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Is it just me or do women attach too much importance to trivialities ? |
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you gotta help me... what's a triviality again? (language problem ;) ) |
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something relatively unimportant/inconsequencial/meaningless |
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might be important to them, i dont know, we're not all the same |
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Ah! I understand. And then blowing it out of proportion. I think some women have the feeling/need to prove their independency and show that they're equal to men. |
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what I do know is that for every person certain small things can mean a lot. But thats not only with women. Turn it around. Arent there some small things your girlfriend can do that piss you off enormously, TonyFish? |
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TonyFish, U just had an upset with a women then? |
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"And then blowing it out of proportion." Too fucking true. Yeah there are but I don't go and make a mountain out of a ant-hill as I'm aware that they're nothing but small things... |
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resolved. But it really pisses me off when she misunderstands something and continues to get mad after it's clear that it's nothing but a misunderstanding. grrr. |
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i like the little things, the little things are very important |
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sure but they should be put into perspective |
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One thing in a relationship is, in my opinion, very important: To forgive and forget. When you talked it over and everything is sorted out and forgiven. Just let it go, and forget about it. Unless you can have a laugh about it afterwards. I had a relationship with a girl and I had to hear shit over and over. When we had an argument about something else, shit from months ago that was forgiven and forgotten in my eyes, was brought back up. Especially when she was standing weak agains my arguments. I call that throwing shit at eachother. I learned a lot from my relation with her. Not only bad things, good things too. But sometimes people just care too fucking much about the other and things they say. If you love someone with your whole heart, just one tiny conflict can hurt enormously. Especially in periods of stress or even depression, people (women and men) tend to be easier ehm what's the word??? ... annoyed. |
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EXACTLY. You shouldn't live in the past constantly regurgitating old quarrels/differences in opinion. "If you love someone with your whole heart, just one tiny conflict can hurt enormously. Especially in periods of stress or even depression, people (women and men) tend to be easier ehm what's the word??? ... annoyed" BINGO. Ouch! :( |
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what do I win? |
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i do attach too much importance to trivialities as well... and i'm far too susceptible... |
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susceptible??? I will buy a dictionary this coming week! |
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i don't know if it's the right word to use in english ' _ ' means i get upset or hurt very easily, even when people are just kidding with me. |
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Ah I understand. Yeah nobody's perfect. But sometimes you have to. You just need to find a erasonable balance. And when you fail in that. you partner ought to understand that. mean a relationship is nothing static, you need to work on it both. And some things dont get sorted out. And you will have to learn to live with that. Can you imagine? "the perfect relation"? yuck! Boooooring! From time to time you need to have some conflicts. And making up with eachother is also nice ; ) |
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some, but so do some men |
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you're from france aren't you ? |
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borring indeed and making up is great XD However I'd rather have arguments about important issues that pointless misinterprations etc... |
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some people stick to the images of relationships tho, always doing what they THINK someone else thinks they should do.... like its not their decision, but its what they feel obligied to do (hard to explain) |
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Try to talk about it with her. |
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TonyFish > yes |
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"following the pattern" maybe? Like trying to get a relationship like they see around. But the thing is, you dont see what's goin on behind the scenes in other peoples' relationships. Is this what you mean? |
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Women are the devil, but guys are no better. Humans suck and should all be herded into rockets and fired into the sun. |
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ouais je m'en doutais ;) |
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I agree on that. When I look deep inside, I hate people. Just for what they are and do to eachother. And I am as guilty as anyone. But on the other hand, we're only human. Maybe just apes. Its instinct and sometimes I guess we want to be more civilized than we actually can be. |
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omg that's exactly what I was thinking the other day ! |
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i dont think this is a gender issue sounds like a communication breakdown and that happens so quickly should you become insensitive read between the lines, the little things often arent the entire issue |
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Women want to play childish immature games with your emotions. |
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all women are different...but most of them were brought up to act like a lady and that usually means they have to make an effort to clean things, wear certain clothes, etc. These things are usually of less importance to men. |
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No that's men :P |
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i have to disagree with everyone here. it's not a WOMAN or MAN problem. it's just a relationship problem, not gender specific. honestly why do men have to blame women and vice versa......haven't you figured out it goes BOTH ways. everyone has their own issues that they bring to the relationship table. you either learn to deal with them (on BOTH sides) or move on. it's irritating to see the ONE sided view here expressed by so many guys. perhaps thats why there is such a COMMUNICATION problem between the sexes. BE FAIR!!! |
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maybe we all just consider different things to be important? men and women should both remember that.. |
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eggactly aminal......WE each of us (men and women) have different ideas of whats important. it's so subjective (according to your own personality, etc) it's not a WOMAN or MAN thing.....just something that has to be dealt with, especially with the one you love. |
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my mam goes on about nitty grritty things. like the way i eat, my bad habbits, the way i walk and talk, the clothes i wear, the smell of my shoes, my hairr style this that and the otherr, where-as my dad, dont give a fuck because in the grrand scheme of things it don't matterr. |
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is it just me or do men trivialize the importance of attachment? |
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That's true- my mother certainly "fusses" more than my father. My Dad really doesn't give a toss about much at all. I think that's why we get on pretty well, neither of us hassle each other. When my dad has a word with me about something, I'm more inclined to listen as I know it's probably serious whereas my Mum talks to me about so many trivial things I just go into "autoreply" mode... Core: Yes, lots of men seem too although I've met my fair share of women who do too... |
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i am dippin my PB&J in chips.. that's all |
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ACK!! no more peanut butter!! DEATH TO THE PIXIES AND ALL THAT IS HOLY!! you will all pay for this! |
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