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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 09:30 [#00497293]
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...get a better self esteem?
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tolstoyed
from the ocean on 2003-01-01 09:32 [#00497296]
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you plan to find that out on this mb?
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 09:33 [#00497298]
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no, i want to hear what people on this mb have to say to that ;)
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xceque
on 2003-01-01 09:34 [#00497299]
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You have to accept that you're a worthwhile person. Which, of course, you are. You doubtless have an awesome pantheon of talents and admirable features. Just accept that other people can appreciate them and be comfortable with your own acceptance of them.
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 09:34 [#00497300]
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i hope someone does answerr...
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2003-01-01 09:34 [#00497301]
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start taking yourself and your problems more seriously - with that I mean, respect yourself more.
I know, pretty hard, still hardly can do it myself.
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 09:35 [#00497303]
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huh
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xceque
on 2003-01-01 09:36 [#00497306]
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eh?
either you're having a really early mid-life crisis or you're desperately bored to ask this
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b0nk
from 1969 in the sunshine (United States) on 2003-01-01 09:37 [#00497307]
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well said
just be yourself and be happy with it, thats not always easy but you just gotta be able to not care what other people think cause most of the time its meaningless anyways
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Laserbeak
from Netherlands, The on 2003-01-01 09:38 [#00497308]
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stop trying to please everyone...don't let others abuse you.
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tolstoyed
from the ocean on 2003-01-01 09:38 [#00497309]
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how long this mid-life crisis actually last?
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2003-01-01 09:40 [#00497310]
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for most people with low self-esteem its not so much about not caring what other people think, but about not caring what they themselves think. and thats hard.
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 09:42 [#00497311]
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how can you be happy with yourrself if yourr life suxx and nothing goes yourr way and you neverr meet anyone and you havent had a rrelationship since the 18th centurry.
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 09:43 [#00497313]
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whats to be happy about
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 09:44 [#00497314]
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sadness drrains yourr self esteem
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 09:46 [#00497317]
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xceque, it was just well said. and as for me, i'm just feeling worthless
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b0nk
from 1969 in the sunshine (United States) on 2003-01-01 09:48 [#00497320]
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i have feelings of low self esteem pretty often - sometimes i get real depressed about it but it usually passes if i just talk to someone or spend time with my friends and just act crazy or something i dunno, i always think id be better off talking to a psychologist or something, i dont know if thats the answer though
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mylittlesister
from ...wherever (United Kingdom) on 2003-01-01 09:49 [#00497322]
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i know what u mean! i spend all my time making music or playing music - when people say they like it or i think thats quite good then that raises my self esteem a lot!
sadness can motivate my making of music too... new years eve: i was at a party and i got really bored/depressed, i sat down at their piano and just started playing around with little stupid ideas, i kept getting weird looks from people but its what i wanted to do and it pleased me :-)
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meen
from Porno (Estonia) on 2003-01-01 09:52 [#00497330]
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jes, just accsept that you are fat stinky homosexual and the sun doesnt shine most of the time...
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meen
from Porno (Estonia) on 2003-01-01 09:53 [#00497333]
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cmon you cant get really serious with that 'be who you are' kinda thing???
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xceque
on 2003-01-01 09:53 [#00497334]
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well you're not, so stop it :)
Download some new music, or watch 12 Angry Men, or 12:01, or any film with 12 in the title. Play Yahoo Collapse for an hour. Find someone who cares about you and give them a hug for no reason.
A very close friend has some problems with self esteem and it's not easy to get her to see how great and unique she is, but she is. Everyone is. And you're more significant to those who care about you. I remember some quotation I heard once: "to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world" it's a bit cheesy perhaps, but true nontheless.
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qrter
from the future, and it works (Netherlands, The) on 2003-01-01 09:55 [#00497335]
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you can get a lot of self-esteem out of finding something you really want to do, even for the rest of your life! YEAH THATS HARD AS HELL!! but if you do find it, it will lift you.
for me it was finding out I was pretty good at writing, composition in general.
on the other side, I still quite dislike myself, so I'm still not there.
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mylittlesister
from ...wherever (United Kingdom) on 2003-01-01 09:56 [#00497337]
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sillyness is the answer.....
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 09:57 [#00497338]
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lol yeah i know. i mean i am who i am, whats that got to do with anything.
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Dolleater
from Afrika Bambaataa on 2003-01-01 09:58 [#00497339]
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I also have bouts of depression. Sometimes I find a creative outlet to express my feelings through. But it can work one of two ways, it will either make me proud of what I accomplished or created, or it will make me slip farther into distress as I observe my work and ponder what makes me tick.
