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WHY !?......Are you depressed ?
 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2003-12-03 14:19 [#00975878]
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Chemical Inbalance ?! LIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING !? IS IT
NOT !?...NOOO......I dont think so......dayum

Np: a-london_elektricity-the_great_drum_and_bass_swindle


 

offline danbrusca from Derbyshire (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 14:22 [#00975880]
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I'm OK right now, but I'll get depressed if nobody listens
to my broadcast :P


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2003-12-03 14:23 [#00975882]
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Awwww :(


 

offline Jazembo from The Earth ball on 2003-12-03 14:25 [#00975886]
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Monoid, if you put as much effort into trying to be happy as
you did into making posts about how depressed you were then
the world would be a better place :)


 

offline Ceri JC from Jefferson City (United States) on 2003-12-03 14:26 [#00975887]
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I'm not, I grew out of teenage angst a couple of years back
and now don't get down for more than a couple of days at a
time.


 

offline naaic from Uppsala (Sweden) on 2003-12-03 14:52 [#00975915]
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:(


 

offline TonyFish from the realm of our dreams on 2003-12-03 15:09 [#00975938]
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I'm in a transitor period at the moment so any depression or
moodiness is understandable. I'll be right as rain in a few
months when my life stabilises.


 

offline TonyFish from the realm of our dreams on 2003-12-03 15:10 [#00975939]
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transitory dammit


 

offline Ceri JC from Jefferson City (United States) on 2003-12-03 15:11 [#00975940]
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Yeah transistors depress me too, they might be more robust
than valve based amps, but dammit, they jsut don't sound as
good at the low frequencies, despite what people say. ;)


 

offline danbrusca from Derbyshire (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 15:12 [#00975941]
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It's amazing how much having a girlfriend has changed the
way I feel, my depression has just vanished like fog on a
sunny morning.

Of course, the fact people are listening to Affluxion now
helps too ;)


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2003-12-03 15:14 [#00975943]
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I too want a GIRLFRIEND.....However, I was diagnosed with
SOCIAL PHOBIA...soo....its unlikely to happen.....fuck


 

offline DJ Xammax from not America on 2003-12-03 15:22 [#00975948]
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..I just joined those listeners.



 

offline TonyFish from the realm of our dreams on 2003-12-03 15:23 [#00975950]
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and it's amazing how being parted for 6 months has the
reverse effect :(


 

offline FlyAgaric from the discovery (Africa) on 2003-12-03 15:49 [#00975971]
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too much smoking and distancing myself from the world

waaah :(

breaks out in tears

and yes, i just discovered the wonders of italics


 

offline danbrusca from Derbyshire (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 15:52 [#00975972]
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What is social phobia?


 

offline Rubicon from Manchester (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 15:58 [#00975977]
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when you find social circumstances or places difficult to
cope with, it links in with depression in some ways, its not
a sign of personnel weakness though, no mental illness is


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2003-12-03 15:59 [#00975978]
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EXTREME SHYNESS


 

offline danbrusca from Derbyshire (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 16:03 [#00975982]
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I'm shy too.


 

offline Monoid from one source all things depend on 2003-12-03 16:12 [#00975991]
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NOT as shy as IM....I can gurantee you that.....basiclly im
fucked


 

offline Ophecks from Nova Scotia (Canada) on 2003-12-03 16:16 [#00975996]
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I'm not overly depressed right now... too many things I
enjoy in life, none of which are anything social. Generally,
I can be a miserable son of a bitch, but not overly so. .
And I sympathize with Monoid, social anxiety
disorder/whatever you have is much much worse than just
shyness, I have it too. I wouldn't open my mouth for months
at a time at college, unless I had to.

Difference is, I've never wanted a girlfriend or any of
that, I'm content being this way.


 

offline danbrusca from Derbyshire (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 16:17 [#00975998]
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I refuse to believe that. Sure, you may have a hard time
getting out of it, but you're definitely not fucked and by
saying you are you're not helping yourself.


