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Just out of interest, do you say sorry and apologise unreservedly, as though something was all your fault. When you don't really mean it, or want to attach caveats to it ("I'm sorry for what I did, but you must concede that I only did it because you..."), just for a quiet life? I rarely do, because it feels dishonest, but not doing so seems to make people percieve you as confrontational and reluctant to forgive you. I can say sorry properly when I mean it, but when I don't mean it, it usually feels worse than if you just refused to apologise. What do you lot do? |
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i have a sister who is always saying sorry, even when she hasn't said/done enything wrong ! so i tend to not say sorry much to level things a bit lol |
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Sorry seems to be the hardest word... |
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we've got the "vybachte" or "izvinite" word here for the sorry purpose. sometimes, if i push somebody in crowded ttransport, i say this, and if the pushed person doesn't hear me, i even say it in english to myself, thinking of the "sorrie" spelling instead of the proper "sorry" one. |
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I neverr say sorrrry unless I was actually in the wrrong and even then it's not often I say sorrrry. |
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i say 'im sorry' when i dont hear what someone has said (dunno where i got that from) but yeah i apologize a lot but it's generally not like in a "i was wrong" sense ... |
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Yes, I do. I consider it being polite. |
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I apologise when it is necessary. |
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with the right intonation you can say it so you're sorry for the situation someone's in instead of admitting guilt yourself |
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I am never at fault |
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I do that one as well, "I'm sorry you're so upset by this, but I really don't feel what I did warranted this reaction." Drunken Mastah: The most annoying one is when someone accuses you of that; "You'll never say you're sorry, will you?" Then when you say, "Well, not when I've not done anything I'm sorry about, no." they see that as you wanting to perpetuate the argument. I think one of the reasons I get along with my gf so well is that we're able to have a sort of ego-free agreement, "well we both reckon the other is the guilty party here, so rather than argue for ages and get worked up about it, lets just drop it." Neither party loses face or lies about accepting culpability, so everyone's a winner. Sadly a lot of people don't seem big enought to be able to do this. |
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hahah, yeah I mostly don't do things I need to apologise for.. I'm more inclined to do things where I have to say "yeah, ok, I was wrong," and I say that with ease when it is obvious that I was at fault, and I guess that goes for "I'm sorry" too.. in other words, I won't say it just to please someone, I have to realise for myself that I was at fault. |
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Sorry isn't something I like to admit to being. And I can't remember the last time I said it anyway, or felt it would be good to say it. I'm a cherub. Though that doesn't mean I don't secretly feel sorry/guilty now and then. |
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i'm never sorry... unless it's something like stepping on someones foot, or knocking something out of ones hand on accident... there is no sorry to be sorry for. |
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i think an entire book could be written about human beings and saying "sorry." there are so many potential motivations and complications. for example, some people will attempt to exact a forced apology as an effort to control a relationship. others will offer a phony apology so that they can expand their web of deceit. i agree that it's not healthy to apologize when you've done nothing wrong. it's not always easy to sort who's being insensitive or who's being oversensitive. i always try to apologize when warranted, admittedly sometimes it takes a little longer to figure out that i owe an apology. fortunately i don't have a lot to apologize for. |
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hard to know what to make of that statement. i wonder how you could ever have a real relationship with anyone if you really feel that way... |
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kind of like say ing "no regrets" a bit, i guess. |
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I don't say it enough probably, when I've really pissed someone off. I know some people who lay it on a bit thick and just "i'm soooooo sorry" their way through everything as if thats all there is to being a nice person. I can say the kind of sorry that is 'i never meant for you to take it that way' but thats not really admitting fault. I havent got a temper or anything so I feel like I say largely what I mean. |
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"I'm feel sorry for your mother" |
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im sorry some fcuker wins the lotto every week who isnt me. |
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When I dont have to say sorry, I say it. When I do, I dont. |
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