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Sometimes i wonder if music is too important to me? Yesterday i started writing on a letter to a teacher of mine (well ex-teacher, since i graduated, but we kept in touch). I also put her last letter on the desk, so that i might reply to what she wrote... And the first thing she asked in her letter was: "how are you erik? I'm so curious to hear what you've been up to." And the first things that instantly came to mind were like: "well i recently bought Board of Canada's 2nd album, and it's just so beautiful! It's changed my life." or: "well i finally got around to buying weezer's first album, it really is as great as everyone said it was! It puts a smile on my face whenever i hear it." or: "I'm amazed to say i actually like the new pearl jam-album, it's so great to have my old heroes back, i can't stop listening to it!" etc... etc... it just feels like music is the most important thing in my life at this moment... and buying (and listening) to a new album is to me a much more important event than what goes on at work and at home, hehe ;-) I'm not sure if this is healthy... or even normal. But frankly i don't really care, because the music gives me so much beautiful moments! But yeah... i do realise i can't put stuff like that in the letter ;-) I'll have to tell her about the less important things that have been happening, lol. |
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Music is the most important thing in my life, by far. Ten times more important than any girl, and I proved that a year ago when I basically chose it over a relationship. I'm just way to passionate about it and it clouds my judgement and affects my decisions. Hell, I'd be getting straight As if it wasn't for music, it just takes up so much of my time/effort. |
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i can relate to that. but anything is more important than work to me. don't sweat it, i'm sure there are tons more freaks like us ;) |
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okay! :-p Atleast i'm not alone! Well i kind of already knew that anyway. I guess i never really thought about the importance of music before yesterday. It suddenly struck me whilst writing that letter.... mmm... i just love music :-) |
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My whole movement is Rhythm. I cant explain. When I walk I am music. Even my talking has some rhythm in it |
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hahah! george have i got a spiel for you |
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when I basically chose it over a relationship How did that happen? I'm just curious... if you don't wanna share such personal information it's not a problem :-) But i'm curious what situation it could have been that forced a man to choose between a relationship and listening to music? I don't see why you couldn't have both at the same time? |
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you've got a what for me?!?! it better not be something dirty, you pervert! :-p |
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we have the same name, even spelled the same way ;) I don't meet many people who spell it the same as I do |
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forr some rreason when it comes to music people make me feel asif it is wrrong to love it so much almost like it is an obbsession, but everyone has obsessions, its obsessions which help you get thrrough the day. if its not music its yourr hot new girrlfrriend, or the five-a-side football you arre playing on the weekend, or the comics you rread... and so on. so scrrew them, love the music surrounded. |
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A-Me=Extreme Loner B-I had a girlfriend ever so briefly Put A and B together, and LOOK OUT, not meant to be. I tend to spend most of my time alone, and most of THAT time listening to music, no time for a relationship... not yet, anyway. I'm just way too antisocial. |
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music is my life |
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yeah, music is pretty important to me... one of the most important, but maybe not the SOLE most important... definitely in my top five!! :) Good music can be like a religious (spiritual I guess is a better word) experience to me... I bought the new Sigur Ros album on friday, and it's amazing... it's like a purging of my soul every time I listen to it... I think that we here (people who are serious about music) see it as more then just a catchy tune, or a good beat to dance to... we as education about life, about the MEANING of life even... we see it as a way to learn about ourselves, and the world and people around us... it is much much more then a catchy beat and tune... MUCH much more!! |
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really? That's kind of cool :-D I never knew it was also a brazillian name! Most of the people i meet with the same name spell it with a -c at the end. My mother tells me this spelling (erik) is the scandinavian way of writing it! (though she never really explained why she chose it... since she's never been to any scandinavian countries). Well nice to meet you! (even though we've already written in the same thread together ;-)). Nice to see another erik out there :-p |
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it's not a portuguese name, i just have strange parents haha ;P Henry/Enrique are about as close as 'Erik' gets in portuguese |
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Enrique! that'd be a great name it would be so nice if music would be my life. or anything at all - i'm just too confused to concentrate |
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who is that in yourr avatarr surrounded ? |
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hm... i see your point :-/ I would like to have a relationship, but i've never actually thought about how it would have to work. I'm kind of loner too... it would just be difficult for me to have a proper conversation with any girl. Let alone go out and do fun stuff together. Life is strange. But "not meant to be"... that sounds like you've given up hope altogether... i'm not at that stage yet ;-) |
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And what's weird... you (ophecks) have already made 7060 posts on this board... talking to people (and i have done so a 942 times)... so it's not like we don't appreciate any company at all. I am obviously capable of having fun conversations with people here... why should it be any different in real life? Well i know it is different, but why? |
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i'm a lonerr and i HATE it. i'm not a lonerr by choice and when i get a girrlfrriend i am gonna hold on to herr forr dearr life. |
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i can take orr leave most things but if i am alone when i'm 30 i'm serriously gonna kill myself coz i can't stand the thought of being alone forr everr. |
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don't you ever watch seinfeld? tssk tssk... ;-) It's george costanza, a character from the show. And yeah, i agree about your obessions-post. Alot of other obsessions are much more socially accepted. |
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I'm pathologically shy, I should really do something about it. But I like my own company anyway, it's not like I'm upset that I'm always alone... I go out of my way to avoid people (went out of my way to avoid my GF at times, THAT'S bad). It's much easier online to talk to people. In real life, I only have a couple dozen posts. ;-) |
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i'm a loner. i have like one half friend. only had 2 g/fs each lasted no longer than a month. been diagnosed with a personality disorder, now i take meds and they help considerably. |
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lol. that's cool! I like unusual names :-D Well over here my name is not really unusual, but from what you're telling i gather it is where you live! Lucky you with your strange parents ;-) |
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well how old are you now? Maybe you would meet the love of your life one day after your 30th birthday ;-) Well it'd be a huge coincidence, but there's always hope :-D |
