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well, i've never been in a relationship, but i think i've learned that it's harmful to feel like you must always comply with someone you have high affection for. you gotta realize that you have a life too, and you have to take control of it, without regard to anyone else's impression of you. i cannot emphasize enough how important it is to stand up for yourself. |
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mate, just have a wank and a jammy dodger and things will seem better. |
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dude if i received an email like youve sent id say 'piss off'. if you do salvage your relationship in this manner, theres going to be animosity because youve clearly expressed a desire to make her hurt. youve got to try to look at things from a perspective other than your own, the others shoes. it took me my first long relationship to learn that, as well. if you are so focused on your own feelings, chances are youre not open to your partners. |
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Blatant, I've never met a girl who likes guys who are drama queens. "Strong but sensitive" is what they're after, not "fragile and hysterical". It's not that you should be phony, rather, that you should seek equanimity and balance in yourself first before relying on someone else for a feelings fix. I'm a fine one to talk considering how I fell to pieces when my first serious relationship ended! But I got over that, and you'll get over this. |
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that was sweet of you to consider all that and share it, it is appreciated. this actually wasn't the first time this has happened to me, this was just the first in a long time of dating girl that finally mattered to me. ------------- fleetmouse and everyone else: I completely understand what you all mean, but I really thought this was it. Really, obviously I was completely wrong, and need to check my head. I talked to her last night and said I wasn't going to let my heart get me hurt again, and all that. I really thought this was some girl I would date for years and years, and I was very very wrong. I will check my head, but all that fucked with my head, it made me overly cautious and sentimental, I didn't want to loose what I thought I had. I fucked up, it was never going to work when all these stupid things came up, and yes, I'm a idiot for thinking otherwise. When it came down to it, I did listen to my brain and it said plainly, you love her, but it ain't going to happen, so cut the noose and get on getting on. I did that, and now I'm just lonely. But, pleanty of time to self medicate and reflect and really really figure out the thigns I want and need and who I am, maybe in a while I'll find a girl who really is for me, and I won't make it something it's not. |
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yeah, a few years ago I fell apart pretty much... my life as I knew it was just crumbling... this girl who I was totally crazy about just wanted to be friends, and I couldn't make it work... I was just a wreck... and at that time my other friends ditched me and stuff... it was a horrible situation... I was left totally alone, and I had to pick up the pieces and start over... and I did... now I have a good life, things are working out for me, and I've even become friends again with some of my old friends... I'm a lot stronger, and smarter... more self-reliant... I used to be like what LeCoeur was talking about... I relied on that girl to make me happy, and put too much pressure on her... it's true what they say, you need to find happiness inside, and love yourself before you can love someone else... and I'm still working on that... I think in a lot of ways me and you are alike Blatant... I freak out about things so much, just like you... and as well, I think my heart has a lot of control over me... sometimes too much, and my brain is clouded... but I'm working on it, and I'm a lot more stable then I used to be... |
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come here and give me a hug big fella :) |
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hehe... :) |
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the man-loving on this site is overwhelming to me!!! :) |
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o man.... it'll be ok, it happened to me recently too, it's reallly fucking hard, seriously, trust me i know. but you will get over it, or through it... ow whatever, it's just going to take lots and lots of time. and even then it';s still gonna hurt... it'll only get better tho with time. and btw, i totally agree with uzim... and that X'S FUCKING SUCK! |
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oh my, there's something to be said for not bumping some old threads, i mean this isnt a general topic you can go on about, things are different now. i am curious though: is this the same grl with whom blatant had a problem that she was drinking? no need to answer that or anything what is wrong with discussing this, this is a place where people meet, it's not just a place in which you state clinical facts about music. for the interaction on this subject to go well, the letter should have been posted anyway, i believe he didnt sent it to her now, but discussed it, which, i believe was a good thing that came out of this. cheerio :) |
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sorry for that tradedy btw, goodluck |
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maybe just send her a mail with a link to this thread? |
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well, haha, that Ãs the only thing that could be said against this posting, or maybe not: it does show how much he cares |
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I think 'cop out' is a bit too strong. Don't get me wrong I'm all for getting these things out in the open person to person but maybe in Blatant's case a letter would permit him to initiate that process. |
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WHO NEEDS GIRLS, WHEN YOU HAVE FREE INTERNET PORN ! |
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given previous threads I'd say the answer that is you. |
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letters suck (emails are worse). these kinda things should be discussed face to face if you ever want to get it out of your system. it'll do you good (and the other party too). just my opinion |
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oh won't BlatantEcho be HAPPY this thread has turned up again!!!!!111!!!! |
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well hush than |
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hm, not time to read the thread except for the beginning, but good luck man blatent, I know you're an emotional guy, so just try and have some time set aside where you can focus on something else completely and just relax |
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wow, this is an oldie. funny shit is she came over tonight crying, wondering why we couldn't be together. yeah, it's been a while, though we dated off and on in the summer. end of story was I didn't get the respect from her that I deserved, so I ended it. |
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i hear ya man. i was with this girl for a while but she started treating me like shit and i broke it off. she keeps insisting the breakup was all my fault and cant understand that she wasnt contributing to the relationship. |
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