 

offline Rubicon from Manchester (United Kingdom) on 2003-12-03 16:19 [#00976000]
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you can get through it, you can be helped, dont mean to
sound as tho its easy but there are things you can do to get
through it


 

offline FlyAgaric from the discovery (Africa) on 2003-12-03 16:21 [#00976008]
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it seems that most electronica listeners are shy, i was fine
till i started playing my music to people, now i just get
weird stares and empty hellos

damn you richard d james!

puts on astrobotnia

girlfriends change everything but once they're gone, they're
gone. seriously, sex will clear up anyone's depression

pops punch drunk love into the video machine

cries some more


 

offline promo from United Kingdom on 2003-12-03 16:36 [#00976021]
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Depression I believe comes in phases. You simply cannot be
depressed the whole time. Extreme euphoria of course uses a
lot of seretonin and so subsequently you can feel a bit down
afterwards. But I find when you're on a buzz and I'm not
talking about drugs (I don't do) then you want to really
maintain that.


 

offline naaic from Uppsala (Sweden) on 2003-12-03 17:14 [#00976063]
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this extreme shyness, social phobia, or whatever it's called
is not an easy thing to deal with. i cannot function
socially at all. i can't meet people. i can't look someone
in the eye and talk to them, let alone keep a conversation
going. there are no friends, no going out, and girls are
definitely out of the picture. it's a completely hopeless
feeling to know that you're unable to interact with people.
what's worse is knowing that it won't change, especially
when you've been that way your entire life. so instead
you're left with isolation and misery...nothing matters
anymore, and little by little you begin to forget all things
you loved and enjoyed doing. any new opportunities are
wasted cause you feel like shit so much that you just give
up. that's the way it is.


 

offline mappatazee from ¨y¨z¨| (Burkina Faso) on 2003-12-03 17:17 [#00976065]
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nothing inspires me enough to do anything. I'm bored out of
my mind or just too lazy. it's weird that it's so easy to
know what to do, know the right course of action, but you
just don't do it, don't follow through. why is it like
that? bleh.


 

offline Ophecks from Nova Scotia (Canada) on 2003-12-03 17:35 [#00976075]
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You're making me very depressed.

You sound like me, only worse, admittedly. I can actually
hold my own in social situations, but it's SO damn hard and
I never ever want to do it. I'm fairly happy, and I don't
''feel like shit'', but there's no doubt I'm fucked up
socially, I just want none of it and it causes some grief.
So it works out for me in the end. I can use my disorder as
an excuse to escape situations I don't want to be in, heh.

You sound like you need some help, man. It can change... I
feel I could change it if I really wanted to, but there's no
need or want, for me personally. Maybe someday.

I got a job doing tech support and already I'm a bit more
outgoing... by necessity. Force yourself into a job like
that, where you have to interact. I was forced into it, and
I'm glad now. I'll still be a lonewolf and eat lunch by
myself, but I CAN talk to people if need be.

But I hear you on the isolation thing... but not the misery.
I never do anything or go anywhere, ever. I dig it though.


 

offline nlogax from oh, you must be the brains (Norway) on 2003-12-03 17:53 [#00976077]
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seriously naaic, if that's the case, I hope for your sake
that you get help, instead of just wondering around in your
own miserable little sphere.

It's shit, I know what it's like to have personal problems
like that, and quite frankly you can't solve these problems
without the guidance of a professional.


 

offline mappatazee from ¨y¨z¨| (Burkina Faso) on 2003-12-03 17:54 [#00976078]
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Yeah, heheh, I had a job doing telemarketing surveys. Used
to be nervous calling people, not anymore


 

offline tragedy from Gloucester (United States) on 2003-12-03 17:57 [#00976079]
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i'm doing quite well at the moment :), everything is falling
into place, i met a new boy, getting school stuff finished,
and things at home are going good... i still get spurts of
depression, but then i throw a party and things are good


 

offline nlogax from oh, you must be the brains (Norway) on 2003-12-03 18:10 [#00976084]
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good on ya then :)


 

offline naaic from Uppsala (Sweden) on 2003-12-03 18:34 [#00976104]
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ophecks and nlogax:
i see what you guys are saying and it makes sense. while
it's far from perfect, usually i can get by ok. but i'm
pretty far from home right now, and i'm as alone and
overwhelmed as i've ever been. so things seem pretty shitty
right now. the gloomy weather sure doesn't help either...i
don't know how you scandinavians put up with this every year
;)


