!) people, intentionally place these eggshells for other people to walk in. All in all that borders on manipulation and emotional slavery. |
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some people are touchier or more sensitive than others. As you get to know people better, you learn what they're like. the whole intentionally placing eggshells thing, be careful you don't think that when it's not there. I'm saying this shit but I'm no fucking expert. I can be very tactless. |
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today i shared an s-bahn carriage with a group of mentally retarded children. they were about 10 children and 3 care workers. one retarded girl was in a bad mood, because her right hand hurt (because she fell from her bunk-bed last night, i gathered). the others were all in good spirits, drooling and discussing lemonade, mobile phones, sperm and masturbation. they showed no signs of feeling awkward, inhibited or depressed whatsoever. .... so maybe brain-damage is a serious candidate for overcoming emotional problems. |
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Are the eggshells that they walk on the same as the ones they throw at people's houses,? |
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