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I'm an extremely emotional person and sensitive. for the first time I really told this girl what i think of her, I was brutally honest and mean to her. she had taken the piss before and i felt she deserved it!! but i can't help feeling sorry for her now.. i wish i could be more cold and unemotional...but i can't and i feel like saying sorry, but that's a weak thing to do... damn this... |
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i'd say sorry when i feel to and accept to be an asshole sometimes, it's pretty normal. just try to get rid of the sense of fault. /psyco |
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every time i think about this my heart rate goes up and i get this feeling all over my body, in my chest and arms |
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hmmm |
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are you still likeing the classical girl ? i think she was in to classical music and played some instrument,and you wanted to make her to like electronic music i think. |
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yes, that's it!! she never respected electronic music and looked down at it |
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I am pacing around the room |
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bummer |
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i need some valium |
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LAAAAARN :O it's difficult to talk about serius matter via xlt. stop feeling sorry it doesn't work, or you're gonna take kicks in the ass until you kick rebellion out of it. |
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jest feck ye |
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LOL. |
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First step. Stop worrying about stupid things. You can damage control the situation. Talk to her and apologize and put it behind you. I always find that looking at things macroscopically helps; in the greater scheme of things whether or not you and her are friends isn't going to affect the world in the slightest. Why does it matter to you what she thinks of electronic music anyway? The fact that not everyone is going to like it is part of what makes the music special. |
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I think I have gone too far this time, i really said some bad things which i don't think she can forgive me for, i will have to say im sorry anyway. your right tax, but i think people should give new music a chance before making quick judgements |
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still have a cocomber to stick up yer ass man ! See the bright side of life ! |
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I know this isn't the best place to come, i guess i just wanted to get it out in the open... anywhere.. how do you stop intrusive thoughts? |
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i won't do that unless i see scientific proof that it works |
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The fact that creating a symphony is not something many people can do right now, especially not an emotional one, tells us a little about the difficulty of creating classical music the right way. That said though, there's plenty of emotional electronic music, where the focus isn't at all on complexity (although can be) or even emotion. The world of music is actually so vast and totally subjective, but also objective in the sense that you should be open to any type of sound. Who said a simple drone that took 20 mins to make can't be extremely good? Cuz it can be.. It all depends on a bunch of things.. Just tell her some of this or whatever, or even tell her that you feel emotional about some electronic music, and it really pains you when she talks crap about it without giving it a chance. |
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by telling her exactly what you thought of her, do you mean you told her that you thought she was a dickhead? What are these mean things you said to her? Why do so many people think that apologising is a sign of weakness? To me it is the difference between someone having made a mistake, and someone being a dick. If someone does something to upset me and then apologises, I will forgive them. If they never acknowledge what they have done then I won't. It makes it even worse if I think that they don't even realise that they've done something wrong. You should tell her exactly why you said what you did, and that you are really sorry for doing it, and that you hope she can forgive you. Don't be too whingey and desperate though. The only way to stop intrusive thoughts is to do something about the situation; in this case apologising. |
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you're a selfish arrogant and blind woman. You do not deserve my friendship on any level, I have more important things to be thinking about now. I have been nice for too long, I can see exactly who you are and what is revealed is very unattractive to me, you have no depth of understanding about people and life. You are like a child in an adult body, someone who never got to know herself, the reasons are unclear, but I know that you will never find happiness or real love in this life time. I tried to help you, but it's too late for that now... Luan |
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that's the message i sent |
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and by the way, i am not self projecting in anyway, she really is like that |
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was she rude and mean and stuff? |
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i mean are you angry at her for a good reason ? or is it just because she dont like electronic music ? |
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that's exactly what I was going to ask. I really hope that she has done something to justify you sending that, not just disagreeing with you about electronic music. Either way if you actually believe that she's like that and deserved what you said to her, why are you feeling so guilty about it? Why do you regret what you said? Is it because it was unduly harsh/because you actually really like her? |
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hahaha it's complicated... i got feelings for her and she didn't want to know, even though we got so close and went on holidays together. i wanted to kiss her and be closer. but she didn't see me like that. so she broke my heart. but then she meets someone a little while after... i had tried to get her out of my mind then i get a message from her.... basicaly she sometimes needs help with her english. and she asked me what her boy friends text meant. and from the text i gather that she falls in love with this guy so quickly and easily....it made me feel sick this make me SO ANGRY |
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ok so basically you want to be with her, but she's not interested. That made you angry so you sent her a horrible message and now you feel guilty? Do you actually agree with what you said or do you think it was unfair and wished you'd not said it? |
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she is from taiwan.... maybe things are different culturally in regards to love and friendship....but taking me on romantic holidays and shit, damn it |
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I think I went too far, but it's mostly true however i should not really tell her those things in spite of how she made me feel |
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maybe you were reading too much into it. If she has never even kissed you and she told you she didn't see you like that, then I think it was you misreading the signals. You getting angry with her was like acting like an angry little kid who got in a strop because he didn't get his own way. It's quite funny that you told her it was her who was acting like a child, when it's you who flew off the handle when in a rage and was really fucking horrible without thinking through the consequences. And now you're regretting it. |
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No you shouldn't have. You should've just stopped all contact and if she asked you why, you should have told her calmly that you wanted to be with her, but knew you couldn't and the only way you could deal with it was by not being in touch with her. You could have explained that you understand you could have misread the signals, but that you felt like she lead you on and made you feel like you had a chance with her when you didn't. That would have told her how you felt, without coming across as an uncaring, arrogant shit, and making you regret it later. I don't think you're too emotional, I think you just need to calm down and think things through before acting impulsively. |
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Svalx you have no idea about who I am or who she is. she has played games with me and has no care about how i feel at all. she has done allot of wrong to me, and it's really not fair how she treated me before. So don't get too involved. I am not arrogant. if you met me you would see I am the most gentle caring guy you probably will ever meet. so that just goes to show how not to judge people so quickly that you don't know. I can only be pushed so far before I loose my temper. loosing your temper is not being a child, it is having an overload of emotions which causes a reaction. everyone has a limit of how much they can take....i build things up over time because i am a very calm and nice person Now you are trying to cause a reaction in me, but it doesn't work because i have no idea who you are :P |
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but your comments are noted and you have given me some things to think about thank you |
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hehe yeah I was trying to get a reaction out of you. I was trying to see what you actually thought about the situation. From your last post you seem to feel completely justified in what you'd sent to her, so why are you feeling guilty and having invasive thoughts about what you said to her? Why did you feel the need to talk it through with anyone if you think that you did the right thing and that your reaction to how she treated you was justified? |
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because I can't help feeling sorry for people. even if they are bad and deserve it, i regret saying it and feel empathy. the reasons for this go pretty deep. but i am willing to explain more |
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actually i feel ambarrest for once on xlt |
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IF A SITUATION STINKS GET THE FUCK OUT |
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is it cos you spelt embarrassed wrong? |
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love problems aint easy |
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haha yeah, i spelt it wrong >_< I wish i could exchange my heart for a artificial one which has a sensitivity wheel |
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i think i need to see a doctor, because my problems are not just this girl. my waffle business failed also >_< I think i need medication or help somehow. I have been alone for too long and i am loosing it... help me monoid |
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I am going bankrupt |
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ffs larn, you're doing it all wrong. explains the proper seduction technique needed to woe your import from taiwan. |
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that was lol, it's ok anyway I have a new import from south china, hehe. i like asian girls |
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me and my ex-asian g/f she was the soul of the sea |
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cool |
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watch some House |
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yup |
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