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Sure its harmless. If people want to do that shit that fine its a free world. |
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no it isn't. |
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yes it is. |
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it is a free world there are just many concequences , which i doubt i have spelt correctly. anon |
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why do you sign every post with "anon" ...I mean...we allready know it's you that posted that... :o, *not dissing, just curious* |
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its a habit,if you don't want me to do it then i wont on this thread. anon? |
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Nothing is free anymore... ...men nu mår jag bra. |
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Oh, forgot to sign... Joakim Lindén |
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no, no...do what you like ;) |
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thank you :D i guess it is annoying probably , but i guess its like when you send a text to someone , even tho it comes from your phone you would still write your name at the end.i do anyway. -A- |
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How utterly clueless you are... |
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Me? |
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there's no difference between s&m and taking drugs, it's just looking for a new high, reminds you your alive and can feel things 'normal' people are too afraid to experience |
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Yes.Agreed. :D -A- |
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No, 'twas a follow-up to Junktion |
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make sure you have a "safe word" |
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So it was :D like yellow , unless you get turned on by the word yellow and use it alot during sexual activities -A- |
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or oaklahoma lol ^_^ |
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<---CHOMP! |
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hehehe :D jackass :P -A- |
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those clothes hangers with squeezy clamps on can be used as makeshift nipple clamps, plus you can pull eachother around by the hook. |
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"People who dig S/M have past-memory problems caused by traumatic experiences " do you have an other stunning insights/ sweeping generalisations youd like to share with the rest of the class Dr Junktion? |
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So that's what they get upto in Swansea eh? Hehehehe |
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=op Actually I saw it on one of those 4am channel 5 programs |
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i cant believe some of the negative bullshit in this post..... when i was a kid i knew there was something different about me....and we're talking 5 or six here!!!! as i reached puberty, i realised that s+m was it, before it was just private feelings(?) because of negative bullshit (like some of the more immature comments i've read here), it BECAME a problem, which took a fuckin long time to get over. now i'm 30, and i'm comfortable with who i am. i met my girlfreind/mistress 2 years ago......we have the strngest relationship ever (not just because of the s+m!!!!). we regulaly go to fetish nights, and all we see are well ajusted, very happy people. go with your feelings, enjoy what you are, and rejoice in the fact you're not a boring, normal person. |
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You are normal! Your complaining for people saying your freaks/wrong/different , but then say your proud of not being normal... kaikai :s <-- not bitching btw just thought id point it out :D -A- |
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*pours hot caramel over your head and turns you into a candy apple* viva s+m! |
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trying to be different like everyone else is just like fitting in, you cant win |
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well said spacecadet :D -A- |
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Well said. Don't care either way, you always fall into some sort of sub-culture. Actively seeking to avoid being seen as part of a scene seems a bit redundant to me. Just look at nu-metal and goth teenagers... far more regimented than "normal people" in the way they dress, look and talk. |
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yeah, but i got scars..... i'm not bleating about people saying i'm a freak etc.....just saying that people who do not understand sometimes (accidently) say things that can be damaging......puberty is tough enough already!!!!! s+m in my opinion is not damaging, but repressed feelings are... |
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this is pretty funny.. "tips and tricks"??!? ..just ask her what she wants you to do beforehand and take it too far. |
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or don't.. that is |
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everyone needs a release for the feelings they cant express, be it thru physical pain or getting off your face or whatever, thats what people dont understand, it's kinda like therapy |
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thanks everyone that posted helpful, mature posts - i think i've got some good help here |
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I knew a girl who was really much into s&m. Her father was an alcoholic, she got raped twice, has had several eating disorders, and her uncle thought she might like incest. Don't tell me that it the past memorys or experiences arent to blame. And If you are into S&M yourself and think "hey, I have had no problems at all", your probly lying to yourself. There's something in people who like bizarre/tabu-sex that makes em do it, and It IS based on theyre experiences. |
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not my thing, but live and let die... live i mean |
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there's different levels i guess you cant compare spanking to nailing your nob to a plank of wood |
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the guy with the letters and numbers for a name is right you should see what she likes, but maybe come up with something and surprise her also you could try a popsicle, but thats not really s unt m |
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ive been avoiding this thread but the ages stated worry me this sort of thing will have an impact on your mind. i cant say how strongly for you personally.. what i can say is Dont do anything that you dont want to. |
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So your experience of one person means it's the same for everyone else with sadomasochistic tendencies? Of course things that have happened to you in the past influence your sexuality, but there are as many positive and negative influences on the BDSM leaning personality as on the more vanilla. I reject your assertion that your friend's experiences are 'to blame' for her present sexuality. You seem to be under the impression that S&M is a problem, some kind of mental illness. There is no 'blame'. |
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IMO (and that is only my oppinion - no discussion needed) all sexual fetishes, abnormal tendencies (I won't discuss what abnormal means either), wether it's gay or s/m, It's all mental illness. But it's not absolutely a bad thing. Look at it this way - people with tendencies that harm other (pedophiles, rapists etc.) also get turned on by a need they can't explain. That doesnt mean that sex from theyre point of view isn't beautiful, but we know that it's disgusting. We think that s/m, gays and fetish are ok, since it's something people can share with a partner of same tendencies. 100 years ago, this need wasn't there. For me it is a mental illness (and yes, I am ill myself), but it's not anything anyone ever can change. It's due to our influences through TV and Internet. I mean, I wouldn't be turned on by girls with strapons fucking other girls, If I hadn't seen it somewhere. Out lifestyles isn't healthy, but it's ok for me that you think sexual tendencies aren't mentally to blame, but review your own for a minute, and try to find the roots. I'll bet that if TV, porn, Internet, what somebody did to you in third grade etc. isn't reflecting your tendencies, It's because you buried it away. and on another note. This girl is not the only one i know with tendencies that are linked to past experiences. |
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Why do you seem to think I'm trying to bury my sexual influences? I'm not in denial about them. So I know why I like, say, dominant women. I don't see how knowing how that comes about changes anything. To say alt.sexual behaviour is mental illness is utter nonsense and, to be honest, very close to the mindset of those who think homosexuality is a disease. |
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no...homesexuality is not a disease, and I do not dislike gays. I'm just saying that it's a all linked to the world today - TV, Internet, Violence, you name it. doesnt matter dude, as long as people are ok with it, I mean...fuck it |
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I think your past has a strong influence but most of it is just the way your brain is. I mean I was into hentai before I knew it existed coz I'm just sick and fucked up. I never got raped by an anime character or anything, it's just how I am. |
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*lol* yeah...things can happen that way |
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