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so, my girlfriend is about driving down to visit me, but she mentioned we need to "talk" We haven't seen each other in weeks since school ended, but we've dated for 7 months, so I didn't think it would be a problem. Anyway, I'm fretting SO inbelievably right now. I care about her more than any girl ever, and well, I've done the best I could. So in an 2 hours, if I write back to say I got dumped, you all better hold me. |
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*appologies for typos* |
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Do you actually expect me to hold you when seeing as you just said you want to get rid of me??! Huh?!?! Is that it?! OK, I will.....:P |
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- 'when' |
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Beat her to it! You have to dump her before she dumps you! |
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hell no mate, I'm head over heals for this girl in fact, YOU'LL have to soothe me cuz you live close by. |
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hahaha...then to discover afterwards she just wanted your opinion on that new skirt she bought that afternoon :P |
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good luck sir! it might not be what you think though.....be honest thats all you can do , then theres nothing you can reproach yourself. |
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I just hope I'm 100% wrong. I think I'm worth the effort, you know? A relationship involves compromises, if I do something she doesn't like, then she needs to tell me, and it is up to me to adapt or change for her. that's part of it, but I have to get a chance?! |
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congratulations on becoming a dad :D or sorry you've been dumped :( |
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see, that's the thing, I get so nervous, so worked up, and I bottle it all up, but I need to scream. I went out for a walk, and sat under a tree and tried to center myself, but I'll all mixed up. I'm going to break if she kills me like she could. :( |
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He should be OMGing anytime now... ;) Relax. What happens, happens. Give it time and move on. |
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By saying we need to "talk" she gave herself away. You have to take the incentive and dump her now. |
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I have no idea where this goes either? she has always been brilliant towards me. and now what? I loused it all up. and now I wait, all on her terms, she has a crush on another guy and is just waiting for me to fuck up so she can justify dumping me. :( |
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but I don't want too. and I don't even know if she does. The long distance thing has just been murder on us, and I'm praying she just wants to talk about that. that IS serious, but not, I HATE YOU BREAK UP BREAK YOUR HEART serious....... |
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Hey, don't panic yet....it could be something very innocent! |
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That's right, he could end up like |
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lol and eXXailon: you don't know me, i panic 150% up till the event, then I'm pretty sure I can deal with whatever comes. |
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if this is the end of the best relationship ever, I sure as hell didn't learn anything other than love hurts me. :( |
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Haha! Exactly |
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I don't know you but that giant thread you created before you and her got together gave a pretty good impression ;) |
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yeah, I thought so too! everything was great. bliss city. When stuff/disagreements came up, we dealt with them pretty well. I think she's worth it, but now that she's gone away, she prolly has better things around her, and when she comes back, it'll be too late. |
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the trick is that if we disagree, in this case about how to work out a long distance relationship, she doesn't like to compromise. If I want to say I love her everday, and she wants more space, there is no in between. that's hard for me, but I'll give into her a bit, but if we meet in the middle, she feels like we both gave up on our morals as opposed to compromising lovingly. |
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hey man, I know exactly what you're going through... I panic just like you, and I freak out over every little thing... but all you can do is try and relaxe, and think positive thoughts... and if she does tell you want you don't want to hear, man yes it sucks, but you just have to deal... give it some time, and maybe even try to be friends if possible... it wouldn't be the same obviously, but at least she'd still be in your life... just go about this the right way, and things will work out for the best man... we're all hoping it's good news, but if it happens to not be, we're here for ya mate... |
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Sounds like she's one of those girls with some sort of "agenda". Bad news. Dump her. |
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thanks mate I hope your right. but I mean, I did everything I could, my love was pure. where do I go from here if this falls through becuase I was who I was? |
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damnit, I'm going come over there. she is a sweetheart. she is my girl. I just want her, nothing more or less. I'd be happy with her and a job. |
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fuck this shit, I need hugs! |
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What is a girl? |
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apparently I know what one is, but I don't know how to make one love me back. :( |
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Hey hey hey.....don't rush to conclusions yet! *gives BlatantEcho a manly hug* |
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i know, but that's what I do. I went to a psychologist for this, and well, it's not helping right now.!! |
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GOOD LUCK MAN. i hope its not as shit as it "we need to talk" may sound, but if it is then at least it's in person (not via text like my last gf, bitch). You can be totally in love with someone for years and think that this is it, this is it forever, but when it goes wrong...... it isn't the end. Life goes on, just a lot bleaker, but you come out the other side eventually, i swear. I hope u dont have to go thru any shit tho, like i say, i hope all goes well. keep us posted |
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Things will probably be not half as bad as you imagine.....it is only normal that you think the worst. *also gives BlatantEcho a manly hug* |
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Play some BoC (Widlife Analysis on repeat), drink some alcohol and *try* to relax. If she DOES have bad news for you then you'll have plenty of time to panic after... |
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that makes it sound very bad, it might not be at all. |
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*manly hugs all round* |
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i hope you're right do all good things have to end? |
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Your avatar is too scary deepspace9mm |
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fingers are crossed man thank you for the "manly" hugs......:D |
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at what temperature is your breaking point? |
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BOC........I'm listening to angry rock, BOC might change that..... |
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Farenheit 451 |
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We all have differing opinions from time to time, but you must understand, we're all here for you whatever the outcome :) But don't worry mate....chill a little |
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i suppose even books have a breaking point! |
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not necessarily. like i say, it mite not be as bad as you're thinking, it might be a GOOD "need to talk", something like, shit, i dunno, moving in or summat. I know the waiting bit sucks. |
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I hope to god I get to come here and tell you all that we're working on things, and that she said she loves me as much as I love her. I think compassion, and the power to change for someone else are important in a relationship. I want to be her angel |
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i know it isn't that, it's just, well, I don't know I don't know anything, ANYTHING I'm so fragile when I worry. fuckfuck fuck |
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I boil at absolute zero |
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°C or °F? |
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