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this extremely sexy girl, a friend of mine who has a boyfriend, was far too touchy-feelly for me to resist and it was only inevitable that we would end up in some dangerously intimate situation. the problem is not just that she has a boyfriend, it's that i know that we could never make a couple and i really just want to be her friend, yet her attraction to me might be more serious than that. we didn't sleep together or anything, but i feel i've made a deeper connection than i should have, possibly giving her false ideas about what i desire in our relationship. i am feeling regret, but at the same time it didn't seem avoidable. it doesn't seem fair that i should be so sexually attracted to somebody i don't want a relationship with beyond friendship. maybe i'm making a bigger deal out of it than it is. i'm known to be extremely sensitive. i think i have to talk with her with a bit of seriousness before i sleep tonight (we live on the same floor in a dorm) but i'm not sure yet what i'll say. this may not be place for this post, but it's so convenient and relieving to tell these things to strangers in anonymity. |
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you may want more than you think out of the relationship. i don't think people realize how much other peoples looks really affect what they do. you might want to think over it alot and if you decide to get into something more than what it is now, don't do it until the boyfriend is gone. but if you want to be just friends you should let her know if things get to be more than that. well, that's my advice. i hope it's some help. |
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Id like to help but I am a stupid fumbler who always makes bad choices concerning women. |
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you might be right. when i am physically attracted to somebody i am emotionally attracted. there's no distinction. i feel that if i let myself, i could fall in love with anyone, which is why i'm hesitant to even think that i want a relationship with somebody who i share no common interests with. as much as i like this girl, we live very very different lifestyles and i have trouble imagining that she would ever understand me. there just seems to be no answer. |
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ok, this post was just silly. i went to talk with her and now everything is music. of course all i had to do was verbalize, which i have a history of avoiding. |
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NOOO NO NO NO NO NO NO! GET IT WHILE THE GETTINGS GOOD MY FRIEND hahaha, j/k dont listen to anything I say I am a fuck up |
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haha, the hormones do push me in that direction, but i have a enough decency to check point those sneaky bastards... even as sex deprived as i am. |
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I'll say it plain m8, if she has a boyfriend, it's off limits. You have to respect that, otherwise you'll end up with a heart broken by the same thing done to you.... :( |
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yes, totally off limits. the moment just sort fo crept into reality. there had always been an attraction, but i assumed i wouldn't let anything come of it. among a few reasons for stoping the situation in it's tracks, one was the thought of the other guy, who i think is the last person to deserve such. i'm no asshole, life is just sometimes very intoxicating, judgment imparing. |
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but for those very moments, you must keep your wits about you. really, times like those.......you just have to stop yourself....... live and learn eh? |
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truth |
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'respect no1' ...these words are really deep but few can understand what I mean when I say so |
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what DO you mean? I'm in suspense! |
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stab her in the eye. |
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THAT will make the inevitable less painful...... |
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i have no relationship advice because everything between me and my girlfriend goes pretty damn well. |
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except the sex..... |
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yes, but i can change that WITHOUT getting a job. i still need a job though. |
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Don't do anything while she's with the other guy. And by anything I include any little things which may jeopardise her current relationship (be that through making her want to dump the guy or by giving him cause to be overly paranoid/jealous - be this intentional or not). I've been there (in the position of the other guy) and believe me it hurts like fuck. |
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Listen to him. I have been cheated on and it permanently rewired my brain in a dark way. If she wants you she should have the courage to break up with the other guy. She can't have her cake and eat it as one or more of you will get hurt. |
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I haven't been cheated on as far as I know but this is definately something I worry about. My self esteem is kindof at an all time low (has been for some years now). I feel for you man that has to be the worst thing ever. I have no idea how I'd cope. Simple break-ups are bad enough - I become desocialised and dehumanised and generally a wreak and fail most of my courses. |
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im attracted by one of my best friends girlfriend but im not a human am a rabbit |
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I'd type what I went thru but the best way to sum it up is that it's simply not good and it takes a long long time to get over. I was a wreak and not fun to be around. If I punch someone in the face I go down. If someone does the same damage to your brain you have no comeback. It's like because it's not physical it can't be classed as damage. |
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Jeez this is something I really worry about because I'm overly emotional (normal emotion squared) and so anything small REALLY affects me so I dread to think... fuk Fuk FUK. Does it still significantly affect you today? |
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Fuck yeah. But you never know and worrying is the worse part so you can't do it until you prove it. The violence was one of the worst things as I don't trust myself in that state. You always find out tho, No possible way to hide those things something will always pop up and warn you. |
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Violence! Shit! I don't think I'd ever lay a finger on anyone in such a situation. The closest I ever came to that would be recently when my accute and unjustified paranoia wreaked a perfect weekend. So I went and slammed my fist into a fire door until it went purple (still is a bit) but that was more to damage myself and release pressure than anything else. Yes worrying is bad and generally causes you to see things that aren't there. Gaahhhh! Help! |
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I wanted to fuck up all involved with a knife in each of my paws but lucky for me I found whom my real friends where and who the fake ass free ride bitches where. I'm learning to cope with my paranoia slowly. I was running myself to high and I realized at the end of the day even with all my worrying that nothing would change so whats the use? You think of a potential problem so why role play all the bad scenarios in your mind over and over. Spot the problem, resister it and move on. Worrying is a bottomless pit and limitless. Worry about things that are there not things that could happen or you will be on all your lifetime. |
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Good friends share everything ;-) |
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