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"I'm pathologically shy" i am too when it comes to girrls and guys on a perrsonal level, yet i could run thrrough a parrk naked orr jump on a bus and starrt acting like a monkey. i have the ability to be extrroverrt, but if i have to sit one on one i find it harrd. also i put myself down. alot of the time i don't know i'm doing it. and the point is, i trruly think i have good rreason to do it. |
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I guess I'm a loner... but I'm not that shy around people really... I just like my own time by myself... I really enjoy being by myself, and relaxing... but, mind you, I need to be around people sometimes to... |
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i like my own company but i like to know its thrrough choice. |
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In real life, I only have a couple dozen posts. ;-) LOL, that made me laugh real hard :-p Yeah i know what you mean... i hardly ever say anything to anyone in real life. I see other people live their lives and having fun, and it all seems so easy... and yet impossible for me to reach. Anyone ever see a movie called "extension du domaine de la lutte"? Whilst watching it, i felt it was like looking at myself in the future. It was about a man who only had one relationship and had given up hope of ever finding happiness again. And his friend who was 28 years old and still a virgin. (and the movie actually becomes more depressing after that ;-)). Ahwell... atleast i always have the music to keep me company :-) I find it to be alot better company than atleast 50% of the people out there, lol. Music has never let me down, not ever! |
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Music is my substitute for everything other people have in their lives that make them feel alive. I think I feel better with my music than other people with their relationships, etc. You get sad when you think about what you're missing, when you don't, everything's OK |
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me and my headphones Surrounded and his headphones Ophecks and his headphones The_Funkmaster and his headphones I think we arre gonna be ok... |
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"You get sad when you think about what you're missing when you don't, everything's OK" thats trrue |
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at least you all can chat well and get along on boards like this. i find it difficult |
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There are alot of shy people on this board... I always like to say little things to strangers. Wish people that i meet in the streets a "good morning!", and have little conversations with people behind the counters in stores etc... it makes me feel like i have a social life ;-) And actually, a few years ago i wouldn't have done even that, so i guess you could see it as some form of progress. But when i get to know people better... i freeze up. I just cannot sit down with anyone and have a proper conversation. My mind just goes blank. |
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all the people that say they arre shy seem to be the people that have the most interresting things to say on herre. what you need is someone with similarr interrests. |
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well i'm actually quite amazed that i can do it! I surprised myself when i first discovered the internet... never knew i had so much to say :-) And you also have over 600 points! That must mean you manage yourself here okay? You can only get so many points if you communicate with the people here :-) |
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thats harrderr than it sounds, i know |
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now that's a very interesting point! I never thought of it like that... i guess all the people that are shy have nowhere else to say these things, so they say them here. That's pretty cool :-D Makes you feel like being shy can have it's good side-effects too! what you need is someone with similarr interrests. Nah, i don't think so. If i met someone from this board in real life (that way i'd know we'd have similar interests), i still wouldn't know what to say. I'm convinced the problem lies within myself, not the people i'm surrounded by. |
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:-) |
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lol. damn. shyness is not an illness people, we need to rrememberr this. therre arre thousands of shy people, and i agrree with what my dad says "sometimes son you just have to put yourrself in situations you arre not comforrtable with to get on with life and prrosperr, you can't spend yourr whole life hideing" |
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same here... music is everything to me. when it came time to apply for college, i sat down with my parents and basically said "look, if i go to a normal college, ill fail, cause I just dont care about those kinds of classes, I just want to do music" so my parents thought about it, and decided to send me to a music school, so at least im getting a degree of SOME sort. And its the best thing that ever happened to me. School... but school that I love. I work hard and do all my work, cause I love it. |
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surrounded, you seem like such a nice person... I've been meaning to tell you this for a while, and now I have... and stay that way... you're bound to meet a great girl that will draw you out of your shell or whatever and appreciate you for you... how can you not, you seem so nice... that's what I'm hoping for... :) |
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You get sad when you think about what you're missing, when you don't, everything's OK Well that is true... but it's kind of like an ostrich that sticks it's head in the ground and thinks it can't be seen anymore :-/ It's a sollution that seems to work, but doesn't really solve anything. I'm convinced that if i would search help and talk to someone like a psychiatrist... he would probably diagnose that there is something "wrong" with me, and advice therapy... But i'm too scared to do it :-s You just know that those social workers will want you to talk about the things i try desperately not to talk about, and make me do things i desperately don't want to do... I've heard it so many times... the only way to overcome your fears is to confront them... but i'm just too scared to do it. |
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At school i got an F in music. basically coz the teacherr was shit and it wasent what i thought it would be like. |
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Surrounded therre (frrom what i can tell) is nothing wrrong with you. You arre too awarre of it. Its catch 22, if you arre insane you can't prrove you arre insane because if you can prrove it you arre not. |
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you can be aware of your mental disorders. |
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wow... i don't know what to say... Thank you! You just made my day! I'm gonna print that post and put it in my diary :-) I mean really... to have someone you don't even really know say that to you is quite something... And i so hope you're right! I would love to meet such a girl... :-D Again thanks... i'm overwhelmed & speechless... You are truly a wonderful person for just saying that so directly, doesn't happen everyday! :-) |
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Well my neighbour actually is a psychiatrist... you would think he would have noticed if there was something wrong with me ;-) But then again... i can't deny the fact that i am just different from most of the people i see everyday. You arre too awarre of it. There might be some truth in that statement though... maybe i spend too much time thinking about it... Everytime you think there's something wrong with you, it becomes a little bit more true. Your dad gives pretty good advice, by the way :-) |
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such a warm and cosy thread. |
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