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 09:59 [#00497340]
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we only have depressive arty films :(
and i know what i'd like to dojust now, i'd like to play old dos games, thats where i rule. but my stupid bf wont install the dos emulator and i don't know which version works with debian :( hell, i don't even know where to find one :((
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 10:00 [#00497343]
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sometimes i think... i know what i'm going to do forr a living and i get buzzing about it.
a yearr ago it was plumbing, so i got some books rread up on the basics went down to the job place and what did they say "o plumbing is a grreat job, but no one in the NE is willing to take apprrentise's on, sorrrry c ya laterr"
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uzim
on 2003-01-01 10:02 [#00497344]
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for most people with low self-esteem its not so much about
not caring what other people think, but about not caring what they themselves think. and thats hard.
> very true qrter... ' _ '
i usually forget about myself and it goes better...
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Anus_Presley
on 2003-01-01 10:04 [#00497346]
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we arre all fucked...
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Dolleater
from Afrika Bambaataa on 2003-01-01 10:04 [#00497347]
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As far as self esteem; I just lie to myself and I will continue this as long as I can before I do something drastic. It also helps to know there are other people who can relate to the pain of living in your own personal hell.
:D
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meen
from Porno (Estonia) on 2003-01-01 10:04 [#00497348]
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or your anti-social and esteem considerations just vanity...
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meen
from Porno (Estonia) on 2003-01-01 10:06 [#00497349]
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deem.. my reply just disappeardd... now what im going to do with my self esteem
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Monoid
from one source all things depend on 2003-01-01 13:00 [#00497491]
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Ever tried Coke !? I mean cocain...that should solve yar problem
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Monoid
from one source all things depend on 2003-01-01 13:02 [#00497492]
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No seriously.....a bullet in the brain of the bully who destroyed your confidence....
I dunno sorry..for spaming
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 13:04 [#00497494]
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coke made me just pissed off. and chemicals suck anyway.
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 13:05 [#00497495]
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but hmm. here comes another. does good self-esteem actually mean being rude and non-caring and edgy?
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Monoid
from one source all things depend on 2003-01-01 13:06 [#00497496]
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R u sure....ID eat anything to get rid of my "social anxitys" (sp?) kkekekeke
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BlatantEcho
from All over (United States) on 2003-01-01 13:50 [#00497533]
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simple, don't be afraid to fail
that is the only thing I wish to learn this year. When you aren't afraid to fail, you aren't affraid to try.
Success and joy only come from putting yourself out there and trying. This is what I'm learning, this is my struggle.
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pachi
from yo momma (United States) on 2003-01-01 13:53 [#00497543]
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my best answer would be to not give up
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BlatantEcho
from All over (United States) on 2003-01-01 13:55 [#00497551]
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i think that goes hand in hand with the idea of not being afraid of failing
If you keep trying, you will fail sometimes, but enjoy success.
Keep trying in the face of failure, and success in whatever you desire, will come.
----------- good words pachi
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Dolleater
from Afrika Bambaataa on 2003-01-01 13:57 [#00497560]
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At points of clarity, I realize that my life on earth is meaningless, and that I am merely a pawn in a bigger game. A game I cannot possible understand or have control of. Thankfully, before depression sets in, I drift back into my cloudy, bewildered daily routine.
-Joel Patrick Warneke
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Dolleater
from Afrika Bambaataa on 2003-01-01 14:08 [#00497576]
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maybe this is more suiting for the topic. the other really doesnt explain much.
We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.
-Buddha, The Dharmapada
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PigeonSt
from Detroit on 2003-01-01 14:10 [#00497582]
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b0nk is SIV?
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glass_eater
from a blind nerves area (Switzerland) on 2003-01-01 14:15 [#00497584]
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sometimes i feel all right sometimes not, doesnt have much to do with my self esteem though
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 14:32 [#00497597]
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i'm trying red wine now
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glass_eater
from a blind nerves area (Switzerland) on 2003-01-01 14:33 [#00497600]
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AGAIN ??? ;)
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 14:34 [#00497602]
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yeah. last time was like over a month ago?
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 14:40 [#00497611]
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and i'd like to add that this is CAMPO LINDO 1997 - not a useless red
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neetta
from Finland on 2003-01-01 14:41 [#00497612]
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(as i'd really understand but these were the words said when i got the bottle)
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Mickey Mouse
from The Moon on 2003-01-01 14:46 [#00497621]
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neeta, you gotta look on the bright side of life, think on the positive, Thats the key, and self affrimation, wake up and say to yourself, you know what, I am a good person, I deserve to feel good about myself. And if your not into talking to yourself, write it down, write down all the things you are good at, and only write down all the positive things you like about yourself. Then put if somewhere where you can look at it, like a mirror or something, and you look at it and go, yea, I am a super fly person! w00t! Thinking positivly and keep telling yourself that you are a good person that derseves to feel good, and that is what its all about IMHO. And if people are mean to your of something, brush it off, because people who are mean and spitefull dont deserve to talk to you.
and this is my serious post for today.
yes
look on the bright side and shine on
WOOOOZLE WOOOSIE WEEEEEE!
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