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ok guys, im not in a good way here. just split from my wife. been stayin at a mates place tryin to give her some room, but i think its over. FUCK!!!!!! my whole life was planned around us being together. weve got a beautiful daughter. i just dont know what im gonna do. no one i can really talk to about this either. i meen she's my best friend, and well, where not getting allong the best at the moment. just wanted to share my thoughts. just thinkin out loud really. its been coming for a while, and ive just been pretending it couldnt happen. what do i do?????????????????????????? |
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strip bars! but seriously, i dont know what the details on the split up are, so i dunno what to tell ya. same shit is happenin wit my mom and step dad. |
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talk to her and ask whats wrong if you dont already know. and go from there. marriage is a two way thing and you both have to work together. |
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man, im really sorry to hear that for both of you guys =*( hep: I wish you the best of luck man, if she truly is your best friend than I guess you should just keep tryin to talk to her, maybe things will get better. |
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Sorry to hear that dude. It's pretty tough to give advice to a stranger when you don't really know the details of the break-up. (Not that I'm saying you should be sharing them.) All I can say is that with time things will get better. Slowly the pain will decrease and you'll start to think clearly again. Just don't do anything rash in the meantime. |
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I think Communication is a really big thing in any relationship, I think you should tell her how you feel and if she still wants to back down at least you told her how you feel....maybe it would open her eyes, you never know. |
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hepburnenthorpe ok, its ok, stay calm, what did ya do wrong? what did she do? (dont get to specific please) you have been married a long time correct? we have been married 2 years, this year has been a doozie. communication, ask her what it is that you need to do to make it work. if you need to stay of the internet at home, blah blah blha whatever it is. im gueesing you have a WONDERFUL wife and a beautiful kid (daughter im thinking?) if you need to go see some counciling, we will (me and the wife) we are the best couple in the world, but we still have issues with things. thats all i can say to ya my friend. dont party with your firends, get drunk or go to the titty bars you are a husband and a father, act like one ok? (not saying you went to the bars or whatever) just talk to her on the phone, preferably in person and drain out your heart to her. listen to her and have her listen to where you are coming from you are a great dude (havent gotten my cd yet :0(......:0)....) and im sure that you 2 are perfect for each other, so make it work !!!!! much much much luck my friend thad smoyer |
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wow.... im really sorry to hear, that... none of us really understand ur situation... but the least i can say is just talk to her when people get upset they tend to (obviously) not talk and then nothing gets sorted out! what happened? (if ur ok w/ talking about it?) |
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if you or her cheated, just leave it at that. is it a drug thing? is one of you on the stupid fucking internet to long? are you spending to much time making music instead of playing with the kid and wife ? (there is no time for jokes here so i wont) |
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im goin home tommorow. were still talking ans stuff, i just needed to cool down a while. weve been married, well two years in oct. together 7 years before that. the whole thing is she just wants independance. she feels like weve been together her whole life. she's only 24. feels like she wants to experience stuff. im like, she should have thought about that earlier. even if we split up, she has a daughter who is dependant on her. hell, Maiya needs her mum, so do i damn it. all you guys have been most kind. im not really after advise, just getting things off my chest. it is most helpfull. im not gonna let it get me down. im sure this will pass. we comunicate well, so im sure well work it out. |
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Hey All the best with this. Things will work out for the best in the end - you'll both make sure of it. I'm sure it's just a passing phase. Work together! |
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give both of you plenty of space, find an activity babysit the kid and let her go on a short trip with her mom or friends ****yes she should have thought about that before the child**** ****but make some suggestions, her going on a trip is better than breaking up, then the custody thing*** communicate communicate communicate your friend, thad |
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well thats good to hear all the best to u two..... i hope things work out |
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hmm.. know i haven't been here for the longest... but really... if u communicate well, then leave it at that... meaning, if it's really the two of u, then it just a crisis -and you'll have plenty more.... trusting is when it all seems hopeless and u still carry on..... only because of.... that thing that's so hard to name.... -but if u really love her u know what i mean.... give her some time to come to her senses, and don't be to hard in the meentime.... in the end it's your childs health that's at stakes -not yours or your wifes.... and she knows that... -every mom wants too see her child at its best, so she'll be back... give her time to bitch.... its hard to grow up... give her some time... the best wishes for the both of u... *hugz* |
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yeah, you really shouldn't give up on some one you care about so deeply, especially if you've brought a child into the world. thad brings up several good points. and yeah. good luck, man, i hope you end up happy. |
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god I love you girl....and i'm glad I gave you a ring on your finger yesterday... :-* |
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TIME TIME TIME!!! Just give each other time and stay apart from each other for a while and no matter what you'll both inevitably get over it IF YOU TWO REALLY DO LOVE EACH OTHER. |
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yeah *lol* -so am i... even thoug i think you're a stupid fuck right now!!! - i hate thunder... no need for u to be a bitch!!! *hrmf* -come gimme some luuuuv baby!!!! |
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hepburnenthorpe how are things? |
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hepburn: I'm not gonna give advice for the whole situation because I don't know all the details of it, but I will wish you good luck in trying to work it out. |
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things are kinda ok. i went home this morning (weds) after being away since sunday, and yeah, we had a big chat. im going to melbourne this weekend fri-tues, just for a break. but then when i get back, ive got like two weeks holidays, so im gonna try and organise atleast a weekend away with Belle. i think its more to do with the presures of being a mum, rather than a wife. but even this is looking up. Belle has enrolled in a remedial massage course. so Maiya (our daughter) will be at school 5 days instead of two. i think Belle getting out and doing something for herself will help allot + it will be good for Maiya to play with more kids. im gonna drop her off in the mornings, and Belle will pick her up on the way home from the course. all will be well i think. i thank everyone for there support. this all sorta started about a month ago, just didnt say anything for a while. hence, you havent got your cd yet (thad) i'll get that to ya when i get time mate. been real busy. thanks |
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make sure she tells you everything, and tell her a few of your issues too. All relationships go through shit like this and it sux but it's just one of those things. If you two do talk to each other then that's good, cause the worst thing is not knowing, and don't let your mind race cause all the shit situations you think of are probably a load of crap. I've been in a similar situation myself and it totally demolished me, but you do come out a better person for it. It will make you/her realise exactly how much you love each other, and what kind of love it is. Just cause it sux it not necessarily a bad thing, and if you two sort it out it will probably make the relationship stronger. Don't worry man, it'll be cool no matter what the outcome is =oD xxx |
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oh yeah, didnt mention. im gonna be looking for a new job too. ive been working permanant night shift for the past year, 11pm-7am sun night - friday morn. this has made things real difficult aswell. i meen im not there of a night so....well. yeah, so im gonna try get a day position. ive spoken to a few people at work, and they might be able to help me out, but ive allready told them, if i cant get a day position soon, im gonna leave. |
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hepburnenthorpe dont worry a bit about the cd, take care of your family !!! best wishes thad |
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Working nights. Ah that can suck man. Good luck. |
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Apt_Zet--be nice !! |
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"We were walking holding hands with our bare feet in the sand and the sea gulls overhead when i broke the spell and said i could never divorce you without a good reason and though i may never have to it's good to have options but for now i need you but it was only in my head because no one ever says what the really mean to say when there's so much at stake so i told her i loved her and she told me she loved me and i mostly believed her and she mostly believed me" - pedro the lion Tell her the truth, exactly. you dont wanna push problems aside by telling each other lies. because those little problems will come back time and time again. take care of the smaller things and then step back and look at the big picture. kinda vague but you can find your own meaning i guess. |
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hepburnenthorpe keep us updated with good news my friend. |
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