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i met some really nice people couple of days ago...and i like nice people :). currently i have so much shit on my mind (the lowest point of my life), that i just couldn't make myself to be in a good mood...normally i'd have fun, and well even if i'd be in a bad mood i'd be able to look like i have fun...but i couldn't even fake it this time - this ever happened to any of you? can you forget all the shit and act like the happiest person, or at least not look too depressed? if yes, how do you do it? :) |
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It might surprise you to know that I'm not always the happy person I seem to be on this message board. |
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I have no problem admitting I'm in a bad mood. But I try not to let it out on "innocent" people. |
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that wouldn't surprise ma actually...we're all human, and i guess it's completly normal if you're not always happy... what really bothers me is that those other nice people were having fun, and well, i just couldn't fit in...even tho i'd love to :( |
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i'm felling depressed almost every working day's end. ecnadniarb: you don't seem to be happy. |
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carry a protable zen garden with you wherever you go and rake that sand till you're calm. |
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you should meet me in real life, I'd rip your face off for looking at me the wrong way when I am in a bad mood :P tolst: the situation you describe used to happen to me quite a bit and it is caused when you are evaluating life in general because instead of just losing yourself in the moment you stand there thinking "why am I standing here not enjoying myself, i don't fit in" which makes you feel more uncomfortable and it is just spirals then. |
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you always find the right thing to say...you should really start doing this profesionally :) btw, how did you overcome that? did you try and avoid thinking that, or did you straighten your life up? |
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i have no problem letting people know that i'm not in a good mood. i'm not gonna be hitler or anything towards them just cause i'm in a bad mood tho, i'll be nice and hope they act nice in return which increases the chance of me being in a better mood later on. know what im saying? |
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Okay come to Ukraine it's interesting here you angry person |
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yes, that's easy with someone you've known for a longer time...but when you meet new people it's inconvenient, don't you think so? i mean people often reemember the 1st time they met... |
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Odd as it sounds the only way to overcome it is to forget you where doing it in the first place. Small (or large) amounts of alcohol can help if you drink, if not then just make sure you keep going out regularly and you will start to just enjoy things again without constantly trying to find a reason for your exsistance :P Often it is just a phase that most people go through and you will probably snap out of it soon, just make sure you don't let it get you down to much. :) |
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yeh but when they meet you again, you'll be in a totally difffernent mood and they'll be like "hey... where's Mr.Grumpypants? huh? where'd he go?" and pinch you on the cheek. |
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there was this bitch that tried to cheer me up the other day. i kicked her ass... |
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i do it all the time. you've got to. |
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Yeh this happens to me sometimes. People are being normal but I just can't help snapping at them. I try and hold it back but sometimes it's just too hard. |
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Yep, people who make no effort to piss me off. Especially if it means they're ruining a special occassion. |
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man, that put im in a good mood right away...honestly, im not just saying that...cuz when i think about it, you seem to know exactly what im trying to say/going through here. "just make sure you don't let it get you down to much" all this is releated to my work...there are much bigger issues here, but they're all work related. anyway, it can't go on like this for ever...when i sort all this shit out, i'll definitely take your advice, coz it sounds like a really reasonable one! thanks a lot!! keyfumbler, i hope you're right there as well :) |
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A Mills interview..... |
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presley and ceri, you never got to a point when you couldn't even fake it? i definitely tried and look happy, but it probably turned out even more stupid, so i tried to put as little attention on me as possible...which is silly too, but i just couldn't get into it... |
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thank you for that...it will be the first thing i'll read when i get home :) |
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Certainly, but a lot of people make no effort to conceal it at all. Just because you're having a slightly off day doesn't mean you should bring everyone around you down/act like a moody git. |
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sometimes i snap at my frriends and family... yeah, i don't think that can be helped when you'rre in theirr company so much of the time. but not at people at worrk orr with shop keeperrs etc... no. |
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exactly. i can't stand people who think they'rre the only ones having a harrd time. |
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oh, right, i see now what you were trying to say. heh, that is what bothers me the most...i hate to bring people feel down, that is exactly why i need to straighten things up, so i wont look so miserable anymore :) |