 

offline nacmat on 2003-12-03 18:37 [#00976108]
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I am so inmature I am not even depressed

but I should be


 

offline hedphukkerr from mathbotton (United States) on 2003-12-03 19:11 [#00976145]
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fly> ak dont even mention smoking, i have bronchitis and
havent smoked anything (herb or cigarette) since monday. say
goodbye to my fingernails.

back on topic: in terms of depression, im in a deciding
spot. my ex who completely broke my heart and who im still
hung up about has been talking to me and kinda flirting with
me alot lately and were hanging out on sunday, so depending
how that goes decides wether ill be depressed or not.


 

offline whyiamsocool from Vancouver on 2003-12-03 20:53 [#00976264]
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I was just browsing through this site for the first time and
had to reply.

I was diagnosed as having Avoidant Personality Disorder
(pretty much the same thing as social phobia). I agree, it
is not an easy thing to deal with. Often I feel I am
missing out on the best things in life- lots of friends,
girlfriends, just generally getting out and living life. I
always feel like life is passing me by, which to me is the
worst feeling in the world. The stuff that makes life worth
living. What makes it worse is usually people don't
understand and just think I'm cold or not interested in them
or boring or an asshole which just pisses me off. I usually
end up smoking weed or obsessing on stupid shit that doesn't
matter just to fend off boredom and keep my mind occupied.
So yeah, it really, really sucks.

But having said that, it's not hopeless. You can get
better. It's not easy and requires effort just to
experience what others take for granted but you -can- make
improvements. I used to be TERRIFIED of public speaking so
much that I just couldnt do it. I took an anti-social
anxiety pill, Paxil to help me through it the first time,
then stopped taking it and now I can do them no problem.
Try by just doing something easy like asking 5 people what
time it is. Then ask 5 people for directions and look in
their eyes. Then make some small talk with 5 people, etc
etc. and get progressively more challenging. The momentum
you build up will give you confidence.

I think the best advice I got was WHO GIVES A SHIT WHAT
OTHERS THINK!?! Once I got that I felt myself get more
ballsy.

It's funny because I really do think I'm better-looking,
smarter and more interesting then most guys. But the little
negative voice in my head keeps babbling 'you're such a
loser, you're so fucked-up, everyone thinks you're weird,
you're hopeless with girls so don't even try cause you'll
only embarrass yourself, etc etc'


 

offline whyiamsocool from Vancouver on 2003-12-03 20:59 [#00976266]
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BTW, I think Paxil's shit and wouldn't reccommend it to
anyone. I don't believe in antidepressents really, unless
you're suicidal. I think I just needed it as a placebo to
help me through the public speaking thing.

No public speaking, no degree...


 

offline dariusgriffin from cool on 2003-12-03 21:02 [#00976268]
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when you ladies are done kissing come over here so i can
beat you proper


 

offline tragedy from Gloucester (United States) on 2003-12-03 21:16 [#00976279]
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why?!... am i always drunk???....


 

offline Q4Z2X on 2003-12-03 21:32 [#00976291]
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try spending less time on message boards, they do not serve
as a replacement for real social interaction..
mb overuse and dependence is very emotionally crushing..


 

offline whyiamsocool from Vancouver on 2003-12-03 21:45 [#00976299]
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OT but...I tried uploading my avatar photo about 568744
times and no go. Does it have to be EXACTLY 80 by 60? And
if so how the *&*%$ do you get it that precise? Not with
Windows Image Editor...


 

offline od_step_cloak from Pleth (Australia) on 2003-12-03 21:54 [#00976310]
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I was depressed coz of my girlfriend being away thing and
complications due to that but somehow now I'm over it.

I haven't been down at all for a few weeks.
But when I do feel upset it's nioly usually for a short time
and then afte rthat I feel rerally high and it's weird. I
think my brain chemistry is like really really really messed
up. I came into work totally hysterical today my boss
actually pulled me aside and asked me if i was on anything.


 


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