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While it is possible to ask a mood, I think what Tolst is going through is a lot deeper than that. You almost have a surreal situation that, even when communicating with people, you are listening to yourself thinking "what am I talking about"...you get preoccupied in the way other people are interpreting your words and actions. It's not really a case of being in a bad mood, it is a case of not really feeling in any sort of mood and wondering why. |
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but i don't think you'rre a bad perrson, tolstoyed. you'rre a sound guy and things just got too much. don't worrrry. |
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Double wool action!! Imagine the static! |
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hey man, i know what that's like, you put it well. |
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a) that should have been "mask a mood" also just to add on I bet you you reply these meetings and stuff in your head repeatedly after they occur trying to figure out where the fuck you went wrong??? You have to stop doing that because you will always add your own negative meaning to something that the other party/parties involved will have taken as purely superficial. Everything will straighten itself out in time. |
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"replay these meeting" |
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when he djs he looks like he's typing on a keyboard. its amazing. |
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I am master of hidding my bad mood which is sad |
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Yes definately, close friends/family get it in the neck, but I don't think I've ever snapped at shop keepers, bar tenders etc. just because I've been in a bad mood. |
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damn, you seem to have experienced just about everything already...you put it in a best possible way there...im really glad to see that you know exactly what it feels like, and you at the same time say that it is possible to overcome this eventually...nothing more i could ask for , really :) presley, thank you for the kind words as well. jivverdicker, it's working :) |
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yes, im sure im making too big deal out of this...i'd just like to avoid this situations in the future. i knew i was going to meet them, and i was trying to get myself in the good mood...it worked quite good for some time, but then something went wrong, and i don't even know what it was... |
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i knew i was going to meet them= i knew im going to meet them |
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yeah, replaying it in your mind is so horrible... can't stop doing it with loads of things. I think I'm always analysing/evaluating my own and others' actions - its really annoying. Even when drunk I do it, but its sort of tongue-in-cheek then. I think I've become quite good at masking my mood and holding back my aggression though, but it sort of makes me feel nothingness, like no one really knows me. Even if i do try to say how i feel, i can't put it to the right words, and people misunderstand. |
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i don't have problems with my family...coz they know what situation im in, and they're amazed im taking it so well as it is...actually they're sometimes scared i'd go and do something stupid...even though they know im not that kind of person. and when im in a bad mood, i never snap at people, i just try and hide it inside... |
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hehe it happens, just don't worry about it. :) I actually found that concentrating on projecting a false confidence rather than a good mood worked better because it allows you to feel more in control and allows your natural personality to come out. Just keep putting yourself in the situations and you will discover your own best way of dealing with them. That's all I will say on the matter because my brain now hurts from being sensible for 5 minutes. |
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sigh, it happens to me quite often. tony (my hamster) and i are trying to send you a load of positive energy atm tolstoyed, hope you get at least a tiny bit of it! :) |
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thank you again! "Just keep putting yourself in the situations and you will discover your own best way of dealing with them" yeah, i think this is the best way to deal with it :) |
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than you...and thank tony for me please. yeah, im already in a way better mood than i was half an hour ago...you, people on this messageboard always make me feel better...that can be clearly seen in my points status too :) |
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i thanked tony..... he was really pleased as he feels quite useless from time to time, bless him. :) |
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if my old hamsterr werre herre now he'd wish death upon you. he was a mean little bastarrd was Hank. |
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hahaha "he feels quite useless "...he can join the club :) |
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hmm, it makes sense actually...what kind of name is "hank" for a hamster :) |
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i know, i know but i'm not good with little animal names. i have a fish called... Fish i guess. i had a guinee pig called Piggy. a birrd called Lemon. |
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it's true hamsters arent as cute as they seem..... i heard that 3 foot hamsters would kill us all apparently. i was also told they also dont even like each other unless it's for dinner. mmmh.... tony is ok though, he really thinks he's a dog. |
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is your bird yellow Anus_Presley? |
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